Things I find odd with Nisha and the show!

Though I respect your viewpoint, I completely completely completely disagree with you.

First thing. I feel you are looking at the matter very theoretically. Nisha was 13 years old when the incident happened. She was a jolly go girl with childishness of her age. She didn't share the incident with the school, the school authorities witnessed the incident(kindly check your point).

Yes. Her family loves her. Her parents are so caring and understanding. So what's the fear? The fear is of losing that love and care. She doesn't know what has happened to her but she has been made to believe in that age that something has happened to her which she needs to be ashamed off. Naturally, she, as a child, put it into a box and kept it to her. In due course of her life, she might have realised what has happened to her. Why she didn't share it with her parents after reaching a certain age? We have to wait and watch.

Coming to the gender identity issues. It would be great if you can actually explain more. For Nisha, she was molested because she was a girl. Do you deny that? She fear/envies being girly because boys might take advantage of her again. She wants to portray herself strongly and not like what she was in school. I don't see her having any issues regarding that. She drives a Scooty and not a sports bike. She wears trendy clothes and men's clothes.

Why she couldn't tell her family even so long years and even after having a lovely family. Its upto the individual. Its completely sad to read you saying molestation like this isn't serious. You think Jwala can't suffer PTSD? She can? Its upto the person's ability to bear stress. Was Nisha suffering for 7-8 years? She has tried to move over it by changing herself. She behaves perfectly normal except when it relates boys which is completely understandable.

Originally posted by: Shwets1502

Though I respect your viewpoint, I completely completely completely disagree with you.

First thing. I feel you are looking at the matter very theoretically. Nisha was 13 years old when the incident happened. She was a jolly go girl with childishness of her age. She didn't share the incident with the school, the school authorities witnessed the incident(kindly check your point).

Yes. Her family loves her. Her parents are so caring and understanding. So what's the fear? The fear is of losing that love and care. She doesn't know what has happened to her but she has been made to believe in that age that something has happened to her which she needs to be ashamed off. Naturally, she, as a child, put it into a box and kept it to her. In due course of her life, she might have realised what has happened to her. Why she didn't share it with her parents after reaching a certain age? We have to wait and watch.

Coming to the gender identity issues. It would be great if you can actually explain more. For Nisha, she was molested because she was a girl. Do you deny that? She fear/envies being girly because boys might take advantage of her again. She wants to portray herself strongly and not like what she was in school. I don't see her having any issues regarding that. She drives a Scooty and not a sports bike. She wears trendy clothes and men's clothes.

Why she couldn't tell her family even so long years and even after having a lovely family. Its upto the individual. Its completely sad to read you saying molestation like this isn't serious. You think Jwala can't suffer PTSD? She can? Its upto the person's ability to bear stress. Was Nisha suffering for 7-8 years? She has tried to move over it by changing herself. She behaves perfectly normal except when it relates boys which is completely understandable.

Although she was saved whatever happened hurt her soul. It isn't the even the fact that it didn't happen, because whatever did happen, it damaged her enough. The boys still touched her without her permission tossed her...you don't have be stripped to be abused sexually. It can even happen with clothes on, so in my opinion it happened! Next, not everyone behaves the same way after an incident like this. Some people might jump right back up and nothing happened...for some it will leave a horrible stain.

My mistake. I should have gone for sexual assault rather than using molestation. If what Jwala suffered is molestation, than what happened to Nisha is also molestation. Nisha was blindfolded and played around like a ball among the boys. That's not molestation? She was pinned down and a boy was sitting on her very closely. Isn't molestation. In case it isn't molestation, its definitely sexual assault and people can suffer from PTSD too.

I am not getting personal with any one here. I am stating only about the show and I am comfortable speaking only about the show. I am looking from Nisha's POV here.

I am sorry to hear about what happened to you. But as I said, I am here to discuss the show and my points adhere only to the show.

Completely agree with your last point. She hasn't gotten over it and she thinks girls are weak. I don't its wrong of her to think like that. Would she have been assaulted if she wasn't a girl?

Now please don't assume I believe girls/women are weak. Definitely not. They are as strong as men. But not everyone are the same and not everytime the situations can be easy.

What many fail to understand is that this happens to men too. Statistics say that men are more sexually abused then women...meaning there is a higher rate of this happening in men.

No she WAS NOT molestated

First, its a discussion and not an argument...😊 We are exchanging our viewpoints to gain clarity.

Ok..I'll accept your point. Its harassment. I shouldn't have commented without knowing the difference.

So? Nisha suffered harassment when she was 13. Does that take away from what she suffered mentally? If ragging can lead to PTSD, why not harassment? As I said before, each one reacts differently. I think her behavior goes with harassment as well. As for her gender identity, she hates being a girl because of what happened.

Originally posted by: AyeshaKt

No she WAS NOT molestated

As for the poster saying it can happen with clothes on, did you read that I mentioned you have to be naked? no I didn''t

before both of you jump to conclusions and argue some more

what she had faced is called harrasment It is NOT molestation

Molestation is when someone touches your privates (or chest or bum)

Tossing like a ball is harassment NOT molestation

before you guys just assume and write a reply on it, just do a quick google search

Yes she has faced PTSD because of this incident and yes it was a sad incident that traumatised her

however calling harrasment as molestation (or molestation as rape) is not only stupid...it also affects those who have been through actual molestation (or rape)

What the guys did from what I saw is harassment not molestation

oh and please do not add sexual, there was NO sexual touching at all...it is harassment,period NOT sexual assualt or molestation

ohkk its harrasement but how can u decide that harrasement doesnt leads to any depression

I cant for one understand ur points.
1) What nisha underwent was a thorough trauma.. She was blindfolded and being played around with the boys and was later shown to be being manhandled by dem..So is it molestation and sexual abuse only in case the final deed is done??
And also that it has never been.shown dat she has hated her identiy of being a girl or want to be a boy .She just from went being girly to tomboyish as it was a defence mechanism for her and every1 has scientifically different defence mechanism

And something such soul damaging can scar for life.. 7-8 years being too small..

2) Only nisha's sport teacher knew it and d matter was then hidden within d files..And a 13 yr old child was frightened and taught dat her life would get caged in house without support of her parents. How cn she be expected tell any1 and also she considers every1 as her oxygen ..so it is beyond a nightmare to loose there love
And definition of ideal is too subjective ...if they were ideal dey wld hv nt created situation to force her to marriage and understood her apathy.

3) Her physcology makes her think dat if she potrays as stronger den it would protect her...simple..
Also her not doing makeup lehenga..how does dat make her less of a gal...She does wear trendy clothes and not manly clothes...So i dont think she has gender issues but rather is soulfully scaarred and scared and hence it is to protect herself she has turned tomboyish (which is not a gender issue) and would back to her normal self by counsellors help..

No offence to Anyone :-)