Originally posted by: Transference
You aren't in the minority, Esha; I am also sailing on the same boat.
I am going to again refer to the avoidant-attached partner style of human interactions.
Shiva burning in anger about Raavi and his friends wasn't dimensional jealousy but a strong reaction towards their words that demeaned him too. At that time, they had hoped for this marriage.
They both were acting like a married couple. Shiva fell for her madly and then went on a rage. He always believed Raavi never has a spark with him, and then the entire chain sequence finally leads to the end of their relationship. So, despite a subconscious hope, Shiva has given up on Shivi long back. He always believed - Raavi tho Tujhe Milne se Rahi.
Question to why isn't Shiva angry anymore. Shiva’s extreme reactions had always been reserved for Raavi. Generally, he is friendly to people and soft-spoken. His friends, too, are like him. Also, Shiva has mellowed down after the debacle. He is like that with Raavi too-extremely passive. It happens when you aren't in the proper state of mind.
I loved the Shiva-Disha conversation. He did warn her and quite frankly told her that he was the one wrong in his relationship. I have always said that Shiva has a habit of bottling up his internalised emotions and burst in the form of a volcano. He isn't very open with family members or Raavi.
He has no emotional attachment to Disha, but validation as a worthy human being made him part surprised and an incredible sense of peace. He could be liked too.
Trust me; I have been through a broken phase of love where a lost relationship had shattered my self-esteem like hell. You seemingly naturally get peace when someone validates, accepts you and makes you feel better during that phase.
Does that mean Shiva is in love? No, he is not and will never be because we know his world revolves around Raavi.
Also, commenting on how different is Shiva’s reaction to Raavi and men. It shows Shiva was more invested in his relationship than Raavi ever was!
I am removing the moral compass because they are technically married. I am slightly annoyed at Raavi’s reaction and the bizarre being married still a thing. I wouldn't have minded if they had shown this after the divorce.
Sometimes, it's easier to pour your heart out to strangers because of the lack of any strings in the conversation. You have nothing to lose. Shiva warned her about his shortcomings and how she should find a better man than him.
I like Shivi and their journey. It isn't cliched. It's interesting to see two people having so much chemistry yet so distant. How they cover the gap is their USP.
I would have been extremely bored if two normal pati-patni like progress had been shown.
We have Gaura for that!
Anupamaa
