Who has the best say?

It is said who is going through the bad situation knows best what to do as supposed to others who put thier POV's based on the situation.

Debate - Person going through a difficult situation in life has the best say how to handle it or a person who has been through it OR looking from a third angle has a better say on how to handle the situation?

Originally posted by: raj5000

It is said who is going through the bad situation knows best what to do as supposed to others who put thier POV's based on the situation.

Debate - Person going through a difficult situation in life has the best say how to handle it or a person who has been through it OR looking from a third angle has a better say on how to handle the situation?

Raj, this is one of the best posts of yours till date on DM. There were some which I overlooked😳. Now coming to your 3 options, it would matter from person to person. To simplify what I intend to say here let me take the example of Bone Marrow transplant case 😛 we discussed in another thread started by me.

1. In the particular case the person going through it would choose to heed to doctor's suggestion of trying to have another baby for the sake of first one because now the top priority for them is first child.

2. The parents who succeeded in it would rave about their alternative whereas the parents who couldn't find match in the newborn would give mixed opinion.

3. The third case comprises of people who have never been in such situations so it is easy for them to analyse this particular situation from all angles. But even here we will get different perspectives depending on individuals and who is to say who/what is right or immoral.

The bottomline is all of us provide different perspectives to a situation but the end result defers from person to person.

As usual a very profound post Anshu..You have literally monopolized the thread posting of DM..Good going.. 👏

To the topic:

Most often than not, the people stuck in the situation are so crammed up with the negativities of it and get blind folded to the solution..They get into a loop of self pity and what not and end up going opposite way to where the solution lies..That will only make their journey backwards, that much difficult Vs a mentor guiding you,who is outside the situation,but has a vested interest in getting you out of that situation...

Originally posted by: Maya_M

Raj, this is one of the best posts of yours till date on DM. There were some which I overlooked😳. Now coming to your 3 options, it would matter from person to person. To simplify what I intend to say here let me take the example of Bone Marrow transplant case 😛 we discussed in another thread started by me.

1. In the particular case the person going through it would choose to heed to doctor's suggestion of trying to have another baby for the sake of first one because now the top priority for them is first child.

2. The parents who succeeded in it would rave about their alternative whereas the parents who couldn't find match in the newborn would give mixed opinion.

3. The third case comprises of people who have never been in such situations so it is easy for them to analyse this particular situation from all angles. But even here we will get different perspectives depending on individuals and who is to say who/what is right or immoral.

The bottomline is all of us provide different perspectives to a situation but the end result defers from person to person.

Maya, what are you talking about???Where did he mention its about having a baby etc???Am I missing something here??? 🤔

Originally posted by: raksha.l

Maya, what are you talking about???Where did he mention its about having a baby etc???Am I missing something here??? 🤔

Raksha, Please read my entire post before getting confused. It was an example to simplify what I intend to say and the last line was my conclusion.

Originally posted by: Maya_M

Raksha, Please read my entire post. It was an example to simplify what I intend to say and the last line was my conclusion.

Gotcha.. 😳

Reserving this spot...

Thanks Maya and Raksha am 😳, well would respond definately but tomorrow.. ZZing for now... Take care..

Originally posted by: raj5000

It is said who is going through the bad situation knows best what to do as supposed to others who put thier POV's based on the situation.

Debate - Person going through a difficult situation in life has the best say how to handle it or a person who has been through it OR looking from a third angle has a better say on how to handle the situation?

1) Affected person: One's needs, strengths and weaknesses are best known to him/her. If s/he can keep a level head and is able to analyse the situation objectively, then s/he can come up with the best strategy suited to him/her.

2) Experienced person: Opinions of persons who've already experienced similar problem and came out of it, definitely counts. However, one should be able to judge how much to follow in those advises.

3) Third party: Sometimes they do bring refreshingly new ideas, but the condition is they should have a fair idea of the problem in the first place. Building on their idea should be one's own responsibility, for that one can't depend on the outsider.

Originally posted by: souro

<FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif" color=#990099 size=4>1) Affected person: One's needs, strengths and weaknesses are best known to him/her. If s/he can keep a level head and is able to analyse the situation objectively, then s/he can come up with the best strategy suited to him/her.

<FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif" color=#990099 size=4>2) Experienced person: Opinions of persons who've already experienced similar problem and came out of it, definitely counts. However, one should be able to judge how much to follow in those advises.

<FONT face="Times New Roman, Times, serif" color=#990099 size=4>3) Third party: Sometimes they do bring refreshingly new ideas, but the condition is they should have a fair idea of the problem in the first place. Building on their idea should be one's own responsibility, for that one can't depend on the outsider.

So what's your conclusion???

Originally posted by: raksha.l

So what's your conclusion???

The ultimate decision rests on the affected person, but he can certainly take help from others to compare all the available options/ideas.