In the midst of the mess.. - Page 3

Originally posted by: Kalapi

Originally posted by: ..aastha..

Well i m nt asking ovi to forget her child. I dnt mind if she wants to cry for the rest of the life bt why forcing others to mourn?

Well i dnt like to remind limits to my fellow members. Bt u know i m nt here to take personal attack. Just clear it what do u mean by my nature so that its easy for me to decide that i should use report button or not?

Dnt know where was this law of natture when there were dozens of posts cursing those who were maurning for purvi's child.

Originally posted by: ..aastha..

Well i m nt asking ovi to forget her child. I dnt mind if she wants to cry for the rest of the life bt why forcing others to mourn?

Well my dear, how can anyone force a fellow human being to be happy or sad for the other? Those kind of emotions comes from within an individual and is somewhat directly proportion to the shared relationship or 'formed' relationships between these 2 individuals. The way I saw it Ovi never ever forced anyone to mourn with her or for her. The happy general atmosphere of their completing the 1 year anniversary, the constant lying by her husband Arjun – when she clearly wanted him to come clean with her from her various introspections, the whispering between Arjun and Purvi only spiked an already stressed situation causing her pointedly to go for the vodka instead of the orange juice and the final nail in the coffin was of course the famous speech of Arjun about their 'happy' married life, cause her the burst. Now, my dear, a mom grieving for her stillborn, can that burst be held against her. I, of course, leave it on to you to decide.

Well i dnt like to remind limits to my fellow members. Bt u know i m nt here to take personal attack. Just clear it what do u mean by my nature so that its easy for me to decide that i should use report button or not?

I leave it on you to construe as you wish and report as you please!

Dnt know where was this law of natture when there were dozens of posts cursing those who were maurning for purvi's child.

Now, why would Purvi be mourning for the 'baby' when her baby wasn't dead. In fact, there were many posts saying that she being a new mom with a 'live' baby, shouldn't mourn for a imaginary 'dead' baby as that is considered apshagun (inauspicious). Surely you understand and appreciate the premise for that argument...

Originally posted by: sharadrocks

@topicmaker

I completely agree with your analysis..had made a similar post a few days ago...the only one that I hurt for is PAri...all the others are suffering the consequences of their own actions...one can feel sorry for them for the people they are...and for the choices they made...but not for what they are going through...they have brought it on themselves...

I know this may not be the place for spiritual or philosophical discussions...but I just want to share something small...my mother lost her first two children before I was born...she once told me that, in the spur of the moment and while in a very depressed state of mind, she had wished her first born had not been born at all...and hardly a few days later, she lost him...there were medical reasons for the loss as also for the loss of the second child..and yet, my mother believed that one moment of negative thought cost her the child..my mother says there are angels that we Hindus call as Tatasthu devas hovering around all the time...they keep uttering the word tatasthu...meaning may you be granted what you wish for...my mother keeps asking me to guard my tongue and thought...she says you never know what wish might end up being granted...

Ovi did not want the baby in the first place...she tried her best to get rid of it...given that her marriage was a mess and not exactly a love match, it was not a great place to bring a baby into...but then the marriage was a consequence of her emotional blackmail...and she alone was to blame for that...granted that Arjun may have let her down...but the fact that she still tried to push for the relationship, knowing what Arjun felt for Purvi, clearly implicates Ovi...

Ovi decided to keep the baby when she was told that it would help to forge a bond with Arjun...so, the baby was a pawn at the end of the day...a bargaining chip...not something that she desired for or wanted from the bottom of her heart...so maybe, just maybe, her earlier desire to get rid of the child was granted when she finally lost it...

No, no mother deserves to lose a child...it is the worst and most horrible thing you can wish on anyone...but yet, strange are the ways of God and Nature...

Ovi deserved to mourn her child...no question about that...however, I do not get the rationale behind the family or even Arjun mourning the lost child at the cost of one that is alive..,,,there is nothing you can offer the one who is gone...and yet, there is everything to offer and do for the one who is still left in your care...

Ovi's child deserves to be mourned...but let us not blame Pari for being alive...she did not ask to...!