Most of us have stood by you right upto this moment. Don't spoil it for us or for yourself.
You are a strong-willed brave girl with a heart of gold don't forget that. We love you for that. When you wept we were in pain. There have been times when you were a complete ninny, but we ignored that. We didn't just sympathise, we empathised.
Whatever you decide to do, whichever course of action you take, don't let us down. Remember the following:
1. He's been hurtful and unfeeling due to which you have been seveely wounded. Enjoy your victory, but don't take wanton pleasure in it.
2. Remember you come from a family that has made the ultimate sacrifice for the country, and you have been born with the same selflessness. Learn to forgive.
3. If your husband has another point of view, thrash out the issue intellectually with him. By inciting him, its not going to help.
4. You suffered at the hands of mamiji and forgave her, so now why bite the hand that feeds you.
5. Your husband is pigheaded so it will need a lot of convincing and patience on your part. Work towards it. You have to save your husband from himself.
6. A victory by crushing someone is no victory at all, the real victory is when you can make him give up his ways and reform.
7. You've had no family, you've always yearned for one so keep the family you've married into together.
8. Silence is golden. Your silence may effectively force your blackguard of a husband to introspect. Gloating and goading will not.
9. You feel safe in the room alone with him unlike that wolf you married. You need to introspect too.
10. The Sanskrit proverb: the tree never withdraws its shade from anyone ---- not even the woodcutter.