Originally posted by: soapwatcher1
Dear Kalapi, everyone is a product of circumstance, that cannot be used as an excuse for these women. Purvi was not adopted into a rich family, the Karanjikars can hardly be classified as wealthy. And Archana didn't pick up Purvi from an orphanage, she picked her up after an accident, her parents 20 years were able to afford a car so obviously they were not too poor. Say no family had come forward to claim her and she had been placed in an orphanage, that doesn't necessarily mean she would have ended up in a "handicraft job" getting raped by an adult. She just as likely could have been adopted into a really nice well-adjusted family.
My daughter's best friend was adopted from an orphanage in Gujarat, my cousin's daughter (they have a natural born older son) was adopted from an orphanage in Delhi. Yes, Purvi's fate could have been different, for good or worse. We are all as I said products of circumstance, we could have been born to terrible parents, in war zones, or wherever. I am sure we will not be happy if anyone threw it at our faces, "well your fate could have been so much worse, you could have been left in an orphanage and that gives us the right to talk to you like crap." Most of us look at present circumstances not what fate could have had in store for us when dealing with life.
Similarly what Archana said or didn't say or whether it is mentioned exclusively on another thread should have no bearing on what Savita and Sulo did. I agree if Archana said (I don't remember her saying it ever) kids in India are raised better than kids in Canada that was wrong. But I don't see the logic in saying since Archana said that (about Ovi, I am guessing), it is okay for these two old women to lash out at Purvi.
As for people speculating when the baby was made before or after Ovi's marriage with Arjun, no one in the world can stop anyone else from conjecturing and that solely should not form the basis of Savita's behavior. Did she care when Shravani was an unwed mother and lived with them with Manav there? Did Savita care a fig for those wagging tongues when she orchestrated the divorce between Archana and Manav and arranged for the marriage of her divorced son with the unwed mother of her other son, both living under the same roof for months that too? Did Savita care a hoot for gossip when she forged the papers, wanted Archana to divorce Manav and separated the kids from their mother? Did she even wonder about what people thought about the bride switch the day of Ovi's wedding? She was too jubilant throwing that reception party.
Yes, we can all say we are objective and look at all sides of the equation, but we are only human and do have our personal biases. Savita is a hypocrite and it was uncalled for on her part to berate Purvi so. No one is begrudging her the right to advise Purvi even if Savita is not her grandmother, her style of advising, namely name calling and accusations are what is being questioned.
Janhvi, yes, Archana picked Purvi up from the road. If she didn't, it is fair to assume Purvi could have landed in the orphanage, right? Of course, from there on her fate could have been debatable. She could have been adopted by Royalty, or might never be adopted. This is as debatable as that of her fate if Onir didn't show up. Now, she did get a loving family in Archana, a excellent education that made her independent and much more importantly save too. I guess her being adopted by Archana was her fate. Generally when one compare, it is generally compared to the possibly worst fate...that many girls in her situation could/might faces...for the number of Royalty is limited. As for the car her parents were travelling, why no one knows if it was even theirs... it could easily have been rented. If she was rich and no one claim her, well, maybe she was really lucky to be adopted by Archana in that scenario also, anyway that was her fate, but still she did get a loving family, good education compared to orphans in her (similar) situations. But, ppl do compare what could be, especially when the outcome is exceptionally happy or sad... like look how great the adopted girl has become, she became the CEO, etc.
As for the baby being conceived before or after...don't know which India you come from (for I seem to have an alternate view of India), most gossipers could have happily jumped into the conclusion that it was after, esp. cause she was supposed to be married to Arjun. In that situation, no Karanjkar or Deshmukhs could have stepped out of their respective houses. And because it was Arjun, an tycoon involved it could be media news about playboy Arjun and his affair with Saali. Epic Scandal...
As for Savita not caring about Shravani's situation or her gossipers. Shravani's situation was totally different. In fact, Sharavani situation was shown as how helpless she was. Shravan's dad slapped her...and her sanskar was shown questionable, of course, in relation to Karanjkars. No one in the serial tooted Shravani's sanskar. Now about Savita's orchestrating MAnav's dvorce then, you probably haven't watched PR from the beginning. Archana left Manav after 15 days of marriage, in fact walked out of their ''marriage'' Satyanarayan Puja and Sulo filed for divorce. Manav and Archana's divorced was alreasdy in the Court, when Manjusha Karanjkar files a complained against Deshmukh's which resulted in all of them being arrested. All of Deshmukh's were mercilessly beaten up (including Savita and unmarried Vandu). Now, if you know the reality of such experience, I will not have to explain further. But if you haven't, here is a real experience, one of my relative's babu ... complained against her inlaws. All of them were picked up including her unmarried nanad and beaten mercilessly. The badnami that entralls in unbelievable and after that accepting that bahu back into the family, that is the great challenge any family faces. Now, back to the stort - after getting bail they were let got, Sachin's visa to USA got cancel that ultimately lead to his accident and death. No, MIL can accept all this going on by a Bahu and her maaikya (police beating followed by a son's death... all due to a newly married bahu, who voluntarily walked out of her marriage as she failed to trust her husband). Yes, at that point Savita didn't care at all for Archana, in fact who could? I couldn't either... if I was in that MIL. Most husband don't even look back at their wife, if she complains to police or takes him to Court. Besides, the divorce was already on, so Savita supported Shravani to get her married to Manav, because she was carrying Sachin Jr. Shravan wanted to go back to USA and even asked MAnav, if he wanted to marry. To that MAnav answered was Yes. At this point, Savita didn't care about gossip of getting Sharvani married to MAnav, after his divorce initiated by Sulo, because their relationship was on its death bed anyway, so why not get Shravani married and keep Sachi's nischani within the family...the story is very convoluted... Here, 2 families are going to be destroyed, Ovi already left and Onir's license has been revoked...and Purvi and Arjunstill meeting publicly...
As for Savita being a hypocrite...well, I am sure you think that all her concern and love that she showed to Purvi was a natak. Well, but it was shown to that she referred Purvi as samajdar. She also was shown doing things for Purvi. She even sided with Purvi over Ovi...saying Ovi was suspicious of her and Purvi couldn't have anything to do with Arjun. So, to me she was ready to give Purvi the BOD, In fact, she did say that Ovi ko jante nahi ho, or something. But, at some point everyone's patience gives away... the question is when ? These 2 ladies patience gave away now... it has gone too far for them, so they snapped. The Question is when will DK snap...I am more interested to see that now 😆
