My dear Janhvi,
Congratulations on one of the most lucid, cohesive, perceptive, regretful and yet uncompromising analyses that I have seen so far, of the travails and the present situation of the darlings of the PAP-APP combine. Phew! I have almost run out of adjectives, and when it is I who say that, you know what that means!😉
To get down to business, firstly, to me
@blue sums up the REAL state of affairs, as opposed to the convoluted interpretations of those clutching at straws in the wind in their quest for an Arjun-Purvi reunion. I was in fact dismayed to see some of them going to extremes in this quest; one actually wrote that she
wished Ovi would die in childbirth. Now I have written very caustically about Ovi even recently, but I would not want her, or even Punni the Python, to die so that I could get what I want for the others.
Secondly, to my mind,
Purvi comparing her rishta with Onir to that of her aai-baba, which means, to her, the Himalaya of commitment, loyalty and a sense of belonging together, is the single most pertinent factor that has emerged so far. It does not matter whether she loves Onir or not, she probably does not. But she trusts him, and she feels that their bond can stand any stress and strain and survive, just as her
aai-baba's did.This is something that goes beyond just gratitude or even mere fondness.
Purvi's is a very serious statement, not just, as you have correctly pointed out, far more serious than anything she has said in the past to Arjun, but more serious than anything Arjun has said to her as well, even taking into account what Ameilia has mentioned in her sensitive post.
I do not see HOW the CVs can wish this away lightly.
After all, Manav and Archana are the original, and to very many in the forum, the ONLY Pavitra Rishta jodi, and their relationship is the gold standard against which all others have to be judged. And if Purvi feels that her bond with Onir measures up to this gold standard, well, it means a LOT. Some are interpreting the Onir-sleeping-on-the-floor incident yesterday as proof that Valhalla is at hand ,since Onir and Purvi are either not married at all, or are having a platonic relationship. I do not think that this (understandable but wishful) interpretation will stand up to analysis.
I agree that the episode was curiously ambiguous, with Onir asking whether the family should be told (about something) and Purvi nixing it. Initially I thought it was about the baby - for they talk so many times,
and among themselves, of their marriage, including today, that one cannot question that. After all, apart from the fact that I cannot see a member of the Bengali
bhadralok pretending to be married to a girl of whom he knows nothing, even if this was true,
why on earth would the two of them talk repeatedly about their marriage in PRIVATE?
So, finally, after listening to Purvi talk to herself about Onir still being angry with her and expressing her confidence that he will soon understand her and forgive her, plus that soft little scene with the sun in his face and the pillow, I concluded that he was miffed by what she had done and that was his way of showing it. And that his question as whether the family should be told had also been about that. Especially when Purvi compares their relationship to that of Archana and Manav, and Onir refers again to his
biwi and his
bachcha. Plus, as others have pointed out so pertinently, he
was sleeping in their bed in Kolkatta.
So that line is out. Remain the babies' angle(s).
I cannot see how and why Ovi's baby should not be Arjun's. He obviously thinks it is his, which means that they have had marital relations. Given that, how can one assume that the baby is not Arjun's? Besides, with all her manifold faults, Ovi was and is wrapped up only in Arjun. It is incorrect and distasteful to run down her character just to bring an Arjun-Purvi reunion a bit closer.
As for Purvi, I still believe that she is going to have Onir's twins.
This is not just because I want this to be so, but because I cannot visualise the Purvi we all knew taking a tumble in the hay (figurative) in a dirty little shack with a man whom she was due to marry the next day. It is just NOT her.
Okay, let us accept, for the sake of the argument, that it IS Arjun's baby.
Bringing that out will not help anything; it will only make matters infinitely worse. Though it would probably not make a difference to Onir's feelings for his wife, Purvi will never be able to hold her head up again within her family, who will
never accept Arjun leaving Ovi for her. Nor will Purvi accept Arjun under such circumstances. Not to speak of the mother of all scandals that would erupt over all their heads. So what would be the point of it all?
Lastly, whether I am irritated with Purvi's
mahaanta obsession or otherwise angry with her, I have never questioned the fact that she is:
- a very strong character, the strongest in the whole cast of PR, and
- a very principled one, even if one does not agree with what she considers right at any given point of time. She has
never let her own desires come in the view of doing what she feels to be the correct thing.
This has been consistent in her make up from the beginning, which is rare in PR. It is also significant that
every time there was a conflict between what she thought was the right thing and love, she invariably chose the former. She is a conventional lower middle class girl, and these are the codes by which she has been brought up and by which she lives. She would never be really happy if she transgressed these norms. It follows that she will not abandon a husband who loves her so abundantly and who has stood by her in her hour of need, nor will she do anything that will hurt her
aai in the least, and by extension Ovi, just to regain a lost love.
This will be, I feel, the crucial factor deciding what Purvi will do and where Arjun-Purvi will go. What Arjun feels and does are not so important. for she is the decisive factor, not he.This would not change if and when Onir learns about Arjun-Purvi's past and offers to let Purvi go (always assuming that Ovi is no more, perhaps as kindly visualised by the member who wanted her to die in childbirth). That will only make Onir impossibly noble in Purvi's eyes, and she will then
never leave him. being shamed by his generosity and his undemanding love.
She will end up doing an Aishwarya from
Hum Dil De Chuke Sanam, and the target audience will weep happily into their handkerchiefs and applaud
.The Indian viewers love sacrifice above all else, and it is that which elevates a character in their eyes, not clawing your way to your own happiness at any cost to others. Tanyaz is right in saying that
if Arjun-Purvi were to be reunited at all, Onir would have to turn negative. This does not seem to be happening. Instead, like Marianne Dashwood in
Sense and Sensibility, Purvi seems to be slowly but inexorably coming closer to her husband.
So,all in all, I feel that what you hope for is, given the circumstances, precisely what I hope for too.
On a lighter note, if there is to be another leap forward this summer, where would the conflicts be if we did not have the kids of Arjun-Ovi on the one hand and Onir-Purvi on the other, either at each other's throats, or falling for each other, or both? A la
Kabhi Kabhie, if one wants a
desi example?
Shyamala
PS: See, my response is more than twice as long as your original post. I hope you have the stamina to get thru this,and see its length as a compliment and not as an imposition!😉
PPS: I wonder of anyone ever sweeps under the beds in the D house. We have never seen any such thing being done, but if it was, what would the poor servant make of the
durree, the pillow and the sheet that Onir shoves under the bed? Perhaps Purvi puts it all away in the cupboard before they leave their room. I shudder to think of how much dust there would be on them after their sojourn under the bed!😉
Originally posted by: soapwatcher1
The wise say hope springs eternal in the human breast and that may be the reason why even after a myriad bizarre twists, one still has faith that the CVs will not butcher Arjun's and Purvi's characters any further.
ARVI began with fireworks, we fell in love with their spats, delighted in Arjun's cockiness and Purvi's feisty, die-hard attitude, we spurred Arjun's intensity and conviction that he could win Purvi over and when he did win her over, we were over the moon with delight. He won her over but in the process, won us over as well. Unfortunately, what began with a bang ended with barely a fizzle.
Now, as ARVI stand at the crossroads, one does sincerely hope that the CVs do not make Arjun a wimp who makes doleful sheep's eyes at his former love, who is now his sis-in-law, while they turn Purvi into an ungrateful wench who abandons the man who has stood by her side steadfastly when she has needed help the most.
I had hoped ARVI would be back together seamlessly but the current track leaves no hope, what with Ovi carrying Arjun's child and Purvi married to Onir. The die has been cast, sadly, there is no turning back. The only way that ARVI can be together again with some semblance of dignity is IF Ovi is not carrying Arjun's baby and Purvi is not married to Onir. Barring this, ARVI need to move on with their lives, separately.
Yesterday, it was mentioned in the update that Arjun left Purvi in the wheelchair without taking time to alert Manav about Purvi's condition and that he did not stay with Purvi till family arrived. One does not do this with any relative, let alone a sister in law. He had been told Ovi was fine and awake, he could have waited a few minutes until he was sure Purvi was okay. Today, he sat stroking Ovi's hair and pacifying her (absolutely right in his position as her husband) totally forgetting the plight of the girl that had fainted. He made no enquiries, did not tell Manav, it was a non-event to him.
Onir, on the other hand, as Purvi's husband sat with her, berated her, told the nurse he would look at Ovi's reports later and assured Purvi all will be right as he was back beside her. He was playing the role of loving husband to perfection just as Arjun was. Why upset the applecart then?
Purvi obviously cares for the guy who has taken her under his protection and given her love, shelter and his name. So, she should. Today, she compared their relationship to that of Manav and Archana and felt that it was a strong bond that they shared. They do, marriage is not just about love, it is about a sense of belonging, responsibility, bonding, unity, facing the world together, being best friends. I have never seen Purvi talk this seriously about her relationship with Arjun. She was never this sure, it was always beset with doubts. Their good times together were frivolous and fun, lovey dovey but the Purvi today was serious and realistic when she had that conversation with Onir.
I believe Arjun has matured too (except for those looks at Purvi that he cannot help), he is caring and loving towards his wife who is carrying his baby. I only hope he is not thrown into a quandary and pulled two ways when he discovers Purvi is also carrying his offspring. I hope to God, Purvi is not. If only wishes could be horses!
Edited by sashashyam - 12 years ago
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