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Posted: 14 years ago
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Hey Everyone! This is my first time posting on this forum- Well I wanted to start a discussion about today's episode where Uttara Asks Devyani about a woman's maryada and when should there be a limit. Devyani responds how if it benefits her husband, then a woman should cross it for the sake of her husband. Please let me know if I understood incorrectly, but if that is what she meant then I have to say that I disagree. I believe that a woman is much stronger then man, and that she has the capabilities to hold her family together, but I think it is unfair to mean that she should forget her boundaries for the sake of her husband. In the case of marriage, isn't it the duty and responsibility of a husband to take care of the respect and dignity of his wife. And if he doesn't uphold his responsilibilites does it really mean then that a woman should also not stand up for her rights? Is it fair for Rishabh to making such a cheap deal where he makes pressurizes his wife to spend a night with another man? Is it fair to Uttara to sell her respect, and body to another man just because it benefits her husband? I dont know what many of you think, and I know that this in reality might happen to women around the world, but I want to know your opinions. Do you think what Devyani said about a woman's maryada is true or not. Should she cross her maryada for the sake of her husband, and the family?

I have to Disagree.

Sorry to anyone if they have been offended- This is just my point of view. I hope to get a discussion going.. we need to bring this forum alive..

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Posted: 14 years ago
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Never.....rishabh is supposed to take care of Uttara...he is not acting as a husband but a cheap dealer....devyani should not have commented wihout knowing the whole story....to me self-respect is greater than all relations..if someone cares for my self-respect than I have a meaning for that relationship....Uttara should leave Rishabh...as he is no more a husband

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Posted: 14 years ago
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Hi I disagree with Deveyani as well...It seems that her understanding of Maryada is to do watever the husband is asking... Deviyani does wat her husband asks even when she knows its wrong becuase she feels like she is keeping her husbands respect but in reality he continues to treat her like a doormat and uses her and abuses her when he feels like it. With the Utra situation her blackmaling Dalal of a so-called-husband is crossing his limits for his own personal gain....What makes me sad is that it's always the women who have to make these massive sacrifices and yes it is the way of the world and how things go in some communities but its damn unfair and i feel so sorry for Utra i wish she told devyani the truth then maybe her advise would have been diffrent. You know you are sooo right about livening up the discussion on this forum come on ppl post your thoughts and comments.... Maryada is a great show lets show our appretiation for it... Keep Smiling 😉
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Posted: 14 years ago
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Originally posted by: xsaher786x

Well I wanted to start a discussion about today's episode where Uttara Asks Devyani about a woman's maryada and when should there be a limit. Devyani responds how if it benefits her husband, then a woman should cross it for the sake of her husband.

with those ones that I have quoted dear.



u know what I have actually started losing interest in the show now and if it weren't for the lead pair sakes I would have completely stop watching it long ago cos I now fully believe it's a show that is sending wrong messages out to young people.



and I totally dislikes some of the line given to some of the men to use on women.


it's
pathetic.
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Posted: 14 years ago
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I also disagree with Devyani's thinking. Whenever she refers to a woman/wife in general, it sometimes sounds derogatory. However, I don't think Devyani was always like this. If I remember her past conversations with Bao ji....he spoke about how she has changed so significantly over the years. I think the fact that Brahma has been such an awful and non-existent husband, she has forcefully ingrained it in her mind that a wife should please her husband at all costs. That aside, I sincerely hope that Uttara follows her heart and does not allow that sick man to have her for the night. And I also hope that she leaves Rishabh. He is a spineless man and does not deserve to be called a husband. He is pure selfish and cold hearted.
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Posted: 14 years ago
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Devyani's slavish mentality is getting on my nerves now! Why on earth would a woman sacrifice her Maryada for her husband's sake? In fact, husband shd protect his wife's maryada because in the wife's honor lies the husband's and family's honor!
Devyani didnt forsake her maryada, in fact shes desperately clinging to the image/illusion of a perfect family and perfect marriage! Why is she giving her sister ulta advice?
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Posted: 14 years ago
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What is Devyani doing?.......to me she is only trying to hide truth from others...manipulating and forcibly smiling.
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Posted: 14 years ago
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ya one should care about her family and husband...
but a person who i s ready to sell his wife cant be a husband...
so i totally disagree with devyani...
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Posted: 14 years ago
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Sorry- Lol i started the discussion and disappeared myself.. But yeah.. I'm glad that many of you guys who've responded disagree. I think that it might be true how Devyani has changed over the years. It might be because she knows how stubborn her husband is that instead of facing him and questioning him head off, its easier to just pretend everything is fine. To turn a blind eye on situations that she knows would bring out confrontations, arguements and in other case shift the house environment. Devyani seems to me a person who wants to keep peace in her home, but I think instead of facing situations head on, when one tries to keep a lid on it, it'll burst sooner or later usually giving out more terrible results.

A woman is a very strong person. I think in comparison to men, we are more stronger mentally, and emotionally. ( some even physically..lol ) We have the strength to bear so much, and usually all injustices are done towards women. Yet in majority its still women who pull out of the tough situations scarred, but still whole. I understand that this drama is to bring light to the things women have to face in their homes, but I also think that the way they are showing this drama is sending the wrong message. Women should fight for their rights especially against the injustices that they face inside the home at the hands of their fathers, husbands, even sometimes brothers and sons. Until we send the message to women to fight against the injustices that they face within their homes how will we give them the courage to fight against the injustices that society slaps them with.

I understand the concepts of respect, dignity of ones husbands' and home, but I think that unless a woman has her own dignity and respect intact, only then will she be able to tackle lifes obstacles that come her way. Only then will she be able to hold her family together. Women should not be considered weak, but should be given respect and honor as they deserve this and so much more.

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