My two cents ................
About being 'ashamed' of Archana's family ...............Society in Dombivli .........traditional marathi society is like this only . Gossip prone , paying more attention to customs rather than the values propogating them , praising political correctness rather than truth . . Its not easy to survive in this society by being the odd one out . Shravani was the odd one out and see what she faced . She doesnt exactly have respect , does she ?This Society will not accept 'Good friends after divorce' at all . Even if some do upwardly , there will be a lot of snickering behind the back . So if Archna and Manav expect their 'Pavitra Rishta' to be accepted , they r in for a rude shock , and thats exactly what is being shown . When u r in Rome , behave as the romans do , is the diktat of the world , not just Dombivlites . . Sulochana is a limited woman . She is a part of that society . She knows only two ways of survival .......getting daughters married and hanging on to the son even if bahu doesn't want her . My own mother is exactly like this . Judging these mothers as bad and calling them villains is not entirely correct . They r simply surviving within That social framework , thats all . These mothers educate daughters , see them getting jobs and then start planning for their marraige . Its very rare that u find a mother who educates daughter , sees her doing job and says Oh Ok , U don't wanna marry na , Ok . I respect ur decision .My blessings to u for remaining single . Do we honestly see such mothers in that society ? . If u can , see it from Sulochnas POV . Other two daughters nicely married off and happy , so is son . When she and Manohar die , Archana will have to make a home with her bro and his bitchy wife , looking after their kids ..............what a horrible future .She will grow into an old maid bearing Manju's taunts and not really having anything of her own ....everything will be Manju's . 90% of spinsters live like this with bros and bhabhis and we all know their fate . Is Sulo so wrong in wanting her re settled ? . So she agreed to look into the proposal that Dharmesh brought her . But the daughter is fixated on her ex .......Manav , who is a 'good man' but not really giving her any hope as such . In fact the good man is moving on in life by marrying HIS fiancee . . But daughter is saying , I will live with his mEMORIES . Which mom on earth will accept this ? To all those blaming sulo , look at your moms and ask urself if u had given this answer to ur mom in this very same condition , wud she have agreed ? . I didn't see Sulo denying Manav's goodness . I see her taking a resigned attitude that Ok , he is good , but whats the use ? He is marrying someone else ! But what about my daughter ? . I have two daughters of my own . I wud worry EXACTLY in the same way .If even one daughter wud tell me of some PAVITRA RISHTA , I wud say Pavitra Rishta my foot , now u sit here and LISTEN to me . . Seeing that Daughter is just not listening she told Manav to convince her as Archana only listened to Manav . I have argued with saffy that its not really Manavs place to convince Archu to marry , blaming Manav here and laying guilt trip on him is wrong . Saffy said that from mothers POV , Sulo is not so wrong . Perhaps Saffy is right . If u leave the rectitude part out of it , all she is asking is her daughter to move on too . . Manav cud have refused Sulochana. I am sorry , I wont go and force Archu . She has done enough for me , this is HER decision . Let world call me selfish , I wont do it . But He did it AFTER LISTENING TO SAVITA . Not just SUlochana , mind u . ALWAYS , it has been the weakness of this character that he listens to his MOTHER .Savita reiterated Sulochnas worry and justified it . That affected Manav deeply and he went and emotionally blackmailed Archu into marrying Jaywant Rane . . By that time Sulochna had ACTUALLY listened to Archus decision grudgingly and RETREATED . . Archana refused to listen to manav at first . What did our hero do ? . I won't marry Shravni till u do so , he said , knowing exactly where to twist the knife . .
Two days later , Shravni pays a visit , blasts Archna and informs her manav is REALLY not marrying her after making her wait for two years as his condition his ......Archana shud get married FIRST .
Hearing that , Archna realises that Manav is actually acting upon his threat . He is REALLY not marrying Shravni . She buckles and goes straight to Jays house and asks him if his proposal still stands .
Actually Sulochna has retreated by now , so had Jaywant after archnas refusal .
So who took the decision and why ?
Did Archu take it for her old moms sake ? Or for Manavs sake ?
Neither did Archna take this decision for Sulo nor coz she was afraid of Shravnis curses . She understood that Manav is really not marrying Shravni thru Shravnis tirade and that affected her .Manav knew where to hit emotionally to get what he wanted .
We don't see Manav even considering that Archnas choice in marraige is important , forcing her this way is just not done . He cud have gone to sulo and told I talked to her , she is just not listening .He didnt do that .He FORCED her hand .
Manav has pretty antiquated ideas for a young man doesn't he ? He actually went to Jay and told him Archna is STILL PURE coz she is still a VIRGIN .
Before saying Manohar and sulo r the antiquated ones ..........see what Manav is . To save Shravnis honor he took away Archnas honor by reducing her from married woman to other woman , then went and forced her into remarraige , then went and told her fiancee she is pure coz she is virgin . This is the POOR Manav whom u all r defending by blasting Sulochana.
After initial maraige misunderstandings ...........created by Manav's mom btw [ lying her son is engineer and what not and doing horrible dowry demands] Sulochna , to her credit had given the marraige a chance . Even before divorce she had invited this coupl;e for lunch ad repeatedly prayed to them NOT to divorce . They dID NOT LISTEN . Coz they were interested in SAINTHOOD .
They actually wanted to be the PATRON SAINTS of DOMBIVLI .
before glorifying the leads and bashing other characters who are shown as pretty real and looking out for themselves and uninterested in sainthood , See what Manav Archna did . The other characters r IMPERFECT HUMANS .Manav Archna r HUMANS TRYING TO BE SAINTS . And we all know what happens to saints , don't we ? Read their live stories and see the suffering they undergo . And Thats precisely watz being shown in this serial .
Edited by koolsadhu1000 - 14 years ago
Indian Idol 15
