Parenting

hi guys...

I have taken a lot of developmental psychology courses...where we have studied about parenting styles and all.....I searched it on google and here is what I found about four parenting styles:

1. Indulgent parents - are more responsive than they are demanding. They are nontraditional and lenient..

2. Authoritarian parents - are highly demanding and directive, but not responsive. they expect their child to obey their orders...without explanation..

3. Authoritative parents - are both demanding and responsive. They want their children to be assertive as well as socially responsible, and self-regulated as well as cooperative

4. Uninvolved parents - are low in both responsiveness and demandingness. so totally ignoring the child kinda thing...

well...as u could guess...it has been shown by studies that Authoritative parenting style works best...I mean children that has Authoritative parents...turn out to be very responsible adults, who can set goals for themselves and then achieve them...

but in most of Asian culture I have seen Authoritarian parenting style..I am not saying that all the parents r doing this...but in most of the culture...its always..a set of rules for the child...and how they should always bring good marks and stuff... (not that they shouldn't...but there should be explanations as to how those good marks ro gonna help the child in future)

now here is my questions to u all...What kind of parents do u have?? and if u become a parent...what kind of parent would u be?? don't say Authoritative...just explain how things would work...like how strict and how kidn would u be...?

Would u use a different parenting style if u have a son or a daughter??

i am not a parent but if i was i would want to be a bit of both indulgent an displinarian, thats why if you have both parents one can be easy going where the other can be strict

My parents are pretty cool they dont force me to do anything that i dont want to do, my mum is stricter than my dad but then i can easily win my dad round by talking football with him.

I would probably in truth treat my daughter diffrent to my son, an by that i mean in terms of discipline they would both get the same but in terms of going out then my daughter wouldn not be allowed to goout as late as my son, thats if i had any kids

Originally posted by: Sapna_2004

What kind of parents do u have??

my parents r the coolest ever in the universe...i am not exagerating😛..thts true, they r authoritative in the sense..they would let me and my bro decide what we want, but give us the options. they r to me more like advisors but if we r going towards downhill they will enlighten us(just tell us why it is considered wrong), but not order us to stop tht..😛 so, we get to decide what we want in life and where we r to be placed in society.

and if u become a parent...what kind of parent would u be??

hmmm, parent.. this is a hard quesiton..have no clue now..cant even imagine myself in my mommy shoes😆😆😆

don't say Authoritative...just explain how things would work...like how strict and how kidn would u be...?may be i will also play with them to teach them how to play. it is fun playing chess...i remember my dad, when he is teaching me...its really hard for him to make me win..😆

Would u use a different parenting style if u have a son or a daughter??

its like reflecting to a mirror..not just with children but with anyother person its the same..if child is well-mannered then i should be a good and nice mommy😆. but if child is badmash they need some coating😆

p.s nice post..its fun imagining mommy😆

Parenting is most difficult job in this world, I dont think anyone can understand the ups & downs of a parent's life & why they did what they did to you until you become a parent yourself. On different stages according to the age group of their children the parenting need to be re-evaluated, you cant be a uninvolved parents or indulgent parents when your children are under 10 years old, then after that age you have to start thinking that now your children are in pre-teen age so you have to start giving them some space where they can feel that they are growing up but still need to be supervised, you still have to check what they are doing, which kind of friends they have & where they are spending their time, if they are on net what sites they are accessing so you become Authoritative parents, but as soon as your kids pass the age of 16 you have to become the Indulgent parent you have to be a friend to your children where you are linient & responsive at the same time but not demanding because this is the age when you have to show your kids how to move & make decision in the real world which is out there, once they past there 20 & you raised them well by showing them how to deal with ups & down & how to treat other people you have to let them go & you can become an uninvolved parent...

and exactly thats how I raised my 2 boys, they are 20 & 17, wonderful human beings, smart & kind, but you know which is the hardest stage of parenting...its to let them go & becoming an uninvolved parent, I am on that stage & trying to do it...I dont think my parenting would be differnt in anyways if I had a girl, my parents raised me up the same way we never get any different treatment then our brother & for me particularly I was a tomboy when i was growing up & biggest fear of my mom was "ye larki susral main ja kar kiya karay gee" & my abbu used to said "bohat kamyab zindagi guzaray gee kiyon k hum nay is ki sahi tarbiyat kee hay aur bataya hay k kis ko kaisay treat kartay hain" & yes I prooved myself in 22 years of my married life that if you had good parents you will be a good parent.