Originally posted by: reeps
"Everything happens for a reason."
Your response to the above?
Yes.. everything happens for a reason... but sometimes at a given point of time, we may not see it that way but later on when we think about it, we realise that this happen cos of that reason and for that purpose.
Why is it easier to scapegoat others? look for somebody to blame instead of accepting a mistake was made? What do you do when no party was really at "fault"?
To blame others is easy way out but to take the resposibility for the wrong done by oneself takes a lot of courage. May be lot of ppl lack courage so they make others scapegaot.
When no one is at fault, well we should just accept that the fault has been done for some reason or the other and if possible make it right and make sure that no such wrong is done again in the future.
We grow the most thru the darkest, and most painful times.Why do we all value happiness, and peace of mind more when hardship is where we learn the most important lessons of life?
When we face difficulities, there is no other way left to us then to face them ahead on. We have to confront those problems we are facing and unless and until we find solutions to solve our troubles, we will always be going through the painful times, which we as humans dont want to endure for long and hence we grow and fight the odds and try and come out of our difficulities.
One can find happiness and peace of mind during and after many hardships because we didnt get that on easy platter but through sheer hardwork and determination we have achieve it and in that also there is peace of mind and happiness.
How do you let go of resentment, and be freed of mental rut if somebody hurts you or breaks your trust? Does putting yourself in others' shoes help? Does that make you the guilty one? OR it's okay to accept responsibility for things gone wrong?
Sometimes putting oneself in the other person's shoes help but not always. It is very difficult to let go of resentment, it depends upon situation to situation and individual to individual.
If putting myself in someone else shoes and assessing the situation, then if I find I am at fault then yes, I am the guilty one.
Should always think about the happening from all angles and assess the proceedings as to what happen and why did it happen and if one is wrong then one should accept the fault and try and rectify it.
Is it okay to love/like the person who has hurt you anyways?
It depends upon the individual.
How shall one go about making things all right? Ask for forgiveness or say sorry for hurting the person?
If we have said wrong, hurtful things to a person then we should go to him/her and apologise sincerely.
even when the person has said a lot of mean and uncalled things to you? ESP. when the other person feels no regret or seems to not care or doesn't feel the kinship/friendship you felt/feel for the person?
If the other person has hurt me badly and even after confronting the situation with that person there is no regret in that person then there is no point in continuing the relationship because you s/he cannot understand and respect my feelings. But then again it depends upon the relationship for eg. if a friend or neighbour hurts us badly we can confront her/him but if no sign of remorse then we can back off. But if one of the close family members do it then we have to assess the situation and if possible lessen the frequency of contact with them.
Please do not steer away from the topic without replying; I know it is not going to start a fight between Adam and Eve, but give it a try for my sake.☺️
Persy
