Bhavna's obsessiveness about a POTA

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xyzee

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Posted: 14 years ago

#11

Originally posted by: tasha80
aww com on . yes no one has the right to go and abort a child without the husband consent but MIL should stay out of their life. We are in 20 century and what bhavna said was crazy.

she has a son that is enf what is happening to her sons life is none of her business that is strictly between the married couple.

no comment about what varsha did despite of having such a fab life and hubby- jerk

I am glad someone understood what I was trying to say!! Otherwise I was beginning to think if I were nuts:-))) Thanks Tasha80!

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Posted: 14 years ago

#12

so 21st century says that a mother doesnt has a right on her son after his marriage
so does 21st century also say that a father doesnt has a right on his unborn child

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xyzee

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Posted: 14 years ago

#13

Originally posted by: prasad1991
so 21st century says that a mother doesnt has a right on her son after his marriage
so does 21st century also say that a father doesnt has a right on his unborn child

I don't think anyone said that - a mom does have a right to her son, read my above posts where I mentioned what I meant in detail. WHAT VARSHA DID WAS WRONG, but Bhavna is not behavibng like a decent person either - I repeat this is not a Saas vs Bahu debate, forget about Varsha for now and just look at Bhavna's behaviour.

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#14

u r saying that bhavana is a bad mother in law

but did sulochana even once apologised & said sorry to satish bcoz of such a big loss varsha has caused to him

is sulochana a good mother in law then .... she is just taking her damaad for granted

karanjkars r utter selfish ...... & i genuinely dont feel bhavana is wrong anywhere

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xyzee

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Posted: 14 years ago

#15

Originally posted by: prasad1991
u r saying that bhavana is a bad mother in law

but did sulochana even once apologised & said sorry to satish bcoz of such a big loss varsha has caused to him

is sulochana a good mother in law then .... she is just taking her damaad for granted

karanjkars r utter selfish ...... & i genuinely dont feel bhavana is wrong anywhere

A lot has been said about Sulochana and others - just because I am saying Bhavna is not behaving good recently does not mean I am supporting others - here I am discussing only one character Bhavna, period. And I still stand by what I said, I am fortunate not to have a MIL like Bhavna😆

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heloise

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Posted: 14 years ago

#16

Over the days, I have read a lot of posts unequivocally criticising Varsha for having aborted her baby. I suppose I am the only one who feels she wasn't all wrong... I agree that she should have atleast informed her husband...but still...what about all the pressure she was being subjected to?
Remember...she didn't want the baby in the first place... it was a mistake. She just wasn't ready for the baby... that her reason for that was her career is another matter.. the important thing is she wasn't ready for it... On top of that, she was being pressurised to reduce her workload and basically make the baby the only priority. So she cracked under the pressure...is that so wrong? What about the constant bickering by the MIL or even the cool and calm advice by the husband? Come on..she is a grown woman...there's a limit to how much of advice and orders a person can take...
I think there's a sort of universal opinion that women should think that having babies is the most important thing in the world... I don't understand why that is so...Everyone has their own priorities... and these change with time...

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Sonii

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Posted: 14 years ago

#17

I can understand your point.

No one is support of abortion, Varsha is the responsible for the situation created by her.

I see it this way, if bhavna aai wouldnt have forced her at that time to have a child and would have supported her job as preference this all wouldnt have happened.

Obviously after some months Varsha realized how much importance a child holds in a woman's life, she was willing eagerly to become mother. She was ignorant about this feeling and this came up with time, exactly this time must have been given to a girl to think about her life, she will definitely understand this.

But forcing her to have a child again and again had a negative impact and hence abortion.

The hiding part was done by both Satish and Varsha from Bhavna aai, both got enough of hammering for it, and they deserved this

But again started with pota pota jap????

I understand grandma has equal haq on grandson, but cant she wait for some time?

She would have shown concern for Varsha that she wont be mother again, this is also a big suffering in itself!!

All in all I just want to say that give time, pota's never pop out whenever we demand, they are not in their late 30's or early 40's to say that time is running out.

All are in equal pain, just support will take them through this tough time.....

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Dabulls23

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Posted: 14 years ago

#18

I already have posted about how Bhavna was wrong pressurizing Varshu during that time and bit overbearing...If u go back few months u would read it...It would have been better if Varshu had not gotten pregnant..

Although she was on pills she got pregnant so sub kismat ka khel ya phir SaSha not being careful..

Yes Bhavna was out of line than but now Varshu is facing the consequencies of her own deed..

Having a child is SaSha's decision and not Bhavnas..But eventually all parents want to be grandparents be it pota or poti...

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xyzee

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Posted: 14 years ago

#19

Originally posted by: heloise
Over the days, I have read a lot of posts unequivocally criticising Varsha for having aborted her baby. I suppose I am the only one who feels she wasn't all wrong... I agree that she should have atleast informed her husband...but still...what about all the pressure she was being subjected to?
Remember...she didn't want the baby in the first place... it was a mistake. She just wasn't ready for the baby... that her reason for that was her career is another matter.. the important thing is she wasn't ready for it... On top of that, she was being pressurised to reduce her workload and basically make the baby the only priority. So she cracked under the pressure...is that so wrong? What about the constant bickering by the MIL or even the cool and calm advice by the husband? Come on..she is a grown woman...there's a limit to how much of advice and orders a person can take...
I think there's a sort of universal opinion that women should think that having babies is the most important thing in the world... I don't understand why that is so...Everyone has their own priorities... and these change with time...

I agree with you for the most part but Abortion is a sensitive subject. Being a very career oriented woman myself I totally understood where she was coming from in terms of not wanting a baby at THAT time. However aborting a baby in haste and not informing anyone was wrong in my opinion. I know I would not have done that - I would have probably tried to juggle my career and baby though that is undoubtedly not easy. I also agree that there is only so much an adult can take lying down. That is why I said all that I did about Bhavna - here my main focus was Bhavna and her horrible (in my opinion) behaviour the last few days. I do think Varsha also behaves like a jerk recently but her MIL is becoming intolerable too.

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Sonii

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Posted: 14 years ago

#20

@ Varsha di, I agree your post on first page, I dont thing Bhavna aai's demand is gender specific ( be it pota or poti) she is open for all, just that it is said in that way....

Like in marathi, my grandma says naatu ( its not gender specific) there is no such word in hindi....( I can be ignorant abt that, open for correction)

Who knows with time, Varsha would be able to concieve again 😊

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