Things I find odd with Nisha and the show! - Page 3

I knew a girl who had a boycut, wore masculine clothes, and even looked like a guy. Her belief was because there was no father or any male figure in her house she needed to become a guy.

Originally posted by: Shwets1502

Though I respect your viewpoint, I completely completely completely disagree with you.

First thing. I feel you are looking at the matter very theoretically. Nisha was 13 years old when the incident happened. She was a jolly go girl with childishness of her age. She didn't share the incident with the school, the school authorities witnessed the incident(kindly check your point).

Yes. Her family loves her. Her parents are so caring and understanding. So what's the fear? The fear is of losing that love and care. She doesn't know what has happened to her but she has been made to believe in that age that something has happened to her which she needs to be ashamed off. Naturally, she, as a child, put it into a box and kept it to her. In due course of her life, she might have realised what has happened to her. Why she didn't share it with her parents after reaching a certain age? We have to wait and watch.

Coming to the gender identity issues. It would be great if you can actually explain more. For Nisha, she was molested because she was a girl. Do you deny that? She fear/envies being girly because boys might take advantage of her again. She wants to portray herself strongly and not like what she was in school. I don't see her having any issues regarding that. She drives a Scooty and not a sports bike. She wears trendy clothes and men's clothes.

Why she couldn't tell her family even so long years and even after having a lovely family. Its upto the individual. Its completely sad to read you saying molestation like this isn't serious. You think Jwala can't suffer PTSD? She can? Its upto the person's ability to bear stress. Was Nisha suffering for 7-8 years? She has tried to move over it by changing herself. She behaves perfectly normal except when it relates boys which is completely understandable.

I completely agree with u

Originally posted by: chennaigirl

This issue is a serious issue..Depends upon the mentality of the person who was molested..I feel Nisha was not a mentally strong person , so she closed herself up and took extreme measures to cope up and it continued to become her life..

Many of us are abused in one way or other..Even I have been subjected ..When I was in school, one day I had to walk to my relatives home and two guys tried to molest me but I ran away..But I never tried to hide myself...I understood life is full of dangers for a woman and found out ways to face things..

Nisha's way of facing things has been shown as her hiding her feminity..Its a little extreme but this is a drama so they are dramatizing it..But it doesn't happen in real life..

Originally posted by: Mahabhootni

I knew a girl who had a boycut, wore masculine clothes, and even looked like a guy. Her belief was because there was no father or any male figure in her house she needed to become a guy.

Now, so many girls are raised without fathers but none of them change their clothing like that and feel proud to be recognised as a guy. That's how this particular girl decided to use as a protection shield.

Nisha has done exactly the same. She feels being a feminine girl led to being molested because let's be real if she was a guy the guys would have beaten her to a pulp and left. Even though she doesn't look like a guy like my friend she feels tougher because its her armour.

And this is a prime time slot. They can't show a guy put his hands down a trousers or up her shirt. Besides once I was out shopping this guy deliberately brushed up against me. And I felt so gross for a week and could feel phantom touches. I can't imagine what it would feel like to felt up by so many people. Doubt it would be easy to stop feeling revulsion.

this is such a narrow minded and offensive post

Well this show comes on prime time and it airs on a channel which telecasts family dramas... So they can't show actual molestation or rape in there show. Its a very sensitive topic and channel & ph will always be concious while giving such scenes... Here we as a viewer have to understand that nisha got molested by those boys and since then she is having this trauma and trust issues with opposite gender. To justify Nisha's trauma they can't highlight every detail of molestation... It's not crime petrol kind of show...

Next is i don't think Nisha is having gender identity issue, bcoz thats a natural which a person feels... As they showed in SMJ on last Sunday.

Nisha behaves like a boy Bcoz she thinks that Bcoz she's girl those boys harassed her... So to protect herself , a 13 yrs old teenage girl out of her fear and limited thinking transformed herself into a tomboy... That absolutely has no relation with gender identity . Neither they r portraying a woman as a weak one... Nisha as a girl saved jwala... Lakshmi being a woman decided to stand up for her daughter and it gives a message to our society that one should not keep mum on these matters... I found it a brave thing to do for a mother who's daughters marriage is being fixed.

Well that's how I looked at this track... 😊

The things said in the topic post are misguided. One you need to understand that being "tomboy" does not equal to transgender tendencies. Being gender confused is a very different thing that wanting to feel strong and associating those traits with one gender rather than the other. Nisha's tomboy avatar is her defense mechanism. She dealt with her trauma the best way she could...because there was no one to help her reach a better conclusion about what happened to her.

Originally posted by: AyeshaKt

Did you even watched the show? She was not felt up by the guys, the guys pushed her on the floor and before something else happened the teacher reached there

Yes she suffered trauma but she was not felt up!

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