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koolsadhu1000

@koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 12 years ago

#31

Yes she is fully justified .

She would have got out of this marraige long back when her husband slapped her in the party and told her he loves her sister .

But the husband ran to her , coached by the ex and told her he wanted a second chance and that had nothing to do with the deal but the coaching expertise of the ex and the weakness of the husband for the ex in listening to every atrocious suggestion she made .

rayadallie i hope that answers your question . Ovi's deal was responsible only till that point . Everything could have ended there , she was not expecting Arjun to come up and say this .

One can call it the PR part 1 of the second innings . PR part 2 started from then and in that Arjun Purvi were wrong , with Purvi's latest stooge , Onir .

Ovi's deal cannot be held responsible for the entire time . For that deal she

had an unhappy marraige

lost her child

was saddled unknowingly with her husband's love child

slapped publicly

was told by her husband he forgot their first anniversary

will have a terrible first anniversary tomorrow

the punishments will never end

i can understand her being 'punished' in PR part 1 of the second innings

why in PR part 2

neither had she begged for the second chance

nor had she begged for the consummation

neither had she begged for Purvi's baby

why r the punishments for this scapegoat eternal although others did the mistakes , mistakes worser than the stupid deal

Just as Onir is responsible for the baby swap however likable he is to some

Just as Soham is responsible for his crimes and got a jailing for them

Just as Varsha got a jailing and now faces ostracization for her deeds

Arjun too is responsible for not being upfront with his wife and waiting yet once more to be coached by his ex for the 'sahi waqt' to tell Ovi . He is also responsible for having sex with one sister and marrying the other . He is responsible for not using his brains to this date but following green signals from his ex .

Purvi in part 2 is responsible for master minding the baby swap . Onir maybe jailed for this but she deserves the doghouse treatment like Varsha and firings by the family and a slap from Sulochana if Archana is in a coma . Why should she go scot free if all the others have been punished .

The baby was not even given a proper funeral because of Purvi Onir . This trio , the lying husband , the master mind ex and the slavish stooge that is the current husband need to pay and how .

Edited by koolsadhu1000 - 12 years ago

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soapwatcher1

@soapwatcher1

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Posted: 12 years ago

#32

Originally posted by: jdronamraju
Yes, Ovi has every right to be angry at Purvi for doing this baby swap nd not letting her know about her own baby. I have said this before nd will say again, it is the most thoughtless nd maybe unintentional, but a very callous act, what purvi nd onir had done to Ovi, denying her the right to mourn for her child.
She has my utmost sympathy on that end, but, in no way absolves her of her acts before. She will never be the pristine nd reformed Ovi to me that some find her so.
Enough has been said about why Arjun hasnt told Ovi about it. In all fairness, his first reaction was to let Ovi know about Pari, nd he goes to the D house with the same intention despite Purvi asking him not to. But, he is just not able to tell her, for Arjun knows that it would break Ovi's heart forever. In the face of Ovi's boundless love for Pari, he probably just became helpless. I dont know about love, but he cares for Ovi in his own way. In some ways, This was the same case when he couldnt tell her about Purvi too way back during that engagement fiasco.
I know ! I am probably the only one on this forum now who is looking at it this way, well, what can i say, this is absolutely my POV 😊

Jyo, you are not the only one, I have said it before too. He does become helpless when faced with hurting Ovi, I had written, to him she is family and long habit, he cannot bear to hurt her. That is why I don't think he can ever leave her for Purvi.

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Gina2013

@Gina2013

Beginner

Posted: 12 years ago

#33

The baby swap was totally wrong and I completely agree that Ovi and Arjun should have had the right to grieve for their loss. But asking for a funeral? Where were Purvi and Onir given the time/space to grieve the supposed loss of their baby? Where was the funeral for their baby? Instead they were not allowed to go back to Kolkata. In fact, they were expected to attend the naming ceremony joyously as if they they had been through nothing.

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jdronamraju

@jdronamraju

Voyager

Posted: 12 years ago

#34

Originally posted by: soapwatcher1

Jyo, you are not the only one, I have said it before too. He does become helpless when faced with hurting Ovi, I had written, to him she is family and long habit, he cannot bear to hurt her. That is why I don't think he can ever leave her for Purvi.

But, Jhanvi, I see it as his niceness not as his weakness.. that is why, I said, I am probably alone in this..as far as leaving Ovi, why is he expected to do that for Purvi? U think she is going to leave the Doc for him? I suspect that even iif the Doc does say that, she will still prefer to stay with him, not out of love or gratitude for Onir, but more for her own reasons and partly reputation nd family. And that besotted Doc will take her back still knowing that she probably loves Arjun (?) even if he comes to kmow of it.maybe love is a strong word here :)..
I would like both Ovi nd Arjun to have the guts to leave each other, for, i dont see either of them happy. They should do it for themselves and not for anyone, not even for Pari. So, let us not blame just one always.

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koolsadhu1000

@koolsadhu1000

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Posted: 12 years ago

#35

He is not nice to Ovi at all . Person who slaps his wife publicly , tells her he loves her sister and tells her he forgot their first wedding anniversary . In both instances he could have lied if he cared so much for her 'feelings ' . It is not that he does not know how to lie ...how he lies when ex coaches him ? So why not lie here too at least the poor girl's feelings would not be humiliated ?

Person who drives his wife to depressed alcoholism by constantly reminding her of his great love for the ex who dumped him does not care for her feelings . She did not start drinking coz she loved to drink and was an accomplished drunkard like Damodar who clearly enjoys it but due to pain of the heart which was gleefully hailed as her 'just desserts' . While i have condemned her drinking during pregnancy and suggested social services should take her in that time , i find Arjun a very insensitive and unfeeling husband . He had even left her alone in a complicated pregnancy state and left for Kolkata without even informing her maika . How can he be said to have 'feelings ' for her ?

He has feelings for only one person ...his ex . And those feelings have become a derogatory weakness now and sapped all the manhood out of him .

If he never leaves Ovi it will be not coz of any feeling for her but coz Purvi will tell him so .

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soapwatcher1

@soapwatcher1

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Posted: 12 years ago

#36

Originally posted by: jdronamraju

But, Jhanvi, I see it as his niceness not as his weakness.. that is why, I said, I am probably alone in this..as far as leaving Ovi, why is he expected to do that for Purvi? U think she is going to leave the Doc for him? I suspect that even iif the Doc does say that, she will still prefer to stay with him, not out of love or gratitude for Onir, but more for her own reasons and partly reputation nd family. And that besotted Doc will take her back still knowing that she probably loves Arjun (?) even if he comes to kmow of it.maybe love is a strong word here :)..
I would like both Ovi nd Arjun to have the guts to leave each other, for, i dont see either of them happy. They should do it for themselves and not for anyone, not even for Pari. So, let us not blame just one always.

Jyo, but we agree he feels that way, you call it niceness, I call it a weakness, a nice weakness or a weak niceness.

Purvi should not leave Onir now, Arjun (sorry, I know you will beat me with a danda 😉 ) for all his love for Purvi has proved unreliable twice before, the day he got engaged to Ovi and the day he married Ovi. I know Purvi asked him to do the second but he should have had the guts to say no. This last not telling about the baby to Ovi is the third time.

You mean why is only Arjun blamed for not filing for a divorce, why not blame Ovi as well? I hold them both responsible. He cannot leave her because of his niceness and his fear of hurting her. She loves the guy so she would rather perhaps stay miserable with him than without him. She should not have married him in the first place, she should have had enough self-respect to leave him at least after the marriage. He should have realized he was hurting her more by staying in the marriage than cutting clean.

All 3 are idiots, I don't believe any of them are purely evil like Punni, they have gotten embroiled in an impossible situation, the skein has to be cut or patiently unraveled, neither is going to be done instead they will suffer interminable heartache and we will be put through the grind.

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soapwatcher1

@soapwatcher1

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Posted: 12 years ago

#37

Kools, the pain of the heart was unwittingly brought on by herself. Just desserts would only be when she realized that Arjun loved Purvi and she played a part in tearing them apart. All 3 are responsible and all 3 are paying for their part of the mistake but there comes a point when the 'paying' has to stop and life takes over and they move forward either together or separately or whatever the CVs choose just like Savita moved forward after a brief period of remorse for keeping her son and his wife apart for 18 years. Otherwise, the story gets stuck in a groove and it gets pretty frustrating all around.

By by the way, Putthandu Vazthugal!

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Kalapi

@Kalapi

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Posted: 12 years ago

#38

Originally posted by: chinyere
what the hell is FDUP? is that anew word in the dictionary??...why some posters dont understand not all viewers or pasters know such short hand it seems some posters dont respect other readers..but yet they love to scream if this is a rule or not..does everything have to be a fast and hard rule to understand what other reader go through when reading post...

I am so sorry if i am beign rude or seems like bashing ,but sometimes you have to communicate on the same level as people do...so admin,i am apologising from now,but what is the point of writing acronyms or initials and then having to spell out the word..that is just plain stupid.

Q to the Mod:

How can a fellow member be so rude to another member??? This member could easily ask for the acronym, but she went ahead to being rude and disrespectful??

Does apologizing to the admin to avoid a warning is enough??? What about being rude to a fellow member??? Or sayig that priced word "Sorry"" to this member???

I have seen this happening before and this member cursing another member. I read that in the latest rules, respecting fellow member is of uttermost important for the forum, so how this stand up to the latest does IF rules???

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Du Du Du Du

@Phir_Mohabbat

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Posted: 12 years ago

#39

u r ri8, bt i dnt agree that purvi's love was weak.she loved her aai and family too much, more than she loved arjun or her baby. and she knew if the family came to know abt ovi's miscarriage, they will break, as all the family members know pretty well that this baby will be the key of happy family of arjun and ovi. they were nt happy with each other, and hoped the baby will change everything.

and loving some1 and then leaving him is nt so easy, purvi really did her sacrifice and ruined 3 lives, bt the time was nt so on her favour. her aai's happiness was going away, her family hated her, her children hated her. ovi so cunningly made her to sacrifice, purvi failed to forsee that may be she is making her mother happy, bt eventually she is maiking the family unhappy.

bt u r ri8, that ovi never got the chance to say gdbye to her dead child.thats really harsh and painful.