The ARVI exit:Mod note pg10 - Page 8

i dont think anyone has blamed purvi for miscarraige.. i think the TM has blamed arjun for giving so much stress to purvi and it resulted in miscarraige. thats what i infered.

Originally posted by: pari-kirloskar

i dont think anyone has blamed purvi for miscarraige.. i think the TM has blamed arjun for giving so much stress to purvi and it resulted in miscarraige. thats what i infered.

well I personally feel a woman should never be blamed for miscarraige. whether ovi or purvi

andhow many ever mistakes purvi made and tried to be extra mahaan, its very cruel and rude to blame the character for something upon which she has no control. i am sure purvi herself must have suffered when her 2nd child died. she dint miscarry by her own will.

Originally posted by: naava

Actually Purvi was blamed for the miscarriage in the opening thread. . All the things listed in Topic post under Arjun to Purvi were not apologies to her but a recounting of things that he should confront her with according to the TM and quoted below with the miscarriage part in bold.

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Arjun.

For once we expect Arjun to stand taller than Purvi and NOT accept her with open arms but tell her how she spoilt his entire life by

first dumping him on his marraige day

forcing him in a loveless marraige with Ovi

then divorcing him for infidelity and keeping him away from his child for years

constantly laying guilt trips on him for no fault of his .

for miscarrying their second child with self inflicted suspicions and trauma when they could be a healthy happy family .

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Originally posted by: Tulsey

What is going on? Why has a war broken out on this topic?
I read all topics as everyone's own opinions. No need to bash.
Don't have to comment if you don't agree and no one is asking the bashers that they have to write a comment. Stay away from the topic if you don't like it. This is so childish!!!

@Bold-Word !Arjun and Purvi are responsible for each and every bad thing that happens in this world..and see they are now asked to apologize..Everyone makes mistakes...no one is God to be perfect..Arjun Purvi Ovi are equally responsible for the mess that they've created.now u finally accept the truth for deal all three r responsible.If Arjun Purvi need to apoligize..then Ovi also should apologize..coz if not for her,ArVi would have been living happily by now..!! after arvi marriage there were no where ovi ...ovi was not their life and they hv also not any idea about pia but see they hv not understanding but always fight with eachother and for some time arjun was hate to talk to purvi and also purvi did not understand arjun what was that ...the situation goes to that level where onir forced to interfere but again after the they also again faced same situation...arjun flew to canada...what was that why they r not able to live happily😉

Purvi couldn't do the math herself , she didn't listen to Arjun clarify himself

Originally posted by: White-Rose

Apology? For what? Arjun and purvi never invited anyone to take part in their struggle or messed up life. Everyone joined them either forcefully or by their own wish.

How they ruined others life with their stupid decisions? So people have no right to take decision of their lives? If others were getting so much affected by their decisions means somewhere other people were dependent on them. Its not their fault as they never asked anyone to be dependent on them.

You cant blame entire world for ur action. Each and every person is responsible for their destruction. Now arjun and purvi spoiled their life by stupid decision sounding so lame. They were not capable of taking their own decision so thats not ArVi's fault..

@sweettania - excellent..!!! very well written...

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

<font color="#0000ff">I have been pmed to clarify myself on the Purvi miscarrying point .</font>

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<font color="#0000ff">I have said that not bcoz i blame her for miscarrying her baby deliberately . I blame her for all the trauma she gave herself in the pregnancy with her impulsive , thoughtless and egoistic nature . That trauma was self inflicted as it never existed , her husband never ever cheated on her . That stress i believed led to to the miscarraige ? Or was it some accident ? Correct me if i am wrong . And if so , it was so unnecessary and self inflicted was my point .</font>

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<font color="#0000ff">To this day does he know btw that she was carrying ? Like his first child , did he he know that it had come in the world ? Each time the poor man does not know a thing about his children , is this fair ?</font>

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<font color="#0000ff">When Ovi drank , the stress was not imaginary but she KNEW for a fact that those two carried a torch for each other . Yet , what did i say ? Let the adults step in , confine her to a sanatorium and take the baby away from her .</font>

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<font color="#0000ff">Here what did i say ? The stress was imaginary , Arjun was never unfaithful to Purvi ever . The stress she took was completely avoidable if she had talked to him . Nothing of this would have happened and they had everything going for them , Purvi did NOT have a drinking problem , nothing . Yet she took imaginary stress due to her flawed nature which she carried throughout her LIFE .</font>

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<font color="#0000ff">She has wronged Arjun a lot . A lot . Right from dumping him the first time to not telling him about the babies to filling his baby with hate about him to not allowing him to mourn his dead baby , to exchanging his blood , there has been injustice to Arjun , he ultimately got NOTHING in his whole life ...the way his children were taken away from him for no fault of his is the ultimate pain of a father .</font>

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<font color="#0000ff">Lets not make it a woman's issue for the sake of it . Purvi needs to apologize to Arjun period . To the point the shares of his company went down and he lost credibility in the market and suffered economic loss , he has been terribly wronged . He has been wrong in many many things , especially his equation with his kids , but he needs an apology . Making each issue a woman's issue and evading apology egoistically should not be ARVI exit is my only poiint .</font>

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Ovi then is responsible for her own miscarriage too, I presume? Drinking, acting like a fish wife when she yes, knew ARVI carried a torch for each other AND that they were to be married to each other the day Ovi prised Arjun away from Purvi like a toy with that exultant smile she had the day of the reception? Ovi inflicted pain upon herself by forcing a man to marry her by using her own mother, archana, as a pawn in the game, didn't she deck herself up as well on the night of marriage knowing full well her husband's heart belonged elsewhere? Arjun was faithful to her, was trying to be a good husband to Ovi but suspicious Ovi even after Purvi was physically far away from the scene took to drinking and harming her own unborn child.

Ovi should not only apologize to Arjun and Purvi for ruining their lives with her selfish, obsession for Arjun but also to Pari for ruining her life for playing a part in keeping her parents apart. She should apologize to Arjun for her own miscarriage as she brought it upon herself by all that drinking. She should apologize to Purvi for all her "Kaands" against Purvi - for trying to purchase Arjun with a check, for using their mother as a pawn and shattering Purvi's life into a million pieces, to Purvi for the accusation and slaps in public, to Onir cos if Purvi had not been snatched away from Arjun, Purvi would never have left Mumbai and never have met Onir and Ovi couldn't have been the reason for the case against him and his de-licensing, to Purvi for wanting her dead, to Purvi for throwing her out when she was pregnant, to Purvi for that public disclosure of pari's parentage, for Ovi's habit of washing her very dirty linen in public always, to Manav for making him blind to her faults and for being his weakness, to Archana for being selfish and blind and for having used her love as a means to an end, to teju for having always hogged the limelight, to her grandparents for making their old age less peaceful, to her brother and his wife for forcing them to live with two sisters, one unmarried and the other one divorced with child (if Arjun and Purvi had an ongoing marriage, Ovi's sister in law would not have been subject to fits of greed and jealousy against Purvi), to Pari for discarding her without a moment's thought when Ovi found the infant was not hers, and oh, last but not the least to Purvi for being the cause of breaking up her marriage a second time, for causing Purvi's miscarriage by Ovi's hiding of the truth and for playing hide and seek with her own Pia pregnancy, to arjun for keeping ner pregnancy a secret, AND for the gloating way she now made Purvi feel unwanted in Arjun's life, for hiding the truth (of Arjun's sickness) again from Purvi and for availing this opportunity to get closer to Arjun and for still managing to keep Arjun away from his family. Oh, for putting her own daughter's life in danger now, for if Ovi had disclosed the truth to Purvi, Purvi would not have agreed to marry RK and Purvi' and Pia's lives would not have been in danger, plus for putting Arjun's life in danger in the coming epis because in his present precarious condition he will still go after Purvi and Pia to save them. Oh, yes, Ovi is responsible for a lot of things going wrong in this serial ;)

Apologies if some find this list a little unreasonable but then the list against Purvi has never ever been held up to that litmus test of reasonableness, has it?

To others of like mind as me, the list of Ovi's misdeeds for which she needs to apologize are not exhaustive, I may have forgotten some, sincerest apologies for that ;)

Disclaimer: the thoughts expressed in this post are entirely mine and do not mean to offend anyone.