Burning a photo - Pallavi Raghav Rao

I intentionally gave Raghav's name along with Pallavi for this post. As you read on you might realize why.

Love is weird. It is an inexplicable concept. It cannot be enforced neither defined by practical points or testimonial theories. Someone had very aptly said

Reason is powerless in the expression of love...

And as cheesy and cliched it might sound, I wholeheartedly believe it is true. We simply cannot sit down analyse and find out every single reason for every act done out of love. They also say

Everything is fair in love and war...

But I think it was never meant for the people suffering its consequences. It is meant and can only be applicable for the person who are in love. Everything can be reasonably justified for the person who is in love. But of course as a third party or even the one for whom the acts are being done might look at them as an act borne out of insanity or obsession.

But the point stands is that circumstantial evidences or even testimonials of History put together cannot completely give a valid reason for love.

Now you all might be thinking why am I ranting about love here. Don't worry it is not a psychological therapy session. I was thinking about today's episode. Many people have argued and I myself had believed for sometime that why would burning Raghav's photo prove anything about Pallavi not loving him or such. That has a very logical reason of not bothering about the act

For Pallavi Deshmukh, Raghav Rao had been many things - an enemy, an acquaintance, a friend and even the person whom she had hated for a long time. But for Pallavi Raghav Rao, he was her lover, her husband, the man she had entwined her soul with. For her, every single piece which belongs to him or has any resemblance to him carries his essence. Pallavi is in love. She cannot dissociate between the living and the inanimate when it comes to Raghav.

And isn't that the universal truth. We have all considered that, even felt that in some point of our life. The inanimate objects which have surrounded our loved ones have held special meaning to us. Photo frames, books, old toys, ragged shirts etc etc. One can soundly argue that, that photo does not contain any significance.

It is after all a photo, not the person himself. And even that photo lacks any memory associated with it. It has not been clicked by a loved one, it is not that he is showing any sort of genuine emotion on the photo. It is a very impersonal picture.

What does it matter?

To us it doesn't. But to Pallavi it does! And there lies the crux of the situation. For her, that photo is of the person she has decided to devote her life to. Burning it for her would be extremely painful not because Raghav would mind or that her love would be undermined but because in her mind, in her heart she will see the flames licking over him. The inanimate which is inconsequential for everyone, for Pallavi it would mean she would put fire to Raghav himself.

It is inexplicable. Ridiculous. Delusional. Illogical.

But so is love. All the words above mentioned and a bit more. Love plays with our minds, eats up our soul, tethers us to mortal people and lifeless objects, makes us do ludicrous and horrific things, and yet... still if given the slightest chance we will all fall in love over and over again.

-- Anouska

(This is the real spelling of my name you know! 😂)

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This post is so apt explaining why for Pallavi burning Raghav's photo was not possible.

When Mandar asked her to burn the picture, she remembered all their moments and how precious he is to her.. It may sound irrational or illogical to us that it is just a picture but for Pallavi, it's her love. Even in her dreams, she wouldn't do that to Raghav who has given nothing but unconditional love to her...

PS: I love calling her Pallavi Raghav Rao. I don't know for some reason I feel it gives her power. Otherwise, I'm always in favor of not changing surnames after marriage.

Yes, it was pretty clear why she found it so difficult to accept the thought of burning it, but the same love is what helped her stay strong and do what was needed to secure their future.

Also, burning his photo/burning him would be like burning a part of herself too (if not all of it) because her identity and existence is no longer separate from his.

Originally posted by: joliefemme

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This post is so apt explaining why for Pallavi burning Raghav's photo was not possible.

When Mandar asked her to burn the picture, she remembered all their moments and how precious he is to her.. It may sound irrational or illogical to us that it is just a picture but for Pallavi, it's her love. Even in her dreams, she wouldn't do that to Raghav who has given nothing but unconditional love to her...

PS: I love calling her Pallavi Raghav Rao. I don't know for some reason I feel it gives her power. Otherwise, I'm always in favor of not changing surnames after marriage.

I also think a simpler reason was that she would not let Mandaar have his way and allow his games to tarnish Raghav and her love story. She wanted the right person to be burned so the swap made sense. Their love is strong, not weak and meeting Raghav earlier in the day really helped boost her confidence.

Originally posted by: inlieu

I also think a simpler reason was that she would not let Mandaar have his way and allow his games to tarnish Raghav and her love story. She wanted the right person to be burned so the swap made sense. Their love is strong, not weak and meeting Raghav earlier in the day really helped boost her confidence.

Yes, her confidence was high coz Raghav is in with her every step of the way.

Today she seemed too frightened with the fire but when she knows he's in D house, how happy and confident she will be..

Upcoming episodes will be really good

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It's true Pallavi is surely in love and not just her but anyone who's in love will find it hard to even put a slight scratch on their love even though it is a picture. It's hard to have anything touch him or hurt him. We have thoughts in our mind thinking it as a bad omen that what if we burn the picture right now and something happens to him/ her the bery next moment. Might sound superstition but it is what it is when it comes to someone you love.

I knew that she won't burn the photo. Your post reminded me of one of Swami Vivekananda's story where he asks a King's minister to spit on a painting King's father

Firstly thanks for the tag. ❤️

Now coming to the piece then I absolutely loved Pallavi's POV you showed here. It was logical yet lovely to read it !!

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The way I see it , for some stranger it might be just a pic but for the people involved it is about the person in the pic... We saw raghav's pic, for Pallavi it was her Raghav in the pic, burning the pic meant burning raghav...we cannot burn our loved ones..

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100% Agree. It's not "just a picture" to Pallavi. Sometimes I have a hard time understanding if people who complain about such things understand the depth of a relationship with someone you love unconditionally - whether it's between family members or between husband and wife - it is not so simple or fickle.

When we love someone, every object associated with them, even if we don't have a memory of it, is precious to us, because they are precious to us. To burn them, it's as if we'd have to let them go. That's why Mandar asked her to do it, and that's why she couldn't do it.