Meher's past behind her present decision of hiding the truth

When I heard Meher speaking to Madhavi today I understood from where her problems and her decisions came. It came from the dysfunctional family she came from. Her father Shyam who ditched her mother, and her mother who gave him the rights to see and exploit his kids.

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

When I heard Meher speaking to Madhavi today I understood from where her problems and her decisions came. It came from the dysfunctional family she came from. Her father Shyam who ditched her mother, and her mother who gave him the rights to see and exploit his kids.

Yes Suman was right in telling Shyam had the right on the kids because he is the father. But Suman forgot what the effect of such a man in her kids life. The access Suman gave to Shyam stands at the crux of all problems. Because Meher grew up seeing a man who just came and went at his will, never took accountability, but only pass orders. Her mother never told anything against this. Meher was scarred and she grew up bottling her emotions. She never made any relations as she was afraid of getting cheated.

Then Abeer came.She loved him. Let loose her emotions and then he left her. She was shattered. And Ishaan she cant give to Ishaan what Suman gave her. She cant scar Ishaan's life with a father who is impulsive, who can own her one day, leave her next day. Who can be sweet to his son one day, angry at him next day. She cant have her son grow up like that.

Always insecure, always not knowing whom to trust, what to trust. She wants to give him stability which at this point Akshat seems to have in her eyes. Akshat is boring, but yes he is stable. He is predictable, but what Ishaan needs is also predictability.

So the only way Abeer can now reach Meher is by gaining her trust through Ishaan. The confidence that Meher should have that Abeer will never scar Ishaan's life.

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

@Sdea she doesn't want Ishaan to suffer any heartbreak, which Abeer with his impulsive nature is capable of giving. And it is very very complex. Because a scar in a child's mind does not go very easily as we can see how her parents marriage influence each and every decision of Meher.

I am not saying she is right or anything. I am just saying why she took the decision and what she is afraid of.

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

@SSS love cannot keep them together. Respect can. Mutual respect is needed in hus-wife relation. In love you always go behind one. But when respect is there, both partners know when to take charge and when one is taking charge other steps back gracefully. I mean you learn to move forward and backward as situation demands. And only this understanding and trust can make marriage work, which unfortunately Mehbeer didn't have.

And if you look even now Meher is in charge. At times I feel bad for Akshat also. There are times where Meher should allow Akshat to take charge. Because if she doesn't, then this marriage also wont work for her and Ishaan will suffer more heartbreak than she thinks.

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

Exactly SSS. Actually 3 innocent people not connected with the mess they created are involved in the Mehbeer relation.

Ishaan, Akshat and Sasha. We cannot say Akshat and Sasha has to be all forgiving. After all they are also human. They also have feelings.

I cant find anything wrong with Akshat who would want to have a life with Meher. From the dialogues it is very clear that from beginning Akshat does love Meher and is waiting for her yes.

Sasha loves Abeer and is willing to let him go. Now bringing these 2 people by giving them false hopes when their hearts lie with each other, for me it is not at all right.

Meher is clinging on to the past too much and Abeer continues to be impulsive.