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Posted: 10 years ago
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The Fri and Sat epi was full of false egoes that resulted in fatal errors. Bua has a huge ego. She couldnt accept she was wrong in accusing Meher. But then she has to emotionally burn the girl again who was angry at Abeer for baring her emotions openly.
Bua doesnt understand why Mehr keeps her emotions locked. Reason is if it comes out people dont understand. Bua says Meher treats her service to family as ehsaan. And poor Meher she is feeling guilty once more and since she is unable to take its burden transfers it as anger on Abeer.

I am slowly understanding bua. The bitterness in her has shaped into self righteous. And that attitude makes her emotionally blackmail others whenever finger is pointed at her. She is that type of person who has lot of dissatisfaction within her and expects others also to be in perpetual denial of good things in life and work only or sacrifice only for family.
The bitterness in her is a sign that her sacrifice was not willing but forced by circumstances. Because if you do something willingly you never grow bitter.

And this ego clash led bua and Suman outside, Abeer doesnt want to face Meher and decided to play with kids. Result Meher alone with pinky dada. Though she manages the situation without being detected bua and Suman are in Pinky dada's clutches and yes Pinky dada is going to take Meher.

It also proves an idiom, united we stand, divided we fall. Instead of understanding the need of Abeer at their home at point bua allowed ego to rule her, driving Meher guilty conscious and end result even Abeer will suffer.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Shruti,a post on sunday??good analysis.im not likiing bua's character at all.and meher swallows all her ppinions without an afterthought..
But still mehbeer love each other more than themselves.and that's what they need to realise.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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I disagree. Bua's character is the reality of many women who have to take up the role of a head of the household, one especially made of other women only. The men in Bua's life, her husband or her brother have obviously failed her. And being a Bua slash mother for Meher, she expected Meher to make better decisions in her life, especially seeing the kind of situation Meher's bua and mother have been through.. But Meher's choice (at least in Bua's POV) has turned out to be just as bad.. so Bua expresses the frustration. Its not coming from a sense of self-righteousness, but its coming from a sense of failure that she feels in giving Meher the upbringing to make better decisions. Now this is all from Bua's POV which may well be clouded by what she sees Abeer do to Meher. And if Bua hasn't taken the time to analyze why Abeer does these things that seemingly cause trouble for Meher, you cannot blame her. Meher's mother on the other hand, has a closer relationship with Abeer and understands where his intensions and heart is... but unless Abeer creates the same space and closeness with Bua by proving expressly that he still cares for Meher and loves her.. Bua will not be forgiving. If I was Meher's relative also, I would feel the same.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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@ratna was free a bit today. So thought of posting. Not a luxury that I get every weekend😃
@JC I didnt had any problems of bua accusing Meher. yes in her frustrations she accused Meher that it was because of her decisions that the family is suffering once again because Abeer is that their place. Her decision to work in Abeer's office to prove herself.
What I didnt like was when Abeer read the diary, bua shouldn't have spoken to Meher on the Ehsaan part to make her more guilty feeling. The diary was telling about Meher's own conflicts, the conflicts which she has not discussed with everyone because she felt she need not have to burden anyone. Bua should have felt the guilt of accusing Meher unnecessarily. She could have just told the girl a simply sorry for telling her decision was in haste. Or made her not to cry than emotionally blackmail her.
Yes Meher has done mistakes, but to point fingers at her again and again is breaking her internally, same way Abeer's dad is doing.
In Mehbeer break up bua also has played a significant part maybe not intentionally.

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