Originally posted by: pari87
Dear Shyamala Aunty,
This is the reason why we need you on the forum! What a fantastic write-up on everything! I enjoyed reading every word, especially the lucidity of prose, but which is poetic in writing. I loved loved loved it! If Purvi-Onir took the cake in getting through to the viewers with their acting, your post effortlessly strings through every emotion that a viewer may have felt at the introduction of the track, the senseless donation and finally the performances. Even if I did not agree with some part, I felt what you wrote.
I agree with everything you have written. But, I want to put a disclaimer that I have a certain prejudice for Purvi's character so I am not able to see through to her and offer any sympathy whatsoever.
Asha Negi did put up a notch higher in her acting skill in today's episode, but it is because of the character Purvi, that I could feel nothing. I don't know if it is that I am too detached to her character as a viewer or simply too cold as a person watching a senseless show with little interest. But either way, even though objectively I could praise her acting, I could not feel a thing for her character.
Purvi's actions no longer qualify as thoughtless follies of a young adult. Her incessant rambling about her aai's happiness on that hilltop, while giving not a shred of thought to the man she loved, was in my eyes, the foolishness of a young child who is buried in debt to her adopted mother and who in her ignorance equates giving up the fiance as securing her mother's future. THAT was inexcusable, but pardoned in my eyes as a girl who did not weigh consequences. And I blamed a whole part of it on Archana and her upbringing.
This time, however, post-marriage, I would expect a girl who has gone through such adversities in life, run away from home, struggled and seen life the hard way, to finally see the world for what it is, and not through rose tinted glasses. This 6 month experience should itself have made her worldly-wise in making decisions and weighing pros and cons. But, it did not. She got a loving husband, ready-made father to her child, no real hardship of an unwed mother, and a perfect family life, all in her "jholi". She should have thanked her stars and destiny and figured that everyone is not so lucky as to have a second chance. She should have seen through Onir's generosity and mostly his kindness and goodness, that is so decadent in today's world. But she did not. Once again, Onir is only but a protector from the world and nothing more. She has given not a thought to the man who clearly loves her, and has loved her child equally. He sleeps on the floor, becomes ramu kaka in her maika due to her tantrums and has not been given any sympathy for having given up on his dream of raising "humara baccha". Purvi's tears were all for herself and Onir's were for both of them. For multiple reasons, because he is a much better man than his wife.
Purvi gave up her child within 10 seconds of knowing the full tragedy. This was simply cold and not exactly "mamta" that is natural to a new mother. After giving up her baby ( and this is after holding her baby in her hands), after a whole amount of time having passed, her sudden mamta and tears had no effect on me, as a viewer. The immediacy of a new mother was missing in her emotion and foolishness twice garners no sympathy today. Especially, foolishness of giving up a child, your own child. Tejaswini spoke in KC about how a new mother feels ( after having the experience herself), and I loved that she said "a mother is the one person who always keeps you above herself, always protects you before herself and your needs before anyone else's" or something to this effect. Purvi failed to protect her child and to think of her needs and she put Arjun-Ovi before her child. This was the end of any sympathy. That is not even being mahaan. you may donate your fiance, but you NEVER EVER donate your child within 10 seconds of holding her. That is cruel and cold. not Mahaan.
Which gets me to the conclusion, that Purvi has an innate need to make sure Arjun-Ovi have a happy marriage because it is guilt that weighs her down. The guilt of ruining Arjun's life with one decision, the guilt of having a child out of wedlock, the guilt of probably having taken Arjun from Ovi in the first place. But guilt has no basis when a child is being mercilessly given as a token of wiping away that guilt from your forehead. A child cannot be used for your peace of mind or gains, whatsoever. Purvi probably gave up her child, because it would glean her of the trouble of saving her secret forever and doubly rid her of the guilt.
This in my eyes, is not foolish, not a folly and no debt on her head. This is simply selfish, because she has not given thought to Onir who for the past 6 months has been taking care of her as a loving husband and the child as a caring father. She has not paid heed to the child, who has full right to grow up with her bio mother and has no choice to choose her parents. She has only thought of herself. For these reasons, Purvi and her tears garnered no reaction from me. My only sympathies were for the child who has been given away without a thought, and the mother who has no idea about the death of the child she was carrying in her and for raising a child who is essentially her husband and her sister's.
Purvi;s sudden motherhood pangs are only going to cause issues for Arjun and Ovi and the child and not to mention a new responsibility on the head of Onir. Poor guy has been handling her secrets, lying to the family on her behalf, tackling blackmailers and dealing with unraveling of her dirty past in slow motion and now has to deal with her motherhood pangs and keeping her under control. His was the emotion that got through to me. yes, he loves her and loves her unconditionally. HE loved her baby and as his own. His anguish for Ovi's child and his pain for Purvi;s decision was brilliantly essayed by Shakti. He really shone. So did Asha Negi. But Onir got through to me and Purvi did not. Onir is slowly going to go the Arjun, puppy way. Loving your wife is a very good thing, but loving a person who does not even give a damn about your feelings is foolish in today's world. But then, many a men in PR are much more than that. :P
Sorry for the rant, but I couldn't help putting my thoughts out there.
Once again, I loved your post and I do hope, you will be compelled time and again to write. There are no regrets here and that I can promise. It is only a delight :)
Anupamaa
