Pandya Store | Episode Discussion #241 - Page 91

So Shiva only has a problem with being told he married the store because he considers it as his mother and not that it is a building...

Does Shweta even remember she is supposed to pretend to be pregnant. Why so much jumping and running?

Originally posted by: sakshi.ekansh

The problem is Raavi loves with all her heart. She has given everything to this man and his family but every time he proves that he does not deserve her unconditional love. Its just not the current situation that is bringing the point that Raavi should leave Shiva, Its the series of events with false allegations, man handling, public shaming, name calling, character assassination, throwing out of the house countless times and multiple divorces that could have been avoided if she would have left him the day he said yes to marry Disha or he misbehaved with her for the first time(Not considering the fun banters here).

All that girl has received is hatred and pain from this family, time and again. And instead of showing her a bechari dobi, they should make her speak for herself a little more strongly.

The biggest issue is her mistreatment isn't shown as such. They keep adding comedic background music to downplay it every single time while making him out to be a bigger victim. It's always been his 'hurt' that is highlighted. Every wrong action is accompanied by excuses. That act as if whatever happened with her wasn't such a big deal and she should easily move past it.

I'm okay with them depicting her as helpless as long as they present her pain and suffering properly. Show her as a person who is broken and doesn't know what to do. Show her affected by the family's refusal to help her. Show her loneliness. Just please for once don't make it into comedy.

Originally posted by: deeps07

Yes..and yes its a fact that many people tend to be scared to come out of an abusive relation..maybe ravi can't think of a life beyond this family..better or worse...i can even understand that..but what irks me is the dialogues which makes her say she is lucky to be shivas gowri..this is one perfect family..i am sure any women who has been suffering this many abuses will understand that this family is abusive to her..this husband doesnt love her..i cant relate this to anybody..

Raavi is a character who has always craved for love and acceptance. She's willing to mould herself into being the kind of person her partner wants. She also seems to hold the institution of marriage quite high.

Someone like that won't find it easy to break free from a relationship until and unless she realises her husband doesn't actually love her or treat her right. And that is something this show is unwilling to do.

She has almost been brainwashed into believing she can only be happy with him. The family kept telling her how lucky she is to be with Shiva. She clearly sees her marriage through rose-tinted glasses otherwise she would notice how she was such a happy soul before marriage and has been through nothing but pain and suffering since. Her not having any other family might also be the reason for her to try and desperately hold on to what and who she does have.

I sadly don't think it's unrealistic. There are so many people who stay in or keep going back to worse relationships. The problem is the romanticisation and glorification of them. She is a victim and should be shown as such. That's the least they can do.

Originally posted by: anoniyaa

Raavi is a character who has always craved for love and acceptance. She's willing to mould herself into being the kind of person her partner wants. She also seems to hold the institution of marriage quite high.

Someone like that won't find it easy to break free from a relationship until and unless she realises her husband doesn't actually love her or treat her right. And that is something this show is unwilling to do.

She has almost been brainwashed into believing she can only be happy with him. The family kept telling her how lucky she is to be with Shiva. She clearly sees her marriage through rose-tinted glasses otherwise she would notice how she was such a happy soul before marriage and has been through nothing but pain and suffering since. Her not having any other family might also be the reason for her to try and desperately hold on to what and who she does have.

I sadly don't think it's unrealistic. There are so many people who stay in or keep going back to worse relationships. The problem is the romanticisation and glorification of them. She is a victim and should be shown as such. That's the least they can do.

Romanticisation is the problem...staying on..needing to be in this relationship..all are possible....but finding this relationship to be a blessing..that she is treated best by this man...and not once she wonders why she is never respected or valued like others..thats unrealistic..

Ravi is no more a kid..and no matter how much selfish and cunning mami has been...mami never harassed or abused ravi to an extend that ravi thinks the harassement she faces in the hands of pandyas are love..

Today ravi said they all dnt care becz she is an orphan..but she will never ponder on it...once shiva gets back his memory in the last minute of his marrg with another women, she will go back to thinking that this perfect family is the best thing in the world..

Originally posted by: deeps07

Romanticisation is the problem...staying on..needing to be in this relationship..all are possible....but finding this relationship to be a blessing..that she is treated best by this man...and not once she wonders why she is never respected or valued like others..thats unrealistic..

Ravi is no more a kid..and no matter how much selfish and cunning mami has been...mami never harassed or abused ravi to an extend that ravi thinks the harassement she faces in the hands of pandyas are love..

Today ravi said they all dnt care becz she is an orphan..but she will never ponder on it...once shiva gets back his memory in the last minute of his marrg with another women, she will go back to thinking that this perfect family is the best thing in the world..

Yes, that's why I say it's almost as if she has been brainwashed. After coming back for Dhara, Raavi wasn't really made to question Shiva and their marriage much. Even when she ever did, she was the one made out to be in the wrong. She put her dignity aside and prioritised her 'family'.

Their relationship wasn't just one-sided in terms of efforts but also power dynamics. It's not only a question of respect and value but also standing. He genuinely seemed to look down upon her. Where else would the entitled attitude come from. One doesn't demand another person to always be doing something for them without reciprocating if they truly considered them an equal. The lack of guilt he felt and the ease & speed at which he forgave himself every time for whatever he did to her, while expecting and some times even forcing her to do the same, made it difficult to believe in his so-called love. The fact that he was capable of treating people properly, as demonstrated by his behaviour towards Suman and Dhara, but chose not to do so for his wife was just sad to watch. The worst part being none of this was ever called out in the writing. It's as if they were trying to normalise it and diminish his actions.

Even if Shivank's intentions are not right, I still hope he makes Raavi realise she needs to stand up for herself, do some long-overdue reflecting and face the reality of the people around her. At least he can do some good even if for his own selfish motives.

Episode# 759

Shivank instigates Raavi

I don’t see this track ending well for Raavi.- three ways

- if she goes against Dhara and anyagonize the family

- if Dhara fails to stop the marriage

- if Shiva still marries inspite of Dhara’s opposition and her failed attempt

I don’t see his memory returning back any time soon and the family members are not ready to tell the truth, not letting Raavi also tell the truth. Also no medical intervention or therapy being given

Shivank instigating her on one side and Bhabima has officially taken over the track. We all know what happens when Bhabima gets involved in devars marriage, its going to be a disaster and her track record says that she has ruined/destroyed multiple lives over the years.

If Bhabima sats sge will get Prerna- Piddhi married m, the opposite happened - Shweta- Piddhi got married and Prerna was cheated by Bhabima, Shivank and Shweta.

This time again Bhabima is against Bailbuddhi and Gobarwaali’s marriage that means she is going to screw up yet again to maintain her track record, so possibility of the marriage happening. Moreover after knowing Bailbuddhi is Dhara’s devar, Gobarwaali might be all the more interested in marrying him to take revenge in Bhabima.

Raavi is vulnerable going to get manipulated as she knows Kandyas are not supporting her.

No words on Bailbuddhi, he is just a lost cause, Instead of finding about his past through other means if his family is not spilling the truth, he has become this despo who just wants a wife to romance, cook for him and procreate, acting all stimulated and excited😕 The idiot is still proceeding with the alliance inspite of family opposition says a lot about his ghatiya character😔

We all know the brothers are useless and stupid but to show 2 of them as bigamists is going to be a huge blow😔
Just to keep the story revolving around Bjabima, her trials and tribulations, they are decimating all the other characters and jodis 😡

Originally posted by: mpks1

Episode# 759

Shivank instigates Raavi

I don’t see this track ending well for Raavi.- three ways

- if she goes against Dhara and anyagonize the family

- if Dhara fails to stop the marriage

- if Shiva still marries inspite of Dhara’s opposition and her failed attempt

I don’t see his memory returning back any time soon and the family members are not ready to tell the truth, not letting Raavi also tell the truth.

Shivank instigating her on one side and Bhabima has officially taken over the track. We all know what happens when Bhabima gets involved in devars marriage, its going to be a disaster and her track record says that she has ruined/destroyed multiple lives over the years.

If Bhabima sats sge will get Prerna- Piddhi married m, the opposite happened - Shweta- Piddhi got married and Prerna was cheated by Bhabima, Shivank and Shweta.

This time again Bhabima is against Bailbuddhi and Gobarwaali’s marriage that means she is going to screw up yet again to maintain her track record, so possibility of the marriage happening. Moreover after knowing Bailbuddhi is Dhara’s devar, Gobarwaali might be all the more interested in marrying him to take revenge in Bhabima.

Raavi is vulnerable going to get manipulated as she knows Kandyas are not supporting her.

No words on Bailbuddhi, he is just a lost cause, Instead of finding about his past through other means if his family is not spilling the truth, he has become this despo who just wants a wife to romance, cook for him and procreate, acting all stimulated and excited😕 The idiot is still proceeding with the alliance inspite of family opposition says a lot about his ghatiya character😔

We all know the brothers are useless and stupid but to show 2 of them as bigamists is going to be a huge blow😔
Just to keep the story revolving around Bjabima, her trials and tribulations, they are decimating all the other characters and jodis 😡

Ravi being provoked against dhara..the creep can even add fake stories to provoke her ..not that its needed..dhara does enough kaand on a daily basis to provoke anyone on a daily basis without much help from creeps.🤷‍♀️. ..anyways ravi questioning or accusing dhara can only mean lots of gaalis and abuses on the way for ravi from all the family members..and not to forget her favourite devar..shiva might just finish ravi off now if she says anything against dhara..🤪

Originally posted by: mpks1

Episode# 759

Shivank instigates Raavi

I don’t see this track ending well for Raavi.- three ways

- if she goes against Dhara and anyagonize the family

- if Dhara fails to stop the marriage

- if Shiva still marries inspite of Dhara’s opposition and her failed attempt

I don’t see his memory returning back any time soon and the family members are not ready to tell the truth, not letting Raavi also tell the truth.

Shivank instigating her on one side and Bhabima has officially taken over the track. We all know what happens when Bhabima gets involved in devars marriage, its going to be a disaster and her track record says that she has ruined/destroyed multiple lives over the years.

If Bhabima sats sge will get Prerna- Piddhi married m, the opposite happened - Shweta- Piddhi got married and Prerna was cheated by Bhabima, Shivank and Shweta.

This time again Bhabima is against Bailbuddhi and Gobarwaali’s marriage that means she is going to screw up yet again to maintain her track record, so possibility of the marriage happening. Moreover after knowing Bailbuddhi is Dhara’s devar, Gobarwaali might be all the more interested in marrying him to take revenge in Bhabima.

Raavi is vulnerable going to get manipulated as she knows Kandyas are not supporting her.

No words on Bailbuddhi, he is just a lost cause, Instead of finding about his past through other means if his family is not spilling the truth, he has become this despo who just wants a wife to romance, cook for him and procreate, acting all stimulated and excited😕 The idiot is still proceeding with the alliance inspite of family opposition says a lot about his ghatiya character😔

We all know the brothers are useless and stupid but to show 2 of them as bigamists is going to be a huge blow😔
Just to keep the story revolving around Bjabima, her trials and tribulations, they are decimating all the other characters and jodis 😡

No matter how valid her reasons for doing so may have been, but going or speaking against Dhara has never ended well for Raavi. They might once again show Dhara as the wronged party if she gets upset with her.

But if he is going to do so, I'd prefer Shivank instigate her against the whole family. Maybe that will get her to finally take a stand for herself and speak some hard facts, even if she will eventually regret it and retract them later on.

Why such an urgency to marry? Is there some sort of deadline? How does it make sense for Shiva to be so reckless about choosing his life partner given what happened with Krish. Not that anything else on the show does either.

Originally posted by: anoniyaa

No matter how valid her reasons for doing so may have been, but going or speaking against Dhara has never ended well for Raavi. They might once again show Dhara as the wronged party if she gets upset with her.

But if he is going to do so, I'd prefer Shivank instigate her against the whole family. Maybe that will get her to finally take a stand for herself and speak some hard facts, even if she will eventually regret it and retract them later on.

Why such an urgency to marry? Is there some sort of deadline? How does it make sense for Shiva to be so reckless about choosing his life partner given what happened with Krish. Not that anything else on the show does either.

They have ruined the character shiva too much to be saved at all..tbh even janu has better dignity than shiva in this show..this character has become an insult to his name now..