Understanding Rishabh Kundra - Page 2

Originally posted by: -publicenemy-

Firstly, one of the main things that has perplexed me in the continuous arguments in justifying the character of a man like RK is that he is willing to be single-minded in love. Or as you mentioned, "Above all, he has the capacity to put one person above every thing else." This may be just me, but how can this be a virtue? The capacity to put one person above everyone else is bestowed on most people. Developmentally, typically it starts out with your mother (and/or father), then maybe a sibling, then maybe a close friend, and eventually a love. It's basic human nature to do this. However, when you lose yourself, your goodness, your rightness, and your morals in order to preserve this supposed bond you want to share with one other person, for me it stops being love and merely becomes an obsession. And yes, I do very strongly believe that obsession is an entirely different entity from love. Obsession relies completely on the onslaught of overwhelming emotions whereas love is a more stable entity, not pulled this way and that by the person's whims and changing moods and situations. There is a certain level of abject narcissism to this type of obsession and that defines RK. It's like he never quite evolved out of the early childhood stage of seeing things, where people mainly exist for your convenience, pleasure, and amusement, and when you lose their attention, you will do anything to regain it.

Hi Devi,

Thanks for your response.

Perhaps I should have said, the ability to put one person above everything else including himself. I see what you mean when you ask if this is a virtue. Admiration for that quality usually comes, I suspect, from the understanding that it is a sort of spiritual readiness. The capacity for single-pointedness, which allows you to leapfrog and evolve. The position when you are willing, able to submerge yourself because to your devotion to someone or something...

Again, there are many shades to this quality and you could slot it at different points on the gradation depending on the motivations involved. Certainly it could be something as unhealthy as mere obsession or zidd as Padmini puts it, as selfish as a child's innate sense of self preservation... or it could rise, if intensity and circumstances permit, to becoming an all encompassing passion that consumes the lover as well.

Originally posted by: -publicenemy-

The entire notion of his 'love' for her is laced with these sort of emotions ' possession, envy, ownership, dominion, spite... the one thing about him that is complicated is exactly this part of him ' his emotions. He has yet to develop the capacity for the sort of 'pure' love is actually capable of genuine sacrifice. He is so besieged by emotions that are always adulterated with how others are out to topple him or betray him, not realizing that often the world is a mirror of what you dish out yourself, that he cannot move out of his own way long enough to see that there are many who love him despite his weaknesses (as many and obvious as they are). So, in this sense, no, I do not think him worthy of Madhu's love (or anyone else's really with the possible exception of his mother simply because mothers love in that way). Not only until he redeems himself to her, but also redeems himself as a man and as a human being.

-Devi

Oh you are very right! RK is very far from 'pure love' – the kind that would put the beloved's happiness beyond one's own. He is insecure, possessive, vicious – and for all his purported grand passion, he is looking out only for himself, his happiness, which coincidentally seems to reside in her. He cannot even appreciate her love fully even if he dimly suspects that it was something quite beautiful.

He is not worthy of Madhu's love – yet. And that redemption that you speak of is what this story hinges on now. He must step up to her, he must deserve her, he must become worthy of her. But I believe he is capable of it. He's taking the long way home, but I do hope he will get there.

Bubble

Originally posted by: -barunoholic-

thts why I am supporting RK

his ego is not letting him to apologise to MB..He wants to love n to get loved by MB..he is a flawed human being but thn nobody is perfect..

superb👏

Originally posted by: soapbubble

He is not worthy of Madhu's love ' yet. And that redemption that you speak of is what this story hinges on now. He must step up to her, he must deserve her, he must become worthy of her. But I believe he is capable of it. He's taking the long way home, but I do hope he will get there.

Bubble

Originally posted by: paljay

Did you actually read what TM wrote? I doubt it from your response.

Originally posted by: paljay

I too want that to happen, but I doubt it as the character of RK is now gone completely from Egoist to Psycho, He has charm and style and looks, which is playing major role now, but that do not last for a long time he will break one day and will show his true picture, He does not love anyone but himself and not capable of that too.

Originally posted by: -barunoholic-

keep doubting me 😳 as if I care