HR + SR possible reunion - leads to debatable issue

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Mistyy

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Posted: 11 years ago

#11

Originally posted by: anonymous39
Neither set of parents should be allowed to burden a married child's life. Children can still love their parents and care for them while living in a different house. It doesn't mean you're leaving them just because you don't live in the same home.

I think Suzanne tried her best if she lived with them all these years. If she can't take it anymore, she has every right to live alone with her husband and children. Most of the time, women are treated poorly in joint families and expected to adjust and sacrifice constantly while the guy is protected and spoiled by his family.

It's a very patriarchal and chauvinist practice and if women want equality, the first thing that needs to disappear is joint families.

couldnt agree more.

There is no such thing that the only way to love your parents is to live with them. Most important thing is to take care of them when they need it. And Suzzane lived with them all these years, so obviously she tried. If she cant take it any more then it's truly a sad situation. Not everyone can get along and live together happily ever after. Personalities are different , they clash and causes more drifts. Sometimes it's better to live apart and get along better than to live together.

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Kulfii.

@Kulfii.

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Posted: 11 years ago

#12

Originally posted by: blue-ice
U cannot generalize this situation...every situation has to be looked upon individually because the circumstances may be entirely different...

Scenario 1...something like the Hritik's family of AB Sr. family...Parents are rich...can look after themselves...don't depend on their kids for anything...and if in that case there is a friction between my spouse and my parents so much that I have to move out to save my marriage..i would move out but make sure that my parents are taken care of both physically and EMOTIONALLY..

Scenario 2...The parents are totally dependant on me...no money...their whole life spent in raising me...and if I don't live with them..take care of them they will end up on the road...then in that case ..HELL YEAH...I am going to stay with my parents and taking care of them...If in such case my bitch of a spouse doesn't get how important it is for me not leave my parents...then I guarantee you that ...that bitch would run away when I am old and secondly...my kids will be watching me...and will do the same thing to me..God forbid if I end in the same situation...

And here I am talking just as a person..gender neutral...and it doesn't matter whose parents they are husbands or wife's...they deserve the care of their kids..

Fully agree. I more thing I would like to add is even if parents have some money but a stage comes when physically they would find it difficult to manage even day to day chores due to diseases or old age. Sometimes if one of the parent dies(god forbid) then the other one will need the children or grand children in the time of loneliness...ok,they can try to make friends or get on with their life but old age is long & ppl don't remain that fit. In Hindi as they say Jawani chaar din ki hoti hai par budhapa bohot lamba.

Edited by SG200 - 11 years ago

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shamil

@shamil

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+ 5

Posted: 11 years ago

#13

When parents grow old , they need more than ur monetary support. As SG200 pointed out there may be times when they need ur moral as well as physical support as they grow older.

All those who find their parents/in laws staying with them a nuisance ,

its always wise to remember that what our parents /in laws face today, we too might face it tomorrow ,when we grow old.

Am sure susanne too would want her boys (and their family ) to live with her later on😆

@TM- nice topic. But just curious to know.. You have said that u will c to it that ur parents will stay with either u or ur sis. But what about ur spouse's parents??

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Nikita Lakhe

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Posted: 11 years ago

#14

It is unfair to be judgemental in such situations when we do not know THE REASON why sussanne wanted them to live separately. Either party could be at fault here. Lets not forget she lived with them for so many years. The reason for moving out has to be strong, not something frivellous.

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AllBlacks1

@AllBlacks1

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Posted: 11 years ago

#15

Its a big issue and to make Hr- suzi as ref. point is not valid. We hardly know whats the real issues between them.

As kids grow up and get married and and start their own families.. the whole family dynamic changes. Ever1 loves to have big joint family like HAHK.. the reason that movie became ATBB. But its not reality.

I have lived in joint family in India and NZ too. In India it was more of a majboori coz we cudnt afford a separate house and we gotta stick with uncles family in a big 2 story house.

In NZ too, we were joint family.. but as time went by.. sister-bro-in-law baught her own house and Bhabhi came in.. Then I got married.. parents baught their own house and we brothers family lived together. as we had 3 kids, and they fight and make up the next moment and play together but some adults wisdom went out of window and started making it huge issue.. I baught my house and moved out.

Today we r all within 10 min. by car reach. the relationships r much better than b4. And we r all happy in our own space. And we r all together in celebrations or problems.

Thats my story. Parivartan hi sansar ka niyam hai.. Krishna said that.

Every individual has their own circumstances. some the Indian tv series i see sometimes.. make me fell sick.. they all live in big houses and women keep fighting with each other.. what kinda shit msg they r giving??😡

U have to admit women r womens' worst enemy in joint family. And I admit Beti ma-baap ka jyada khyal rakhti hai comapred to sons. From exp. I have a son and i want a beti now. 😃 Bhagwan ki marji ho to.

Morale of the long post is.. sath raho ya door, pyar se raho. 😊

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