Kool's Commentary : 27 Dec PR:Final Warning Pg33 - Page 56

Originally posted by: ilovepyaar

Why am I a sucker for emotional scenes? I cried when Ovi got arrested today. She was raised without a mother for 20 years, lost the man she loved, was USED by the man she loved, stayed away from her parents for another 20 years, and now she'll go to jail for god knows how long? Out of all the character's in her generation, her destiny is the worst. Poor Pia.

Originally posted by: ilovedhanjanird

PoorPia ? 😆
Pia doesn't even care

For her, her maushi and DAD are Gods and her mother is a third wheel 🤢
Purvi mata, the eternal devi of sacrifice couldn't sacrifice for her Arjun ? 😆
Couldn't she say , 'Ovi you have already done a lot for us, no more"

And still no accolade for Ovi in the forum😛

Originally posted by: muse10

Teju, I too am very disappointed with the turn ( I saw a clip on YouTube, still have to see the episode). But I interpret Ovi's reaction slightly differently, especially following Pia's statements yesterday.

I think Ovi's decision of taking the blame derives from a deep sense of guilt that she has been made to feel for years. She has passed it on to her daughter too.

It is a story of a really really sad heart. It brings tears to my eyes to think of how this woman has been made to feel since she was an infant. Taken ten thousand miles away from her mother when still a toddler, she never got to experience the warmth of mother's hug for 18 years. (And while I do see Archana as being at fault to a degree, I also see how she could be feeling terribly guilty about Soham, and totally manipulated by Savita. I really don't understand why the CVs have redeemed Savita.). The only real warmth Ovi got growing up was from her father and her buddy Arjun. who was also growing up without a mother. Teju had a different coping mechanism with which Ovi could hardly relate. She was very girly. Teju, of course, remained a major support for more delicate Ovi (that is why Barbie Doll). But confusion and anger, hidden under a glamorous exterior and snobbish behavior continued simmering in a young heart.

Then her childhood friend, after having given her the word that he would marry her, declared that she was not worthy of his love; it was someone else. And that someone else was none other than the daughter of the woman who had (at least in Ovi's experience) never visited her even though being her mother. How is any 19 year old supposed to feel confronted with this? Granted the deal offer was unethical and stupid, she continued to feel unwanted and worthless in her marriage. Her drinking and screaming were surely problems; but they were also symptoms of a crying heart. She changed with care and support from Onir. Yet lo and behold, her happiness was only momentary. Once again, the child she loved so much also had only been given to her in donation, out of pity. That broke her.

Still she gathered herself and moved away, for herself and for others. She decided to raise her child alone. What was wrong with it, if she wanted to find herself and her worth through that child? But the expectations of old time morality struck again - how could you hide etc? And one more time, she was considered the culprit who broke the marriage of a loving couple. Her own parents did not even care to learn her story (how difficult could it have been for them to track Arjun?). They just presumed she was wrong and guilty. What a horrifying sense of rejection from all sides! What option did she have but to hide herself?

Living alone with a child in a foreign country with all the negative messages she had gotten all her life, what other feeling but guilt could she have harbored? she kept saying she was a bad daughter and sister and whatever to Arjun in the last track. Along with admission of mistake, I thought it was also a reflection of her deep anguish. It was clear in yesterday's episode that she has transferred it also to her daughter. And even when she was trying so hard to help her friend and father of her child, she hardly heard a single word of appreciation. It was reinforcement of the message of her worthlessness. Her last act today (in the clip) was heart wrenching, really really sad.

Ovi's character reminds me of Tess in Tess of d'Uberville by Thomas Hardy. Even though with different backgrounds, they have strong parallel in their sad and dejected lives.

Originally posted by: tejaswiniwenham

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muse i understand ovi. trust me i was her. my mother and father throughout my childhood were more involved with each other and each others shortcomings than me. i grew up in boarding schools. saw much more of my dad than aai. the only stability in my life were aaji and azuba. my husband wanted another woman over me in the beginning of our marriage. i felt inadequate all the time. but there comes a point in every person's life where you have to value yourself. thats the only way others will value you. when noone chooses you, you have to choose yourself, especially when you have the responsibility of a child on your shoulders. the moment i found out i was pregnant, that feeling that your literally the life force of this person inside you changes things. all feelings of inadequacies have to be set aside. you can't have the selfish luxury of thinking about your inadequacies and moping. all you can think about is giving the best to your child, no matter how inadequate you may feel. and i don't believe for a second that ovi is not as strong as me. she raised a child alone in an unknown place without any support in the world. thats unequivocal strength. if any person denies that then I'm sorry for their current and future children. its simply not a matter of whether you like ovi or not. she fought the whole world for this child. then y did suddenly arjun or even purvi take preference over that child? under whose guardianship is she leaving pia? purvi who condemned the childs birth as the end of her life or arjun who didn't look back even once at her? you don't have the luxury of self pity as a single mother. you most certainly don't have the luxury of sacrificing for anyone but your child.

i have said it before that its beyond a doubt that ovi loves arjun. again at the risk of getting jootis- much more so than purvi ever did. you can argue that from any angle but the truth will remain the same. purvi has sacrificed arjun at every turn whereas ovi has sacrificed for arjun at every turn. she's always simply wanted him to be happy with whatever he did. even when she proposed that deal, she genuinely believed arjun was subha ka bhoola who'd return home to her, she gave up her career and decided to become a mother because the child would make him happy- instead he spent every waking moment making her miserable, she became the simple stay at home wife/mother he wanted for his happiness, she gave up pari and him for his happiness, she left her family for his happiness. when you make a sacrifice for the person you love, there is no expectation of praise. thats what made ovi's love special. contrary to most other love in pr, it was unconditional. i think chalking what ovi did today to pure guilty conscience borne of feelings of inadequacies, would be underestimating the sheer depth of her love for this man, however undeserving. but yes, as a parent unfortunately even that love needs to take a backseat and she couldn't rise above self indulgent love for arjun to do right by her child. its pretty much the same as purvi not being able to rise above her self indulgent hatred of arjun to ensure her child had a relationship with her father. i think for the first time i saw a flicker of realization in arjun's eyes of how much ovi loved him and that he should be the one feeling inadequate not her. but I'm sure that'll disappear along with his seemingly mild headache.