I didn't find his gaze lustful in these two episodes except for MAYBE that one look at the airport e13 (even then, it wasn't 100% lustful but it was sharmeela with a little bit of tharkeela). I remember the camera cutting to Sadaf's mother after Wahaj gave this look so it stood out as unintentionally funny
What I did have an issue with was the sharmeelapan, the wide-eyed stares, the blushes, the giggles. It was too overdone, especially when BA was giving these expressions in front of people, and not in a private unguarded moment.
To clarify, the issue was not that he shouldn't be sharmeela or giddy or look awed but how it was performed (and how it was shot) just omitted all the nuances and did not fit the character.
If it was more toned down or shown in a more fleeting way, it would definitely have worked better, and would have been more in keeping with BA's character. Or the overt expressions could have been limited to private moments but more toned down/suppressed in front of others. Like in the poolside scene with Z in e13, BA ka sharmana was fleeting and he tried to suppress his excitement, which seemed in keeping with the character.
Remember that BA has been running a multinational empire while he has had a drinking problem and unhealed trauma. His job requires him to meet with dignitaries and investors and show decorum. He very likely has developed ways to process his traumas and suppress his emotions in front of people. We saw him doing that before. If it was suppressed excitement and the giddiness was something that slipped out fleetingly, it would have fit the character of BA more. Also, the BA we saw would also have been nervous. In the golfing scene, we learned that he has a dark grim outlook of how things will turn out for him, so we should have gotten some nervousness and creeping doubt mixed with suppressed excitement and giddiness. Even Rabia who likes SMD more than most reviewers pointed out that she thinks BA would show jhijhak and not this overt sharmeelapan based on his character. Like the eyelock in E5. That was jhijhak in his eyes and it felt real. Moreover, just few seconds of that eyelock scene in E5 had so much nuance in the expressions and conveyed so much detail, whereas the eyelock in E14 lacked that nuance and depth.
It's not about this being a melodrama. Even in melodramas, the underlying expression has to be authentic to the character and context and then it gets heightened/amplified. At the end of the day, a 35+ year old multi-billionaire businessman and man of the world with trauma in his past who falls in love for the first time just won't act like a 14-year old teenager in love for the first-time. Both will be excited, giddy, shy, nervous but they way they would express these emotions will look different.
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