Originally posted by: bheegi
Good questions Munni...very thoughtful...my favorite topic.
well, to start, u know Armaan's character in my ff is of an ADHD person...u will find out later.
ADHD is basically a chemical imbalance or wiring problem in the brain with which some kids are born. So parents should not blame themselves. Most of the time, one parent or another close relative also has the condition so there is definitely a genetic link there. ADHD kids can be hyperactive or just inattentive. The main characteristic is poor attention span, easy distractibility and very impulsive. They appear immature for their age. They act before thinking so end up in trouble at school and at home. They tend to be disorganized, forgetful and need constant reminders to finish their work. They can ber very creative.. A lot of Hollywood and Bollywood actors, writers, painters etc have ADHD. They think out of the box and don't always follow the norm. Teachers can get frustrated with them as they have a hard time learning and retaining facts. They don't complete their assignments, don't turn in their homework, don't follow directions well.
ADHD is present in kids at a young age so all these symptoms are present before the age of 7 and present both at school and home. If a kid is inattentive and hyper at home but a perfect student at school, don't worry about it.
Yes, there is treatment for this condition- behavior therapy and medications both work in about 60-70% kids. These medicines basically offset the chemical imbalance by 'stimulating' the right chemical. that is why they are called stimulants like Ritalin etc.
Medicines do have side effects so have to be taken cautiously and it is not a magic pill because parents and teachers still need to work hard with these kids.
Aggression in kids could be inherent personality, family circumstances, if they see abuse at home then they become aggressive and abusive towards others, if they are constantly criticised or ostracized by parents/teachers/other kids, they can become aggressive. Exposure to media and violence is a big factor too. Poor limit setting by parents, lack of schedule and routine can also make some kids aggressive.
IMO, kids are a reflection of their parents. If parents respect their kids, respect their own parents, respect their spouse, respect others then their kids will grow up to respect elders too. Peer group has a big impact on kids and their behavior. The onus is on us as parents to make sure they are exposed to the right friends early on and later one needs to know the parents of our kid's friends. Parents are certainly busy these days but i don't feel it is the lack of time only, it is the lack of interest in the kid or too much interest to the point of hovering over them by a parent that causes problems. Parents are too busy with their own things and can sometimes overlook problem signs in their kids or sometimes they try to micromanage their kids. Either extreme is bad. Too many activities and a hurried child also creates problems. Like all of us, kids need down time....time when they are bored so they can have time for themselves, for play, for creativity. Unfortunately, our kids have too many distractions these days....TV, computer, video, IM etc etc...they can get so overstimulated that they have a hard time focussing on one thing.
Phew...i hope it was not a bhashan 😆 ....i will think of more points later...thanks Munni
