@koolsadhu:
Okay, I read all these posts at one go today.
Koolsadhu, I agree with all your defenses about Shravani.
I feel really bad for the girl. I like the fact that she is making an effort to accept her new relationship and appreciates Manav's decency and nature (who wouldn't?) and as I had said before, if situations were different, I would even have been interested in seeing how this plot develops... Shravani falling in love with the man who saves her honour and gives her child (her 'mistake') a father's love... it would have been very touching... in fact with the concern Manav is pouring out for the baby it would not be unrealistic to expect that Shravani will fall in love with Manav very soon.
But as I said situations are different. And here I'm not talking about the fact that I want to see ArMan together... there are other issues.
the simple thing is that Shravani KNOWS that Manav is not happy, he is in love with someone else, and the woman loves him back, he is killing himself by getting married to her.... and that she and she alone has the power to stop it... coz Manav is right now trying his best to fulfill his 'responsibility' and is too selfless to stand up for his own happiness. Yet she is going ahead with the marriage.
Okay I accept your argument that she has become selfish for the baby. But selfish to the extent that you become insensitive? Her father pressurized Manav for sindoor filling ceremony and give 'proof' of commitment (he didn't suggest about sindoor but he did say I want proof of your commitment to my daughter.. and then didn't protest when savita asked Manav to put sindoor) , then again for engagement... at this point seeing that situations are clearly not easy for Manav... shouldn't she have a basic level of sensitivity for her to-be husband... in her heart she says that she is so lucky to have a husband like Manav... in front of Manav she says she trusts him, then why couldn't she say in front of her Dad that he is my to-be husband and I trust him to stand by his word.. he has supported me till here, I have faith that he will stand by me in future as well.... if she was bold enough to make decisions like child-bearing, abortion, or asking for gurudakshina on her own, she could have done it too.. couldn't she...
in fact I would have myself felt sorry for her thinking she is slowly falling for Manav and trusts him and cares for him whereas he is marrying out of compromise.. but the current scenario doesn't make me feel sorry for her.
Everyone criticized Manav for not being sensitive and getting engaged to Shravani in front of Archana.. I myself said it was an extreme step, who knows maybe Archana could have committed suicide. This same insensitivity I see from Shravani's side- knowing that your to-be husband isn't happy, loves someone else, is dying slowly, and is getting married only for the sake of your honour and your baby (coz the class that the Deshmukh family belongs to... I doubt if any harm will come to the Deshmukhs or late Sachin's reputation.. people point fingers at the girl in these affairs)... and is even bending forwards and backwards trying to keep your Dad happy for the same... putting sindoor in your maang, getting engaged-all before divorce... see how chawl people spoke about Manav bcoz of that... can't Shravani just see and be a bit human at least by asking her father not to put pressure on Manav any more? The guy that he is, he succumbs and compromises for others sake all the time, so should she let her future husband do this all the time to keep her future secure and her father satisfied? Just like I had said that Archana could have committed suicide due to the sindoor episode, I say that if situations don't change for Manav- all this pressure piling up on him and him fighting against his own guilt and the repression of his own feelings for Archana- THIS GUY WILL EITHER GO INTO CLINICAL DEPRESSION, OR HAVE A NERVOUS BREAKDOWN OR MAY EVEN COMMIT SUICIDE IF UNABLE TO HANDLE ALL THIS- I am not saying Manav is not responsible for this condition, he is, but what I am trying to point is that
1. Shravani is the only person aware of all these three things (all this pressure piling up on him and him fighting against his own guilt and the repression of his own feelings for Archana)
2. She is aware of the fact that she is the only person who knows of all this in the family (another one is Tarun- but be did what he could do from his side)
3. she chooses to IGNORE it even though she knows he is doing it all for HER sake since he has given her his commitment.
She is fair in making attempts for her marriage, but then why does she speak out about Sachin in front of everyone suddenly all the time- Sachin liked this and that, especially when they are all in a happy mood, thus showing that 'much as I want I really can't forget my Sachu'. Lets go back to what I had said in the beginning about circumstances being different and Shravani and Manav being the only two in picture with no Archana- wouldn't Manav have felt sad thinking that in a few days he is going to marry this girl who is still besotted by Sachin so much that she doesn't even mind saying it loudly in public, in front of her future husband, without thinking how he would feel. That is why wrote about it in my first post in this topic.
Sorry, much as I try to be fair to the character, I can't help feeling frustrated coz of these very reasons. And a very important reason- that of impressions as a viewer-I have seen enough of Manav's or Archana's character and actions in the last few months that I know that they are foolish, dumb people who often make mistakes but are nevertheless selfless, caring, sacrificing and extremely protective towards family and also sensitive. It is on this basis, that I had said that I am angry with Manav for being insensitive in the sindoor filling ceremony, but I can't hate him for that, rather I would prefer that he feels sorry for it and terribly guilty and apologizes to Archana in front of everybody. Why: coz it was the first time in the last few months that I was genuinely angry with him over something.
But it is not so in the case of Shravani- her character has come into strong focus only since the pregnancy track came up- little over a month- before that she was a side character making an appearance once in a week- and what impression have I got of her in this one month- that she is insensitive to the person who is doing so much for her.
All this is solely my POV. I don't expect everyone to agree or disagree, coz its not just ArMan, but I guess many factors that combined together are resulting in this backlash against a positive character.
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