HR + SR possible reunion - leads to debatable issue

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Posted: 11 years ago
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For a lack of a better title...😆



So recently I just read someone's topic post that mentioned that Hrithik Roshan & Sussane may patch up again. And it is rumored that the initial cause for their split up was because S didn't want to live with H's parents while H wanted to stay with his parents. Don't know what the truth is, but if this is by any chance true that leads to a very debatable question: Should you leave your parents for the sake of your wife/children (lack of better words)?


Parents are who define you as a person. You are who you are because of your parents. They are the sole reason you live. They do so much for you from teaching you how to walk/talk to sometimes even paying for your college tuition. Basically they are the ONLY people who will give your all your necessities in your life...even some of your biggest wants: phone, car, etc. Point is they are your support. They are the only people who will be there for you when everyone else leaves your side. So then what makes it ethically right for the kids when they grow up to send them away OR have them live on their own? I'm someone who is against that. I've learned in the recent few months having lost two aunts (mom's sisters) that life is indeed very short. You just never know when you will breath for the last day. It's unbelievable the things that can happen just out of the blue. I have a younger sister other than me and I've made it a point that my parents will always be with one of us...when both of us get married they will live with one of us. And I'll make that clear to whoever my hubby will be. I've seen and known a lot of people who send their parents off to a nursery home simply for the fact that they don't want them to be a burden on them or they don't want to take care of them.


Relating back to Bollywood, if this initial split up was due to the reason it is said to be then it's just a very sad fact. Hrithik has every right to be with his parents. He is the family's only son. Girls when they get married go away to their husband's house. No one knows the internal issues of the Roshan family, but I find it very selfish of Sussane to want to move out and live on their own. Maybe its just me who thinks that way. You can still get your privacy living with your parents. Most parents are knowledgeable and know when to draw the edge. You can always have your own family time by going on vacations, trips, holidays, etc. But to break up after a 17 year relationship just for that one little factor is just plain stupid.



If they do reunite once again I'll be happy to see the happy Hrithik again, but I'll be sad for the fact that he just sacrificed staying with his parents for his wife's demands. I hope that's not the initial reason of their split.



Anyways my question to you guys is who's right? Who's wrong? Should your let your parents live on their own after marriage? Better phrased should you move out of your parents house after marriage? The answer is different for girls as they have to move in with their husband unless the hubby is a ghar jamai. 😆 For a family of only sisters, would you prefer that your parents be with one of you throughout their lifetime or would you let them live on their own? For guys would you stay with your parents or move out? I know that in today's society hardly anyone stays with their parents. Everyone likes to move out and be independent. But still I ask these questions as it brings up a big debate.

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Posted: 11 years ago
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oh please parents have no right to invade their married chidlren's lives and cause tension between them and their spouses. They need to know their boundaries and stick to themselves, Yes fine they bring you into this world, and provide for you while growing up but that's that. Wanting to lead a separate life in your own home, without intervening/invading parents is every married 'child's' right, that doesn't make someone less of a son/daughter or a bad one.

Once you get married you start your own family and your priorities shift, whatever you decide and the rules you set up should be between you and your spouse without a third party interfering.
You live according to the rules you decide upon with your SPOUSE. And it's not the parents right to chose what's right or wrong for you and your spouse.

BOUNDARIES are necessary, you can by close knit, care for your parents and love them WITHOUT having to live with them when you are married and have already started your own family.
Edited by AkaiShuichiGirl - 11 years ago
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Posted: 11 years ago
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who knows what the real reason is. i think if its a choice between divorce or moving out from the parents then you should move. if there is some problems between u and ur inlaws its only gonna get worse if ur constantly with them. it wuld be better if u lived apart so everyone can be happy and there can still be great relations between everyone rather than being miserable in the same house. to me it seems like this is not a big enough reason to get divorced.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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also in this case, it seems like Sussanne adapted a lot ever since she married Hrithik. Hrithik comes with a huge baggage of nagging parents, and grandparents all of them from a different era and and different cultural background than Sussanne's.

And over the years she has adapted a lot and except for her snorting coke has lived accordingly to theirs.
I don't know how much any of you know about Sussanne's initial struggles in the Roshan household to learn whatever customs and rituals they practice, but as a big fan I have read a lot of interviews, in one of their old interviews, Hrithik's mother and Sussanne speak about how Pinky (his mom) had to teach her some rituals during their first year of marriage, and how she'd get irritated by Sussanne's lack of knowledge of those things, but understood that it was due to her upbringing. In that interview Sussanne also said how absorbed everything and learned it, and made the preparations for said ritual the following year herself to surprise her mother in law.

It's such a mundane thing but it just stuck out to me, I read the interview back in 2010, but it's originally from 2004 or 2005, It should be on Hrithikrules.com .

Even that HR thing, can you believe that both yer children, that grew in her womb for 10 months, HAVE TO HAVE names started with an R and an additional silent H infront? What kind of f**kery is this? Seriously! Now, that first born his name is Hrehaan, like W*F?! So Sussanne liked the name Rehan, which is a nice name, but no the child couldn't be named that, so they came with a different spelling calling the child HRehAAn?!🤢

Or the second child's name, what about compromising? One starting with an Hr and the other with an S?! No, son's have to have Hrithik's handicapped silent H and start with R. So Hrithik comes up with a made up name of two words, creating some kind of fusion shit between the hindi words of 'Hridhay=heart' and ''Daan =to give' and comes up with 'HRidhan '

What kind of shit is that?! Who the f**k is on drugs?! The superstitious Roshan parivaar who hails from a remote village called Gurjanwala Punjab British India, or coke snorting Sussy, who hails from an upper class, modern civilized family? 🤢
Edited by AkaiShuichiGirl - 11 years ago
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Posted: 11 years ago
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[quote]And it is rumored that the initial cause for their split up was because S didn't want to live with H's parents while H wanted to stay with his parents.[/quote]

lol.


Anyways, I wouldn't let my parents live with me if I didn't want them too. It's my choice, it's my life. By that time, I'd be an adult and I can make decisions for myself along with my husband. It's not like your parents own you like a dog for the rest of your life and you have to listen to their every command.

Like parents say, "My house, my rules." Well, by that time I'd have my own house and my own rules. As long as the respective spouse agrees with your decision, it seems completely fine to me.


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Posted: 11 years ago
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i don't believe this story i think the reason is something else hrithik himself said that he won't move out of his home
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Posted: 11 years ago
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^ oh yeah, why wuld he move out of his house then
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Fair enough points made. I guess I see at a whole another level.


I also do not believe this was the reason for the split up. I'm just going by what's been rumored.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Neither set of parents should be allowed to burden a married child's life. Children can still love their parents and care for them while living in a different house. It doesn't mean you're leaving them just because you don't live in the same home.

I think Suzanne tried her best if she lived with them all these years. If she can't take it anymore, she has every right to live alone with her husband and children. Most of the time, women are treated poorly in joint families and expected to adjust and sacrifice constantly while the guy is protected and spoiled by his family.

It's a very patriarchal and chauvinist practice and if women want equality, the first thing that needs to disappear is joint families.
Edited by anonymous39 - 11 years ago
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Posted: 11 years ago
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U cannot generalize this situation...every situation has to be looked upon individually because the circumstances may be entirely different...

Scenario 1...something like the Hritik's family of AB Sr. family...Parents are rich...can look after themselves...don't depend on their kids for anything...and if in that case there is a friction between my spouse and my parents so much that I have to move out to save my marriage..i would move out but make sure that my parents are taken care of both physically and EMOTIONALLY..

Scenario 2...The parents are totally dependant on me...no money...their whole life spent in raising me...and if I don't live with them..take care of them they will end up on the road...then in that case ..HELL YEAH...I am going to stay with my parents and taking care of them...If in such case my bitch of a spouse doesn't get how important it is for me not leave my parents...then I guarantee you that ...that bitch would run away when I am old and secondly...my kids will be watching me...and will do the same thing to me..God forbid if I end in the same situation...

And here I am talking just as a person..gender neutral...and it doesn't matter whose parents they are husbands or wife's...they deserve the care of their kids..

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