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Posted: 17 years ago

#41

Originally posted by: annoo
OK girls... This is my first question.
If u had been in a situation like Divya... i.e., knowing that the person ur parents proposed is ur soulmate, given an option of staying together (ofcourse platonic) 😉... Will u stay with him?

1. Yes.. definitely 😛

2. May be.. 50- 50 chances..😕

3. A big NO 😡

Please give reasons for ur answer 😊

Hi Anu,

My honest answer is STRICT NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!! Choice #3.

Indian culture is deep rooted in my mind and I can't go against my personal value system.

Moreover, I don't believe in the existence of platonic relationship..Having said that, why would I go for a non-platonic-live-in relation?

This is my guiding principle behind my decision making process: When I look back my life N years from now, I should feel proud of the path that I traversed in life..

I am not ready to take a chance with "Live-in relation"..

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Posted: 17 years ago

#42

Thanx Aish and Veda 😛

Ur reasons r clear.

But my honest answer for this is option 2.May be..50-50 chances 😊

Veda I feel platonic relationships do exists. It might turn out to be non-platonic only if the stay is prolonged.

I'm not talking about live-in relationships followed in western countries. I talking abt a case similar to KNI,

That too not about agreeing to stay for weeks or months together just to get to know well,but staying together in emergencies like either of them not well,or something like u go for a show together and it gets late to return to ur place... etc

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Posted: 17 years ago

#43

Originally posted by: annoo
Thanx Aish and Veda 😛
Ur reasons r clear.

But my honest answer for this is option 2.May be..50-50 chances 😊

Veda I feel platonic relationships do exists. It might turn out to be non-platonic only if the stay is prolonged.

I'm not talking about live-in relationships followed in western countries. I talking abt a case similar to KNI,

That too not about agreeing to stay for weeks or months together just to get to know well,but staying together in emergencies like either of them not well,or something like u go for a show together and it gets late to return to ur place... etc

i agree with u anu & i was abt 2 write the same daa.............if i had given a chance------i will consider if the person is genuine(ofcourse parent's choice naa) & within limits......it is possible 2 stay within limits like Divya & Shakti did........so no harm according 2 me.

At the same time i dun acknowledge going overboard b4 marriage.......................ppl shudn't use this as an opportunity 2 cross the limits b4 marriage........due 2 western influence.

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Posted: 17 years ago

#44

Originally posted by: kadhambari

At the same time i dun acknowledge going overboard b4 marriage.......................ppl shudn't use this as an opportunity 2 cross the limits b4 marriage........due 2 western influence. Exactly my sentiments. I forgot mention tht i dont approve crossing limits before marriage 😊 Thanx for mentioning it, Ambi.

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Posted: 17 years ago

#45

Originally posted by: annoo

Well said Ambi!!!

With regards to the western culture, after the age of 18, the young adults are required to move out of their parent's house, and hence quite a bit of them find a partner (BF/ GF) with whom they share a room/ apt/ house, i.e. live together. But this western culture has already influenced a lot of asians. Even without living together, many are crossing their limits prior to marriage, and I'd blame their immaturity for that! So if they want to live together they must be mature and be able to think about their future, like Sakthi n Divya. I doubt today's youngsters (not all thougth) will be follow to this rule.

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Posted: 17 years ago

#46

ahh discussion started let me post my answer soon

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Posted: 17 years ago

#47

Originally posted by: annoo
That too not about agreeing to stay for weeks or months together just to get to know well,but staying together in emergencies like either of them not well,or something like u go for a show together and it gets late to return to ur place... etc

Anu, I have umpteen desires like this.. 😉😳

Ambi and Anu, I truly appreciate your open-minded thoughts. 👏

This is what I think: Tharkolai panradhukkum, Thappu panradhukkum oru second thadumaatram podhum..Live-in relation la Thappu kandipaa nadakkum nu solla varala..Nadandhida koodadhu-ngradhukkaga andha relation venaam nu naan ninaikaraen..!!

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Posted: 17 years ago

#48

Originally posted by: annoo
OK girls... This is my first question.
If u had been in a situation like Divya... i.e., knowing that the person ur parents proposed is ur soulmate, given an option of staying together (ofcourse platonic) 😉... Will u stay with him?

1. Yes.. definitely 😛

2. May be.. 50- 50 chances..😕

3. A big NO

Please give reasons for ur answer 😊

tats my answer to ur question anu.

my friends here have given very good reasons too, i have just gone thru them👏👏

my reason wud be my conscience ie manasatchi will never let me do it.

tat has been my guiding line till now in my life.

i have followed it fully with much consequences in some situations, but i have never changed my stance

if i land in such situation like him falling ill or late nights then he has to stay outside the room no matter wat😆😆😆

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Posted: 17 years ago

#49

Originally posted by: nallu

my reason wud be my conscience ie manasatchi will never let me do it.

tat has been my guiding line till now in my life.

i have followed it fully with much consequences in some situations, but i have never changed my stance

if i land in such situation like him falling ill or late nights then he has to stay outside the room no matter wat😆😆😆

Hi Nallu, I never thought our wavelength would match to this extend..!! COOL!! 😎

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Posted: 17 years ago

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Originally posted by: smile_plus

Hi Nallu, I never thought our wavelength would match to this extend..!! COOL!!

U cannot say what ur conscience will say then...i.e. when the actual situation arises.😛

Many of us follow only our conscience. If I was asked the same question 10 yrs ago, may be i wud've answered the same way u single gals hav.😊

But now having known tht person so well and if there had been a situation like that,I dont think i wud've said a NO..😳. At the same time I wud'nt jumped with joy.

U can say NO only till u fall in luv with the person(parent's choice only).😉

Love is greater than anything else... As long as we follow our ethics sincerely,staying in a room can do no harm.😛

This is my view.😊