Originally posted by: spdp
My inlaws has this issue.initially in first year, my in-laws came to visit us within 4 months of my coming to US. I was anyways not great at cooking. And mother-in-law would create a scene if I don’t make breakfast (fresh bhakri) and lunch before going to work ( here it starts sharp 8 am & add to that commute)
And you come back and have to cook dinner. Which I was happily doing it anyways.
At that time, us & my jethji stayed together. (He was unmarried) and our deal was I cook , you guys clean.
Did 3 times cooking for couple of weeks after in-laws came. They didn’t like their sons helping with dishes, nor liked me using dishwasher 🤷🏻♀️.
After 2 weeks, gave pravachan go pati & jeth: either I work or I cook 3 times & clean.and in no ways I went to 5 years of college to do later! I enjoy my work. So speak up. Problem was solved for good. Ofcourse tanaas still continue😄
I also have Dhara in my life- my husband is youngest & their elder sister is 9 years older to him.
Her & her family lived close by in initial years. And even though she was done with child births & pregnancies- her moodswings were quite similar to Dhara’s with Raavi & Rishita. Very insecure, especially since I could manage our house our way! Thankfully they moved! Distance helps keep relationships healthy. Though she still gets those Mood swings. And I let her ‘manage’ everytime she visits.
My next tricky trap is, her son now stays with us past 2 years as his work is close to our house. And he is dating non gujju girl. Preparing for next real life kaand when my nanad & sasuma get to know about this. I was only non Patel girl in their family & that was Hawwww for all. Still get ‘outsider’ aapda jevu nahin’ treatment. Eventhough I am gujju😄)
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