Purvi's izzat or middle class tomfoolery?

The question is about Purvi's izzat. Is it real or mere middle class tomfoolery?

Arjun, you have another girl's ring on your finger, not just any other girl's but her sister's, yet with all pained naivete (note, I did not say nerve or audacity) you asked Purvi today, "why are you doing this to me?" We do feel for you, Arjun, we do know you are hurting but do you seriously expect Purvi to fall into your arms like a ripe plum every opportunity she gets just because you have declared undying love for her? Are you expecting her to say, "Dear Arjun, since you have promised to be mine for the next seven janams (maybe six as this janam is still up for grabs between Ovi and I), we can happily continue with our midnight trysts in the rain while you strut around with that band on your finger. In fact this can continue indefinitely until your dad chooses to return, whenever, from Australia to talk to my baba and you find the opportune moment to tell your childhood obsessed-about-you friend that you can no longer marry her. In the meantime, the girl whose ring you flaunt can drape herself all over you in front of me, I really do not mind as I know heart of hearts that you belong only to me."

Arjun, you would be ecstatic if Purvi did say this for who cares about izzat and all that mohallawalla middle class nonsense. You are Arjun, the first time in love guy, so unreasonably and completely in love, such a die-hard romantic that you truly cannot see anything beyond your love. That is a tad selfish, my lad. If you do get caught with Purvi on one of your masala pav eating jaunts, it is she who will be blamed as heart breaker and home wrecker. Ah, but we should not forget your incredulous question when she asked you on the night of the party about her izzat, "You didn't think that I would let your reputation be besmirched, did you?" Of course not, Arjun, she didn't forget that, neither did we, but you are the one that seems to have forgotten. You were the one that piled her high with those expensive gifts when she was on the verge of being engaged to someone else, so expensive and unwarranted that her fiance-to-be suspected something fishy was going on between her and you. You didn't realize that the world was watching when you asked her to come work with you all night (the MMS fiasco) or when you parked outside her house in the rain, blinking your lights for all the mohallawallas to see. Really, who cares about izzat? What a mundane, ugly word when you are flying high, intoxicated with your newly discovered love!

Yet, the night of the engagement, you had an awakening, you suddenly understood that word "izzat" in reference to your dad and to Ovi, what it would do to their reputations as the world was watching. Yes, we do understand that you love Purvi and you are under the misapprehension that two days of swearing up and down of love everlasting has built insurmountable trust between you (years of love have not done that for her parents) and that you have every right to ask her to abide by your judgement. Just like you expected her to trust your judgement before.

A bit dense, perhaps, on your part?

Excellent work Jhanvi .

Tanya, I too don't understand how he puts up with Ovi hugging him like that when Purvi is watching. Shouldn't he feel uncomfortable and push her away or something? it should happen involuntarily. 😕Yes, Archana didn't care what anyone thought, she wanted to protect her daughter at all costs and Arjun should have wanted to protect his and Purvi's relationship at all costs. What if his dad had arranged for a surprise wedding, would Arjun have gone through that to save face? An engagement is almost as serious as marriage, he should have known better, surprise or not. And, I don't like him wearing that ring, he should take it off, make an excuse, say it is too tight, it bothers him or something if anyone asks but I would not be walking around with it if I ever him. 😔

Lovely Post Jahnvi.

Originally posted by: purethought

Lovely Post Jahnvi.

I also agree with Tanya, Arjun needed to push away Ovi in front of Purvi saying this is his office.

I feel the only reason Arjun does not see any wrong in Ovi hugging him is that he is used to it. Ovi has been his best friend for many years and am sure she used to hug him even then. So, it is not a big thing for him. But, given all that he has done to win over Purvi, he needs to understand that this will alienate Purvi from him even further. He has never seen Purvi hug anyone else, so he doesn't know or understands how it feels to see something like this with the one you love and desire.

I am glad Purvi has drawn the line between personal and professional and that too in his face.

However, Arjun has goofed up big time, and again when he will see Purvi going away from his life forever, his bravery shall return. And he will own up to his love in front of everyone.

Meanwhile, I hope Purvi concentrates on her work. Will cause her less pain this way.

Originally posted by: soapwatcher1

Trish, I know he is used to Ovi hugging him but he should have some sense and anyway why look in Purvi's direction as Ovi is hugging him? 😡

I like the @ bold and agree 100%, and I am so glad Purvi walked away. She is a brave girl.

Originally posted by: purethought

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Jahnvi, Arjun has lost it, as of now😕

Ovi can be quite clingy. 😕

Purvi is very brave to walk back into the office the very next day. I just loved it!👏

Trish, I loved tht she walked away as he was calling her on the phone and staring at her. He doesn't get to do that when he has no claims over her. He cannot come sit in her office and stare at her either, not until he gets rid of Ovi.

Originally posted by: Tanyaz

Excellent work Jhanvi .

I also did not like it at all the way Arjun has been behaving .

He should show some concern for Purvi's reputation now and eevn her feelings .In the office , he could have easily told Ovi to back off as he knew that Purvi was watching ..he could have said to Ovi that this is office Ovi , my staff is around and I don't want you to hug me like this ...

He didn't say a thing ...👎🏼

When Purvi's engagement with Vinay was going on , Archana found out that Vinay was a wrong person , she did not care two hoots about reputation , she wanted to save her daughter's life ...

Why did Arjun not think about Purvi's reputation ...he was so concerned about his daddy's image and what the world would say and even today he is wearing the ring ...so how can he expect her to show love to him ...

I had no plans of coming to IF today but Jahnvi ypur post forced me to land here.😆


This is the point i was trying to explain. Incase tomorrow before DK reveals the truth to people ArVi's relation comes out. Its Purvi who would be blamed. Nobody would utter a word for Arjun but Purvi would have to face the brunt. People wont say or wont even bother to enquire what and how it happened. But all they would say is "Ek behen ne dusri behen ka Ghar Ujaad diya" Would anyone even see that there was so such Ghar to ujaado.

Also I fail to understand Ovi as a Fiance to Arjun. Arjun was restless and disturbed yday and not for once did she bother to ask if he is OK. She claims to know him in and out but still she cudnt read his reactions yday??? WOW


I do pity Arjun atm. He has no one who could listen to him or understand him. Ovi ignores him and Purvi refuses to listen. His father is missing. I really wished Aashna was alive may be that would have made it easy for him to breathe.

Originally posted by: purethought

Lovely Post Jahnvi.

I also agree with Tanya, Arjun needed to push away Ovi in front of Purvi saying this is his office.

I feel the only reason Arjun does not see any wrong in Ovi hugging him is that he is used to it. Ovi has been his best friend for many years and am sure she used to hug him even then. So, it is not a big thing for him. But, given all that he has done to win over Purvi, he needs to understand that this will alienate Purvi from him even further. He has never seen Purvi hug anyone else, so he doesn't know or understands how it feels to see something like this with the one you love and desire.

I am glad Purvi has drawn the line between personal and professional and that too in his face.

However, Arjun has goofed up big time, and again when he will see Purvi going away from his life forever, his bravery shall return. And he will own up to his love in front of everyone.

Meanwhile, I hope Purvi concentrates on her work. Will cause her less pain this way.