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This is another one of my analysis of what was best part of Kunal's attempt at regaining his Parichay. I am not saying this is the only part. Kunal is such a vast, larger than life, complicated character that I can write so many such posts.
I think best part of Kunal's Parichay was post consummation to confession. Many have said that Kunal was really lost since Feb and Siddhi came into more prominance, well I think it was appropriate that way. Allow me to explain
Consummation really forced Kunal to face his reality and make peace with his past. Consummation brought immense guilt in Kunal. few reasons: Kunal felt he betrayed his duty as brother, he broke his promise of "seema - rekha", broken bangles made him believe he may have somehow forced Siddhi, and above all his happiness with his life. Since marriage, Kunal was slowly getting back into his life, fulfilling his responsibilities and again living a normal happy life. Well what led Kunal to such happy life after 5 years of depression? Siddhi - she came as his 2nd chance and helped him stand up again. Why did Siddhi came to his life? Because Anand (his younger brother) dies. So the reason Kunal is able to have a life again is because Anand died. Kunal forgetting Anand's barsi brought all this guilt up? This guilt was SO MUCH intensified by perceived rejection of love from Siddhi. Yes. Kunal did have valid reasons to feel guilty, but Siddhi was slowly bringing sense of peace in him.
If you guys remember Kunal semi-drunken confession in front of Richa, Kunal says, "Siddhi I love. the way you have supported me, took care of me and my family" I see need for acceptance on Kunal's part here. We know Richa had rejected Kunal for being Kunal and even his family had lost hope in Kunal and felt that he is wrong and stubborn. But Siddhi had truly loved and accepted Kunal in way no one else did.
Consummation brought guilt, sense of wrongdoing (perceived force, loving your brother's love) and later Richa's accusation brought pain. But what was worst for Kunal was perception that Siddhi doesn't love him as seen in one of my favorite scene of Feb. ME - Kunal telling Siddhi, "you don't even love me. our marriage is just a compromise, you have no feelings for me".
Upto now we knew Kunal as good brother, man never doing anything wrong, respecting his boundaries, etc. But consummation made him think he violated these things. But worst was perceived rejection. When witcha rejected Kunal he collapsed, here his true love Siddhi didn't accept his love. So he is not a good brother, he broke his promise to Siddhi, couldn't take care of his mother and Siddhi as he promised Anand, did something wrong - that is not what Kunal is? But worst was perceived rejection of his love, Kunal doesn't know who he is?
Now how does one come out such mess of guilt, pain, love, etc. Man needs to find true acceptance and love. Here until Siddhi would have shown Kunal that she does accept him and love him for what he is, it would be next to impossible for Kunal to get over it. So Siddhi's actions of fighting Kunal's case, her efforts to show Kunal how much he means to her and also trying to make kunal realize his love was right moves. hence focus on Siddhi.
How do I know Kunal needed acceptance from Siddhi? Remember holi confession, "Kunal liked that Siddhi claims her right on him like no one else. She tolerates him and engages like no one else. Her behavior towards Kunal makes him feel attached." So during this time Kunal was battling with guilt and love. No wonder he acted impulsive as at times guilt or love would take over. it was getting hard for him to resist his love for Siddhi and it became impossible once Siddhi was kidnapped and Kunal felt he almost lost her. During kidnapping, Raj does tell Kunal he is in love and he has found his identity. Nothing else mattered more than Siddhi.
See Kunal was always a son, brother, good lawyer, had family with him and all. But that didn't help his identity. What helped him was once he became a husband. After becoming a husband, he took another stab at life and because of this husband role he found love and made peace with his past, as currently being shown. So it is right if he is more concerned with his role as husband and soon to be father. Being a husband has eventually allowed him to see things clearly, gave him will to fight and a reason to truly live. I am not saying only thing he should do is be a husband and just hold his wife's hands for ever. No but even for being a good husband, he needs to have financial stability. So next step is right here man.
I consider this phase as best for Kunal's Parichay as he resolved issues of past, guilt and love. From here on he is willing to make changes and fight for things he cares, not just giving up as he did in past. The guilt issue I talked about is most often seen with soldiers returning form active combat. those who return feel guilty that they are alive because other's lost their lives. This guilt is even worse if those who died were younger. In such cases, clinical psychology suggests families of such soldiers should provide atmosphere that shows acceptance and love. Acceptance from a loved one is what helps one come over such guilt and really give them sense of who they are and why they should go on to live.
I know some have felt that Kunal was lost from Feb on. Given my educational background in psychology, this phase appears most important to me. here Kunal successfully faced his past, accepted his reality and needs, his vulnerabilities and finally surrendered himself to his love.
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