Originally posted by: Sonjogl
Savita also threw her pregrant bahu out,tried to burn her,made up fake divorce papers and was presurisn her son to marry another woman.In future does she deserve to be thrown out in future by her son?
She WAS thrown out of his LIFE if not house [ as house was HERS ] . That DID happen . She did not like his wife ...but she did love him and he KNEW that . Yet he took a tough stand that ONLY if you like my wife shall I be your son .
Now tell me ...Why should one cease being son only coz he is married and mom does NOT like the wife ?
Cannot he tell her OK you dont like my wife ...fine , will keep her out of the picture . Will stay with her as she too is my responsibility but will come and go and fulfil my duties and look after u in old age as yOU TOO R MY RESPONSIBILITY .
Did we see Manav saying that ? Nope .
We saw Manav bluntly saying ...I will be your son ONLY if u like Archana .
I had objected to that . Whether Savita was RIGHT in liking or disliking Archana is another issue . My point was ...why should relationship of a married son with his mother cease to be INDEPENDENT of anything else ? Why should it be dependent only on WIFE ?
MY WIFE AND ME ...or NOTHING was Manav's stand and it was hailed to the skies in this very forum .
Yet when Vinod does it it is shown thumbs down . Why ? He too is saying ...MY WIFE AND ME . He shows NO independent love for his mom .
Did not see Manav visiting mom and providing money for expenses , her medical aid etc when he was seperate .
It seems he had little money then .That was the excuse given . But I saw him bearing Kharcha of his saali Vaishali ...he bore her expenses and gave her treats . Never checked on his parents or Sachu nor gave them a dime .
If it is duty of children to look UNCONDITIONALLY after parents as some put it in this thread ...then WHY was CONDITION of ACCEPT MY WIFE OR LOSE ME was given by Manav ?
If certain things r non negotiable ...WHY was this rule NOT applicable in Savita's case ?
It is applicable today coz Sulochana is Archana's mother ?😊
At that time all gloated to see Savita's suffering . They said ...Package Deal Message is OH SO RIGHT .
I had objected to it even then .
Actually Topic Starter ...I agree with you . Ideally , NO PARENTS SHOULD BE THROWN OUT OF ONE"S LIFE . [ Notice I say LIFE ...not house ...as TIMES have changed .}
My personal views are this ...DUTIIES should NEVER stop . Whether the mother likes wife or not , whether she can bequeath property to you or not , whether she is of use in babysitting your children or not ...it does not matter . If you dont get along , stay seperate but meet her off and on and do your duties . You MUST see to it that you give her FOOD till the last breath and pay for her medical bills .
I had told a member in this forum in a debate that even RASIKA is a mother ...and Ajit shud keep her away from Vandu ...but fulfil the DEBT of being a son and see to it that she EATS and is looked medically after when she needs it .
What you say APPLIES TO ALL MOTHERS .
Not SELECTIVE MOTHERS .
One cannot express GLEE when Savita is thrown out of Manav's LIFE and express distress when Sulochana is thrown out of the house by Vinod simply coz Sulo is their favourite character Archana's mother .
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE OF A SON GOES FOR ALL SONS .
I expressed glee purposefully when Sulo is kicked out . Not coz I support Vinod in his actions . Not coz I believe SOME MOTHERS DESRVE THIS TREATMENT while SOME DONT . Oh boy nope .
I expressed glee coz such was the glee expressed when another Mother was neglected by her son . That mother was not such a popular mother . She was crass , crude , ignorant , uneducated , annoying . Most of all , she came in the way of a popular lead called Archana .
So I expressed a RETALIATORY GLEE . I apologise . Childish ME .😃.
Kumkum Bhagya
