the show has always presented parallelisms; in this particular case the way lajjo's parents reacted when she broke of her first alliance, and in this case nikhil's parents when nikhil did not go through with the engagement. basically, the show is trying to define what marriage really is supposed to be. marriage is really between the two people who are getting married, and marriage should be between two people who, with full consent, enter the marriage.
the problem with parents, and society (the village, and the city), is that marriage takes a more social term. it becomes more about the honor of the family. not that lajjo and nikhil did anything dishonorable. quite the opposite. lajjo, in putting the garland on the scooter, was saying that in the marriage, the person is more important than the dowry. in nikhil's case, it is not so much his indecisiveness that is the matter. in fact, he cannot be called indecisive, because he was not the one who decided on the engagement in the first place. it was barkha and nani, and inder (being the weak inder that he is) just went along with his wife's decision. but their reasons are totally wrong. they wanted nikhil to get engaged to ishana because, in truth and in fact, they don't want any possibility of lajjo coming back into their lives. their spiel about thinking of ishana is totally BS, if you ask me. remember, it was barkha and nani who also decided to get ayesha married earlier, and that didn't turn out well. (look into the parallelism of the stories of lajjo and ayesha, and how, in ending their alliance, they ended up studying).
as for ishana, i can understand the shame. but that was not the first, nor the last, time that such humiliation would happen. in fact, in real life it happens. just a side note:
when i got married in a Catholic Church (i'm catholic), we had to go through pre-wedding seminars. one interesting thing that we were told is that the doors of the church remain open when the mass is being held. that's because the are giving either the bride, or the groom, or both, the opportunity to run away (no kidding) if at the last minute they are not sure if they want to get married in the first place. i know that sounds harsh, and families would get shamed, but the thing is, entering into a church marriage involves a covenant with God, and it is unbreakable. better to suffer shame in the short term, rather than suffer an unhappy marriage with a reluctant spouse down the road, resulting in the breaking of the covenant with God, which is worse.
as for the story... serves barkha right. inder... he should really start thinking for himself. he is right about himself, though. he is weak
PS: also want to add this about ishana's mom. remember that she herself arranged for ishana's engagement to kunal without ishana's full consent. of course, ishana agreed because she thought it might get nikhil jealous. but still, ishana's mom did the same thing that barkha did, and both of them suffered embarrassment because their respective children had other plans.
and as for ishana, with the way she used everybody to get nikhil, she deserves what she gets.
Edited by Aginaya69 - 11 years ago
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