Working hard is the reason of Not knowing your kids !! - Page 2

Originally posted by: anjs

she wants Raghav all for herself...even while dancing she sent Kaushalya away n herself pulled Raghav to dance with her 🤢

its not just raghav
she wants sarla to be with her also
if not, she would give respect to sarla's husband and tell her daughter to love him and respect him seems like this mother comes b/w all.
Some one find her some one to be with, Love ext😆

Originally posted by: soapliker

I think in this case , the fault lies with the kids too. They could sit down and make him understand. In stead they are scared of him and minute Shanti Devi says Raghav there is shiver in his family. Why I wonder?

Even Kaushi for that matter does not want to trouble or concern him with her problems but unless she opens her mouth how will he know. He comes home tired from work and the only complaints he hears is that of his mum.

I know he shushed Nimmi down yesterday but talk to him when he is in a better mood .

I do not like his character at all in the show but at the same time can understand his nature .

Yes, thank u for getting my point, Yes this is what i want to say
Now the kids are grown up, they can go to his work and sit with him (sarla's husband met him there, shivam met him there, there was no issue b4) So they can meet him and speak to him ... Amma is not around so they can be friends with him ... effort should come from their side too !!😃

Originally posted by: Vinnie79

Coming from What we learned about Ragav's Character from Varun . I will agree. No he is not perfect and his relationship with his kids could use a lot of work. But this man is not uncaring towards his family. He did what was needed to feed his family. But the price he paid for that is his took a toll on his person as well as his relationship with his kids.
His mother is a jealous woman every one can see that. His wife took it on herself to no complain because she realizes he is tired and needs his rest. As I said before You can't fix what you don't know and it is obvious during the wedding he is never around to see what is happening.
As for believeing Sarla...like everything else he is going by what he is hearing. We can see he gets irritated by his sister when she starts her drama, but maybe he dose not believe his sister will want bad for his kids. They are constantly praising those three, while Nimmi is seen as dumb , Shivam is seen as careless always out of the house playing cricket B4 he got the job and Preeti is the perfect one. The fact is sealed in his eyes because Nimmi failed her exams, and Shivam really was out of the house most of the time. What is he to believe. ??
They are to afraid to speak up or are either stopped by the mother. What is he to believe??
Yes he flirts with his wife and she enjoys the attention, what is wrong with that? Should he go flirting with the neighbor? He dose not stand up for her? Hmm How can he when she has a smile on her face and says everything is fine. He dose his part in small ways to help her, giving her his pocket money, opening the can, making her drink the juice , even the gajra. He realized after the fact that what he asked her to do with the chain was wrong, but at the moment given that his mother was about to have a heart attack about the Ghar ka izzat he told her to give. She did. It was wrong yes. he knew that he was not malicious about it.!
Coming to his relationship with Shivam, it is strained because 1 Shivam is aware of his grand mothers and buas actions. He is either afraid or no confident to speak up. He admires his father but again maybe he grew up hardly seeing him, and today whatever he dose to impress him goes wrong. That needs to change. Ragav and Shvam both need to bridge the gap.

👏 well said vinnie, thank you for adding this points, Yes i totally agree with u

In this wedding, he is home at least 4/5days, all day with family... He keeps saying his wife...where is your Ladla ? Why the hack he did not try to call him? He was home 24 hours,...did not feel why Nimi-priti are so tensed...? When Nimi got slapped, did not bother to Pacify her or explain her that she has to be carful...she just supported mother-sister shouting .. He was there, he saw whole incident .. Working hard is no excuse...

Ah well if this is the excuse for not trusting ur own blood and lack of communication , how come he knows sarla's kids so well n defends them , praises them all the time? He has enuf time to understand them but not talk to his children ..the poor mother is trying to defend her children and children are protecting their mother ..so that she doesn't hv to bear the torture in her husbands absence ..why cant nyone see this..


And his wife or kids r scared of him Bec he doesn't wanna hear a word against his mother no matter if its a matter of life or death ..he wont believe anything said against her and eventually kushiya will hv to listen for nth time that she hasn't taught values to her children they cant respect elders ..how will the children talk to their parents when they r shut up before they cud clarify ? And no matter how illmannered careless the children are, parents r at least concerned for them ...he doesn't hv time to show concern also..but his own kids..not for samaj seva and behen seva

Originally posted by: _charu_

Ah well if this is the excuse for not trusting ur own blood and lack of communication , how come he knows sarla's kids so well n defends them , praises them all the time? He has enuf time to understand them but not talk to his children ..the poor mother is trying to defend her children and children are protecting their mother ..so that she doesn't hv to bear the torture in her husbands absence ..why cant nyone see this..


And his wife or kids r scared of him Bec he doesn't wanna hear a word against his mother no matter if its a matter of life or death ..he wont believe anything said against her and eventually kushiya will hv to listen for nth time that she hasn't taught values to her children they cant respect elders ..how will the children talk to their parents when they r shut up before they cud clarify ? And no matter how illmannered careless the children are, parents r at least concerned for them ...he doesn't hv time to show concern also..but his own kids..not for samaj seva and behen seva

Originally posted by: bn19982001

In this wedding, he is home at least 4/5days, all day with family... He keeps saying his wife...where is your Ladla ? Why the hack he did not try to call him? He was home 24 hours,...did not feel why Nimi-priti are so tensed...? When Nimi got slapped, did not bother to Pacify her or explain her that she has to be carful...she just supported mother-sister shouting .. He was there, he saw whole incident .. Working hard is no excuse...

My husband works 12 hrs/day 7 days a week since...13 years...whenever my kids needs something special or want to go somewhere...they wait for him to come home..and start their demand list..they get approval. Attention...love... More from him than from me... Not only that... He is the first one to know if kids have any problem or exiting news..

Only thing I can take this Raghvas character is if he is a heart/Bp attack survivor... And wife and kids are afraid to give him any stress from family matters ...then it makes sense.

hi,

Originally posted by: bn19982001

because sarla's kids are very smart, they speak to him share with him, tell him their problems

do his own kids do the same ?? **at home they can't but they can go to his work and share their pain.

It is not like ...Sarlas..kids are smart,...he and shashikala only listens to saralas kids, His kids are shut up before they say anything by him, shashikala or by khushi ya...that's why Shivam asked Nimi not to say anything before he reaches there, he said no one will believe you...so that's main reason of preset is tammering she is afraid to speak.

Even when Nimi did not know anything and was trying to find out truth, she was stopped by Pari, Sarla and shashikala ...and that Pari was roaming around and stealing money, phone and doing whatever she wanted.

Thing I can not take is, he always looks at his kids with anger or doubt. And that khushi ya is taking all blame on her to get his one smile...? So annoying ... And romance?. Ooofff.

And yes, if he can reduce the amount his mom gives away to give sarala and her kids lux (she is not out of food, her husband earns food for his family), he will not need to work overtime. Or if he allow Nimi to do her designer work , he may have some support and Nimi can enjoy a little independence ..