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Originally posted by: VaishnaviG

Piu please share more about shivi in your perspective.Would love to read 😆

Okay, let me try!

Well, if you look at the narratives that are tropes for the typical Gul Khanesque shows, the naivette female always fixes the guy.

Here, it's a bit different as the man doesn't want to be fixed while the girl isn't interested in fixing either. 😆

One wants to be loved for who he is; the other wants to adjust to a typical marriage.

But, the challenge is, both are brick heads and do not understand what they need from each other. 😆

And, add the layer of childhood enemies. You have the perfect recipe for disaster. 😆

Originally posted by: VaishnaviG

Thanks Premziee ❤️🤗

See I have tried to make them understand but has not worked so far. I think they need me to understand them. But yes I have found my little sister, she can do anything but yes she understands me 😆.And I don’t if I have immense of patience then this will keep happening and if not then I would burst out someday.

My family understands me but not in this perspective and I don’t want to burden them, I have learned to handle it myself.

And I don’t know why , this sounds crazy but I am waiting for a person who would understand my vulnerability. And most probably that person may be my partner.

Vaishu 🤗 Is there anything I can do to help? Please let me know.

I am glad to know that you have your little sister and just like you wished, may you get a partner who truly understands you.

Originally posted by: mpks1

Vaishu 🤗 Is there anything I can do to help? Please let me know.

I am glad to know that you have your little sister and just like you wished, may you get a partner who truly understands you.

No Premziee 🤗 I am all good its just sometimes that happens.

Thanks for the support ❤️.

Originally posted by: VaishnaviG

Yeah it’s like Shiva has his people but they never try to understand him nor he wants to share that its his nature. And Raavi who wants to share but has none.

Shiva is now getting validation from Disha, she has made him special feel which he deserves but who is there to validate Raavi and make her special feel, none at present.

Originally posted by: mpks1

Shiva is now getting validation from Disha, she has made him special feel which he deserves but who is there to validate Raavi and make her special feel, none at present.

Yeah thats why he seems to be confident now a days not sulking like previously he used to do.

Yes Raavi has none.😭

The makers really haven't fleshed Raavi well, and that's my biggest pet peeve.

But, I have seen such passive people in my life who have no extraordinary dreams, ambitions, only wait for the perfect life partner, believe in fairy tales and end up miserable because they don't have any firm stands.

Does this make them bad people? No

Do they deserve the treatment met to Raavi in the show? No

But, Raavi is called an Ulti Khopdi for a reason 😆

I am waiting for her tubelight moment.

Originally posted by: Transference

The makers really haven't fleshed Raavi well, and that's my biggest pet peeve.

But, I have seen such passive people in my life who have no extraordinary dreams, ambitions, only wait for the perfect life partner, believe in fairy tales and end up miserable because they don't have any firm stands.

Does this make them bad people? No

Do they deserve the treatment met to Raavi in the show? No

But, Raavi is called an Ulti Khopdi for a reason 😆

I am waiting for her tubelight moment.

True such people do exists 👍🏼

Originally posted by: VaishnaviG

I guess she is habitual to that remember when Dev abandoned her at the altar then she was forced to get married to Shiva.That time she had expressed her emotions but was there anyone who really cared about her ? To support her ? Dhara aayi sorry boli aur move on karo bolkar chali gayi . Then at haveli, she cried because of the kiss accident tab bhi koyi tha nahi bass log sympathy dekar chale gaye lekin samajhne wala nahi tha koi usse. Phir after teh temple confrontation, woh phir royi aurr express kiya lekin usse koi sunne wala tha ki aisa kya hua ; kiski galti thi ya tujhe kya lag raha hai ? Nahi koi nahi tha uske pass usko support karnewala usse samjhane wala.

Now I will tell you my thing, I have been emotionally drained many times, like people come and hurt me and go.No one comes to aks me whether I am okay or not. This was happening from 5th grade. I was in SSC(State board ) school then shifted to ICSE board. There during first 2-3 years no one used to like me, they used laugh at me for my poor english then how I am not good at studies, how I don’t know many things. No one used to befriend me and the one who did, threw me out of the group because my name’s initials was V and rest of them were S so they wanted to make S initial group. In my family a;Lao my family members love me very much but they have hurted me many times and then haven’t felt anything for me after that. Agar mein rooth bhi jaau like toh koi manane nahi aata mujhe. Lekin meri family mein sab ke jhagde mein solve karti hoon , sabko mein samjhati hoon bhale mein uss mein involve hoon ya nahi.

Toh phir mera yahi ek defence mechanism bann gaya hai ki agar bohot bura laga toh sabke samne fasle smile karo aurr bathroom ya room mein ja kar ro lo.Kyuki mujeh paat hai koyi nahi aanewala mujhe manane aur na samjhane .Sabko yahi lagta hai Aree Vaishnavi toh hamesha hasti rehti hai aurr sabse samjha daar hai . Na hi mein koyi tantrum throw karti hoon aur jab mujeh gussa ata bhi hai toh bhi koyi manane nahi aata kyuki Vaishnavi toh gussa reh hi nahi sakti . I can not stay angry for more than 15 minutes with my loved ones bhale mujeh kitna bhi hurt kiya ho , mein agar unko dekh liya toh muskuraane lagti hoon. So I can understand woh reaction kyun nahi deti itna .

Toh woh Raavi ne express karna hi chodd diya hai kyuki itna bada hi one ke baad yeh choti choti cheezon se farak padta hi nahi hai .

Sorry agar bore kiya toh

No it wasn't a bore, it reminded me of me in a way....

And the fact that people think you can't stay Angry (or can't keep quiet) when angry.... it's too bad🥺

Even I felt that every one was using me and then JuSt not caring if how I felt.....

I spiraled down too (hope it doesn't happen to you, ) and God! I spiraled down bad🤣🤣 and then my parents went 'Suprised' 'shocked'

And that defense mech. I assure u, it's the best thing you come out with (after u are out of this falling down phase) it's the strength that it gives, to face Legit "life" shit and be 'unbothered ' by it.

And like S1 else replied to you..... Try to talk this out, parents don't understand this. (I had been screaming at my parents to notice (nd I'm only daughter with one brother) ......they didn't untill I asked them to not want to celebrate my birthday,🤣🤣) that's when they noticed.... I was 17-18 then and now at 22

It's alright, now ....

Just keep telling ur parents what's hurting, even when the don't listen (like literally I can talk to my Mumma for 30 min and she'll remember nothing abt it🤭)

But now, she is my best friend and a person that I tell Quarter of my inner feelings 😅 moms to turn out great friend

Hope this wasn't a bore

Originally posted by: sapphir

No it wasn't a bore, it reminded me of me in a way....

And the fact that people think you can't stay Angry (or can't keep quiet) when angry.... it's too bad🥺

Even I felt that every one was using me and then JuSt not caring if how I felt.....

I spiraled down too (hope it doesn't happen to you, ) and God! I spiraled down bad🤣🤣 and then my parents went 'Suprised' 'shocked'

And that defense mech. I assure u, it's the best thing you come out with (after u are out of this falling down phase) it's the strength that it gives, to face Legit "life" shit and be 'unbothered ' by it.

And like S1 else replied to you..... Try to talk this out, parents don't understand this. (I had been screaming at my parents to notice (nd I'm only daughter with one brother) ......they didn't untill I asked them to not want to celebrate my birthday,🤣🤣) that's when they noticed.... I was 17-18 then and now at 22

It's alright, now ....

Just keep telling ur parents what's hurting, even when the don't listen (like literally I can talk to my Mumma for 30 min and she'll remember nothing abt it🤭)

But now, she is my best friend and a person that I tell Quarter of my inner feelings 😅 moms to turn out great friend

Hope this wasn't a bore

I don’t let affect me that much, I enjoy my time happily cracking jokes with them most of the times me being the joke 🤣I happily do it because I just want to see my family happy that makes me happy.

Na it wasn’t bore. 🤗

Originally posted by: VaishnaviG

I guess she is habitual to that remember when Dev abandoned her at the altar then she was forced to get married to Shiva.That time she had expressed her emotions but was there anyone who really cared about her ? To support her ? Dhara aayi sorry boli aur move on karo bolkar chali gayi . Then at haveli, she cried because of the kiss accident tab bhi koyi tha nahi bass log sympathy dekar chale gaye lekin samajhne wala nahi tha koi usse. Phir after teh temple confrontation, woh phir royi aurr express kiya lekin usse koi sunne wala tha ki aisa kya hua ; kiski galti thi ya tujhe kya lag raha hai ? Nahi koi nahi tha uske pass usko support karnewala usse samjhane wala.

Now I will tell you my thing, I have been emotionally drained many times, like people come and hurt me and go.No one comes to aks me whether I am okay or not. This was happening from 5th grade. I was in SSC(State board ) school then shifted to ICSE board. There during first 2-3 years no one used to like me, they used laugh at me for my poor english then how I am not good at studies, how I don’t know many things. No one used to befriend me and the one who did, threw me out of the group because my name’s initials was V and rest of them were S so they wanted to make S initial group. In my family a;Lao my family members love me very much but they have hurted me many times and then haven’t felt anything for me after that. Agar mein rooth bhi jaau like toh koi manane nahi aata mujhe. Lekin meri family mein sab ke jhagde mein solve karti hoon , sabko mein samjhati hoon bhale mein uss mein involve hoon ya nahi.

Toh phir mera yahi ek defence mechanism bann gaya hai ki agar bohot bura laga toh sabke samne fasle smile karo aurr bathroom ya room mein ja kar ro lo.Kyuki mujeh paat hai koyi nahi aanewala mujhe manane aur na samjhane .Sabko yahi lagta hai Aree Vaishnavi toh hamesha hasti rehti hai aurr sabse samjha daar hai . Na hi mein koyi tantrum throw karti hoon aur jab mujeh gussa ata bhi hai toh bhi koyi manane nahi aata kyuki Vaishnavi toh gussa reh hi nahi sakti . I can not stay angry for more than 15 minutes with my loved ones bhale mujeh kitna bhi hurt kiya ho , mein agar unko dekh liya toh muskuraane lagti hoon. So I can understand woh reaction kyun nahi deti itna .

Toh woh Raavi ne express karna hi chodd diya hai kyuki itna bada hi one ke baad yeh choti choti cheezon se farak padta hi nahi hai .

Sorry agar bore kiya toh

Big Hug to you! You are strong, because you know, your heart is in the right place. As year's pass by this will make you only stronger.