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Financial independence is important, no doubt in that. However discussion with regard to financial matters between the couple is important too. What are their personal goals, professional goals, goals as a family etc. Should be cleared out. And then plan appropriately for achieving them. If someone chooses to not work so that their goals can be fulfilled is not a bad decision, because they are contributing in some other ways.

At the same time, if a person should not be dependent on the job for their own identity. A job must not be your entire identity.

Personally I am of the opinion that every single person must contribute to the society (not necessarily financially), make use of their education and skills and be good people

Originally posted by: OceanicHeart.

It brings us back to the age-old discussion women should be self-sufficient. Period.

They should have their own career and own ambition. Should not leave their jobs after marriage. Should continue to work after having a child.

Yes their husband's maybe the best but to have your own money and not being dependent on someone is empowering.

I have seen so many educated women just sitting at home with the excuse that their children and husbands need them 24x7. 😵

And so many women handling their career and children at the same time 👏

Apart from that in Hindi serial yahan toh hero hi kaam nahi karte toh heroine kya karegi 🤣

But I do hope they show Pallavi having some ambition and dream apart from DSE 😵

A working hindi serial Female leads are very rare.

I totally agree Tanya

Hope she does something for herself other that sada seva for that dam family

True, she should be financially comfortable and on her own.

I absolutely hate this part of ITV, 99% of the serials, esp. the ones on sitara, show women just engaged in family and kitchen politics after marriage.

I know this happens in real life too, and more so in rural area.

But i believe what happens in reality and what's shown on TV are interlinked with each other.

Reality influences TV and what's shown on TV also impacts viewers.

Why not focus on the positives?

Please show women and men focusing on career and family equally after marriage, in-laws saying do not bother about the house work, we will manage or maid will manage. At least show the husbands doing half of the house work, not for helping the wife but because it's their responsibility too.

I have really loved some recent adds regarding this, one shows a husband cooking and taking care of his wife's needs because she has a hectic job.

I told this in EDT that I really felt bad for Pallavi... This is for the first time she asked help from Raghav directly in terms of money but he rejected that which I agree why he did that but I felt really bad for her.. Raghav didn't mind losing 13 cr for her but rejected 10L and we can see the discomfort he was having while saying that.. Pallavi in general is self sufficient.. she has her education done and also she can work independently on her own without looking for jobs thanks to her saree business..Small or big she can swim in that mess.. i hope she co times with her saree business even after everything is sorted out..

Originally posted by: Ubiquitos

There was a scene today which made me feel uncomfortable, (not in a bad way but kind of like in a serious way), it was Kadam watchman uncle asking Pallavi for 10 lakh rupees... The moment he said this, I felt lo here we go again.. From where she will get this money, ladki ne kaam dhandha toh chhod hi diya hai aajkal... And I was intrigued and was already feeling lowkey embarrassed for her..

So she approaches Raghav and I am like please please don't ask.. I don't know why but it was uncomfortable for me.. So she says she will return back the money, ek baar ke liye udhaar de do... And Raghav denies on the pretense of not having cash with him... I got his reasons.. But I was looking for Pallavi's reactions.. How does she feel about it? She said she will manage and didn't really think much about it....It was dealt in a cool manner, but it left an unpleasant taste in my mouth... That scene was good, and I am glad it was shown...And I am even more glad Amma caught on to that and decided to help Pallavi in her own way and in such candid manner... Amma Rao you have my heart once again... Geeta ji is doing her job so well...

Now coming back to the topic, and this is purely from Pallavi's perspective, I have always felt she should continue to pursue what she wants and should be independent if at all someday she is left alone again.... I don't know why, maybe I have seen enough of her miseries, maybe I myself don't believe in leaving your dreams for family and marriage, and I always believe you should be on your own in your marriage even in today's age, otherwise such small small moments can be hurtful for your self respect... It's not related to Raghav at all.. He can be a great husband, a great understanding partner and all... But that having something of your own is all I wish for Pallavi.. And I am glad she was able to arrange finally but I wish more for her so that she doesn't have to come to this point again.. Her self respect in this regard has my heart, and I hope they never compromise on that. She was so straight forward and unbelievably non problematic and trusting in this matter, I was awwed. But somewhere down the line, they need to address this matter seriously..

Overall this was handled well, a poignant intriguing scene and kept me wondering about this aspect of Pallavi's life.. Did anyone else felt similarly or was I thinking too much on Pallavi's behalf? 😆😆

Address this matter matlab? Of pallavi being refused help from husband?

This scene was subtle and I do hope such small rapport continues to be shown. Of day to day scenarios of husband and wife approaching each other. I felt a little bad for palavi to have been refused help from hubby. And while she took it with a pinch of salt believing that husband might genuinely be in trouble himself, not every time everyone's understanding.

Originally posted by: OceanicHeart.

It brings us back to the age-old discussion women should be self-sufficient. Period.

They should have their own career and own ambition. Should not leave their jobs after marriage. Should continue to work after having a child.

Yes their husband's maybe the best but to have your own money and not being dependent on someone is empowering.

I have seen so many educated women just sitting at home with the excuse that their children and husbands need them 24x7. 😵

And so many women handling their career and children at the same time 👏

Apart from that in Hindi serial yahan toh hero hi kaam nahi karte toh heroine kya karegi 🤣

But I do hope they show Pallavi having some ambition and dream apart from DSE 😵

A working hindi serial Female leads are very rare.

Age old discussion toh hai, and anyone should continue to pursue their ambitions.... How this got lost in this show or ITV shows in general is beyond me.. For all their progressiveness, nayi soch, and all... I mean c'mmon in this world, money matters, ego and pride matters..

Male lead at least, it's assumed that he is working and he has all the power and connections in the world..

But female lead 🤪

I felt bad not because it's a social issue or something, but in general for Pallavi as a character in this show... Since beginning she has been at mercy of fate and others, and although she manages to come out, but in the end she has nothing which she can call her own... So it would have been really nice if makers really thought seriously about this... Or her work was just a ploy to build their love story, that's it..

Originally posted by: DaffodilsNew

Yeah it was a bit uncomfortable for me to watch too. I feel if I had been on her position , probably couldnt have asked Raghav for it. But she did and he denied ( which ofcourse was very evident). Must hv felt bad but she didnt make an issue of it.

Yes Pallavi should pursue her dreams and whatever we hv seen of Raghav , he isnt the kind of person who will stop her from it. He infact encourages her work . So Pallavi should try to be more independent but then she keeps working for Deshmukh saree store only , where the Sanki Deshmukh doesnt want her . So its like a charity work. Where she gives all her time and focus but gets or expects nothing in return. She has to get a new shop to work more independtly .

Since its ITV , these people forget dt female leads can work too. Though newer shows are showing things differently. Like the Udaariyan show on Colors , the FL wished to continue her job and dt was nicely done. I hope they do something likewise for Pallavi too.

She has no rights over deshmukh emporium, and uska toh ab sentimental value hai ab... But since they have it as a set readymade, they will use it..😆I don't care actually to whom she lends money, even if she decides to help deshmukhs, no problem... par thoda toh kuchh apna kare ladki... like she can invest somewhere, she can start any online business, can open a new shop whatever...

Originally posted by: Lonelythots

Pallavi is still fulfilling nawab order right which is why she visited her saree shop a couple of days back to get work done along with krishna. Also she seemed to have a FD and some 50000 cash in her account.. she wasnt really penniless just that the money may not have been much. after being away from the saree shop post marriage, the nawab order was her first... also she had just paid the defaulted property tax amount and got her house back from the nawab order..

also 10 lakhs is a huge amount given that a few months back she was running pillar to post to keep the house running.. 2 years loss in saree shop.. and only now things seem to be looking up for the saree shop.. and pallavi is doing free lancing on her own..

She isn't penniless thank god and not entirely jobless, good.. But still her not having an strong footing materialistically bothers me, because no progress on that front since the beginning of the show..

Originally posted by: i_ambivert

Actually Tbh I felt bad when raghav refused to give her money(I do understand raghav's point of view and his situation) .I mean this girl has accepted raghav as her family and straight away went to her husband to ask for money ( If it was any other itv FL they would arrange money somehow but would hesitate to get it from Male lead ) Raghav straight away said he doesn't have 10L . The immediate thought process of mine was dude you are the owner of jayati jewels with over 200 showrooms across India . I was relieved when amma's reactions matched with mine.

Well coming to the point , had I been in pallavi's position I would have straight away got hurt . Deeply hurt huh.But pallavi was cool about it

I hope pallavi could start her own saree shop or some other business or a dance class and start making money of her own(even if it's small it will be her own hard earned money)

She also wanted to pursue PG in kathak right? So i hope a dance class would work

But here in ITV FL usually don't work after marriage or even if they do it happens only during separation track of leads.

Raghav was seen repenting after that, and we cannot really hold it against him, because we know for him money doesn't matter.. But anyone would have felt hurt, but Pallavi didn't maybe because she didn't really think it was right of her to ask for money from him..

There is a saying, money is irrelevant for those who have it in abundance, but holds so much value for those who don't have it...

That's why I liked how Amma went out of the way to help Pallavi, because she broke her own FD for Pallavi, offcourse she is secure now financially, but still it was a big gesture.. Raghav giving 10 lacs isn't a big gesture... But Amma giving it is... And Pallavi earning 10 lacs on her own someday will be...

So if Pallavi after years of struggle and dependence on others for her life decisions, if she manages to create something of her own without any charity but due to her sheer will and hard work, it will be great..

Originally posted by: ReemShah

I really didn't want her to ask Raghav for the money but it is shown--because she does not have that amount of money and all the money she earns goes to DSE. and the way she pulled Raghav to the dining table and told him about the clue she found--excited and happy--that too on Mandaar's birthday--all her hope was shattered with Raghav's denial. Albeit the fact he is doing this so he could maintain his family's happiness--but uk truth is ought to come out one day and the more you push it the bigger you dig the grave.

I too liked Amma for helping Pallavi out.

In the entire scenario of Raghav deflecting from giving money and his excuses--my expressions were same as Amma or little more exagerrated. and the fact Pallavi was not hurt--or maybe didnt show she was hurt by his response showed how she maturely handled the situation. Raghav should have atleast considered giving her a little amount of money.

this issue of self sufficient women--is something which has always been a problem in society and ITV--post marriage ITV leads are not allowed to work unless they revolt or do something.

Raghav as a character can be used to push any angsty plot... Massst banda hai... 🤣

Intentions sahi galat sab fit baiththe hain uske oopar....

@bold I think the reason is they don't know how to incorporate work into drama post marriage.. 😆

Old habits die hard... Family drama, ex dramas take over... And emotional journey is prioritized over professional journey..