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Originally posted by: NimbuMirchi

He didn’t say that. He said don’t keep mentioning Imarti. And she was anyway speaking good for Imarti and not something that could hurt him.

Truee. She just wanted to appreciate him and tell him that Imarti must have been a lucky woman to get his love. Though I get why HS doesn't want her to bring up Imarti, Babita bringing up Imarti didn't have malicious intent.

And to be fair to Babita, she hasn't brought up Imarti since that day.

Originally posted by: zehreeli.kheer

Also hanuman cannot be given a clean chit.. he misled Babita and gave her a false sense of securitywhule confessing his feelings

Babita married in the impression that things would be perfect family types.. Hanuman Mini consider each other father daughter.. Hanuman Babita love each other.. what could be the ptoblem? All the problems they gave had has been related to Mini Hanuman equation.. if they had been clear that ith Babita from the start, things could have been different..

Babita would have anyways scolded Mini about Micky but the Ashok thing would not have come up

Babita might be the one throwing tantrums.. but both Hanuman and Mini too have a role to play in it

HS is not completely innocent in this. If he says, he called Mini his daughter to assure Babita, how was Babita supposed to know that? In HS's own word, usse sapna toh nahi ayega na that he did this just to assure her.

Yes, Babita loves Hanuman and wanted to marry him, but one of the main reason for her to give in to this marriage was also because of HS-Mini's bond. Agar wohh dono baap-beti kehte nahi firte then she wouldn't have this much expectations from HS.

I will say though Babita gets carried away with Log Kya Kahenge a lot and ends up reacting impulsively, like comparing Mini to Meeta, asking HS to prove his love for Mini and sagi beti. So, no one's giving Babita clean chit. She's clearly not innocent in all this, but neither is HS.

No one stopped HS from reaching out to Mini and there were plenty of opportunities. Ab he didn't reach out to Mini because he didn't feel like it, or he was crushed after CD incident, or whatever the reason was is not the point anymore. Point is he didn't.

Both Hanuman and Babita have faltered. Point is apologize, stop giving and having false expectations from each other, talk to Mini as one unit, and freaking move on. HS-Mini will ever become father-daughter is not even the freaking point anymore.

Originally posted by: ssuuvvii

They will hide and alsl expect her to understand everything & when she won't be able to understand both will yell at her & blame her upar se they both will never say sorry and if they have to say sorry they will act like victim of Babita's ego 🤢at the end Babita will say sorry and both will feel inside they are drinking zeher for Babita's sake and doing ehsaan on her ..

Thats how the writers would wanna show it

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

HS is not completely innocent in this. If he says, he called Mini his daughter to assure Babita, how was Babita supposed to know that? In HS's own word, usse sapna toh nahi ayega na that he did this just to assure her.

Yes, Babita loves Hanuman and wanted to marry him, but one of the main reason for her to give in to this marriage was also because of HS-Mini's bond. Agar wohh dono baap-beti kehte nahi firte then she wouldn't have this much expectations from HS.

I will say though Babita gets carried away with Log Kya Kahenge a lot and ends up reacting impulsively, like comparing Mini to Meeta, asking HS to prove his love for Mini and sagi beti. So, no one's giving Babita clean chit. She's clearly not innocent in all this, but neither is HS.

No one stopped HS from reaching out to Mini and there were plenty of opportunities. Ab he didn't reach out to Mini because he didn't feel like it, or he was crushed after CD incident, or whatever the reason was is not the point anymore. Point is he didn't.

Both Hanuman and Babita have faltered. Point is apologize, stop giving and having false expectations from each other, talk to Mini as one unit, and freaking move on. HS-Mini will ever become father-daughter is not even the freaking point anymore.

I don't know about Babita but HS needs to go back to being his old perceptive self who was always paying attention to even the small things. He needs to trust his instincts and deal with Minnie the way he used to in the past. I hope it gets there eventually. I'm not saying Minnie shouldn't put in any effort but he's the adult so he should lead. He should not let Babita's words get to him or weigh on his methods. He should bond with Minnie because he loves her and cares or her well-being. Doing any of this for Babita or to conform to her image of her daughter's father is not going to work.

@bold what is the point, as you see it?

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

HS is not completely innocent in this. If he says, he called Mini his daughter to assure Babita, how was Babita supposed to know that? In HS's own word, usse sapna toh nahi ayega na that he did this just to assure her.

Yes, Babita loves Hanuman and wanted to marry him, but one of the main reason for her to give in to this marriage was also because of HS-Mini's bond. Agar wohh dono baap-beti kehte nahi firte then she wouldn't have this much expectations from HS.

I will say though Babita gets carried away with Log Kya Kahenge a lot and ends up reacting impulsively, like comparing Mini to Meeta, asking HS to prove his love for Mini and sagi beti. So, no one's giving Babita clean chit. She's clearly not innocent in all this, but neither is HS.

No one stopped HS from reaching out to Mini and there were plenty of opportunities. Ab he didn't reach out to Mini because he didn't feel like it, or he was crushed after CD incident, or whatever the reason was is not the point anymore. Point is he didn't.

Both Hanuman and Babita have faltered. Point is apologize, stop giving and having false expectations from each other, talk to Mini as one unit, and freaking move on. HS-Mini will ever become father-daughter is not even the freaking point anymore.

Babita would have left haveli had she not seen HS and Minnie crying and feeding each other that omelette Minnie made. That scene made babita guilty of separating the duo and she proposed the next morning. Minnie HS dynamic was actually a very big reason, cause at that time she was still hurt with paraya mard philosophy and HS didn't really gave a hoot about introspection or apology. In a way, HS-minnie drama coerced babita into proposing to HS for a reason that was nothing but delusion.

Hanuman making Imarti a no go area is hypocricy.. if Ashok can be mentioned so can Imarti..

I have said it before.. it was quite hypocritical of Hanuman to want Babita to come to him without any past baggage and yet expect Babita to accept Imarti as a part of him..

In a lot of ways, Babita has let Hanuman off the hook way too easily.. as immature as she is shown to be, they could definitely have shown hwr having a problem with many things, big things that she chose to ignore

Originally posted by: inlieu

WHAT?????? Aap ne aisa socha bhi kaise? HS ko pain hota hai? Nahin ji, saari takleefein to sirf maa beti ko hoti hai, HS ke to jazbaat hi nahin hai, woh care hi nahin karta.

Aur kaise kuch share karega Babita se? I don't see it happening anytime soon seeing the way she reacts.

Agreed...

Originally posted by: inlieu

I don't know about Babita but HS needs to go back to being his old perceptive self who was always paying attention to even the small things. He needs to trust his instincts and deal with Minnie the way he used to in the past. I hope it gets there eventually. I'm not saying Minnie shouldn't put in any effort but he's the adult so he should lead. He should not let Babita's words get to him or weigh on his methods. He should bond with Minnie because he loves her and cares or her well-being. Doing any of this for Babita or to conform to her image of her daughter's father is not going to work.

@bold what is the point, as you see it?

What I mean is that this whole issue that have cropped up in the trio's life was because of what Kammo said and that CD incident. Before that nobody cared to think about how the dynamics will change after Hanita's marriage. Everyone was in their own la la land.

First of all, they all need to sit down and have an honest conversation with each other, and address the issue on hand... what Mini expects from HS-Babita, what HS-Babita expect from Mini. They need to clear the air, there is so many underlying issues that was swept under the carpet. Mini needs to first apologize to Babita for calling her selfish over Khuranas issues, and for being rude to her saying she lost control over her feelings with HS, Babita needs to apologize to Mini for comparing her to Meeta and for the thapad, HS needs to apologize to Mini for saying your father kicked you out of the house, and that this is not yours, but mine and your mother's house. Mini also needs to be honest about her feelings to both HS and Babita. First deal with the issue on hand, and move on.

HS-Mini becoming father-daughter will probably happen gradually (don't know cant trust cvs anymore), but needn't be forced. However, Babita expecting this from HS is not completely wrong, yes she's too hyper about it and again her approach is wrong, but the underlying thing is she also wants HS-Mini to become father-daughter like we all do. HS-Mini both need to sit down and have a conversation with Babita about their relationship status, and stop coddling her. I don't care what people say about Babita won't understand. How about first tell her before making that judgement. Even if she didn't at least you were honest, and at least now no one has any false expectations from each other, and won't be hurt over it.

Originally posted by: zehreeli.kheer

Hanuman making Imarti a no go area is hypocricy.. if Ashok can be mentioned so can Imarti..

I have said it before.. it was quite hypocritical of Hanuman to want Babita to come to him without any past baggage and yet expect Babita to accept Imarti as a part of him..

In a lot of ways, Babita has let Hanuman off the hook way too easily.. as immature as she is shown to be, they could definitely have shown hwr having a problem with many things, big things that she chose to ignore

In episode 159 Hs said to NB- kirayedarni ji naye purane rishton to tor mror ke agar mere saath Rishta jora bhi toh ke Jora... kion abhi bhi un rishton mein uska jivan basa pada hai...aur aise mein agar jo mujhe millegi to adhi adhoori millegi, puri thodi millegi... bhai main daughter ki mother ko aadhi adhori loon...muje to puri chaiye bhai sampooran ek roop mein in one piece... manne chahiye woh sabhi purane naye rishton ke saath... khatte meethe saare anubhavon ke saath... un saari kharashon ke saath..... main uske past ko wash nahi karna chahta ...jaisi hai uni purani baaton ke saath usi mann ke saath...jaisi ki vaisi aisi chahiye....manne koi usme addition - subtraction nahi karna....

Originally posted by: Roopb

In episode 159 Hs said to NB- kirayedarni ji naye purane rishton to tor mror ke agar mere saath Rishta jora bhi toh ke Jora... kion abhi bhi un rishton mein uska jivan basa pada hai...aur aise mein agar jo mujhe millegi to adhi adhoori millegi, puri thodi millegi... bhai main daughter ki mother ko aadhi adhori loon...muje to puri chaiye bhai sampooran ek roop mein in one piece... manne chahiye woh sabhi purane naye rishton ke saath... khatte meethe saare anubhavon ke saath... un saari kharashon ke saath..... main uske past ko wash nahi karna chahta ...jaisi hai uni purani baaton ke saath usi mann ke saath...jaisi ki vaisi aisi chahiye....manne koi usme addition - subtraction nahi karna....

Thats what I mean.. Usse Babita adhi nahi chahie.. lekin Babita ko Hanuman as a parcel of Imarti Mila.. Is that really fair?

For example.. in Punar Vivah, when Yash accepted Arti wholeheartedly, one of the first things he did was remove his first wife's picture from his room.. Babita however proposed Hanuman by making her place besides Imarti.. you see the point?

Past ko wash nahi karna chahta lekin past se emotional detachment he wanted.. something he himself was unable to do

My point is that Imarti should not be a no go area for both of them.. Babita would anyways never use Imarti with any malicious intent so ehy make her mention a big deal?