Understanding Rishabh Kundra

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Originally posted by: soapbubble

"Please, laut aao mere paas", he pleaded, "Kaan pakad ke maafi maangun to bhi nahi?"

They were both drunk. The sub-conscious overruled the conscious and he took her home, and laid her tenderly on the bed beside him.

The morning came, brought back the whole truth... and a new scenario. He was soft to Madhu on the outdoor shoot. It was a matter of time before they spoke. May be he would have apologised, asked her to come back... but before he could do anything about it, entered Sultan.

Originally posted by: soapbubble

Sultan, by himself, was pretty harmless to begin with.

Madhu and he had met but that was all.

But the CONCEPT of him gave RK nightmares. A potential MAN for Madhu. The IDEA of him. The FEAR that because he had cut Madhu loose, cut her adrift from him, she was free in the world... free to snapped up by any worthy man in need of a woman.

Who thought of a relationship between Madhu and Sultan first? Was it Sultan? Was it Madhu? No, it was RK

Sultan - not the man, but the IDEA of him - shook RK's foundations.

I confess: I want to see him suffer for what he did.

For being so egotistic that he could ACTUALLY hurt Madhu like he did. How could he bear to do that when he can't stand it if she so much as stubs her toe? How could he bear to hurt his Madhu like that?

For being such a fool as to rub salt into her wounds. If he could do that, humiliate her in public, did he love her EVER?

For accusing her of unfaithfulness, when he had himself demonstrated the most appalling display of disloyalty. (Loyalty isn't just about other women - your man should be on your side, no matter what. Not draw a line and PUT you on the other side.)

For choosing to bluster his way through the crisis instead of being refined and decent about it.

For bulldozing Madhu rather than cajoling her.

For choosing to be SO insensitive to her state of mind that she decided to do something about it.

Hello Bubble,

I usually avoid leaving comments on any thread that has even a surface level loyalty to RK, even the most reasonable ones, if only for the fact that those threads tend to invite precisely those who may misconstrue even a genuine argument from the other side, which then makes it a macabre exercise where the original intentions become completely decimated. I am writing on your thread because, well, firstly because you write well, secondly because you did not pledge allegiance to any one camp aside from the show itself, and lastly because you invited people to leave comments.

Within the context of the above, let me offer a counter-perspective.

Firstly, one of the main things that has perplexed me in the continuous arguments in justifying the character of a man like RK is that he is willing to be single-minded in love. Or as you mentioned, "Above all, he has the capacity to put one person above every thing else." This may be just me, but how can this be a virtue? The capacity to put one person above everyone else is bestowed on most people. Developmentally, typically it starts out with your mother (and/or father), then maybe a sibling, then maybe a close friend, and eventually a love. It's basic human nature to do this. However, when you lose yourself, your goodness, your rightness, and your morals in order to preserve this supposed bond you want to share with one other person, for me it stops being love and merely becomes an obsession. And yes, I do very strongly believe that obsession is an entirely different entity from love. Obsession relies completely on the onslaught of overwhelming emotions whereas love is a more stable entity, not pulled this way and that by the person's whims and changing moods and situations. There is a certain level of abject narcissism to this type of obsession and that defines RK. It's like he never quite evolved out of the early childhood stage of seeing things, where people mainly exist for your convenience, pleasure, and amusement, and when you lose their attention, you will do anything to regain it.

I also don't think it's merely the IDEA of Sultan that is threatening to RK. If he did not think that Sultan, as a man, possessed at least some of the qualities that would be appealing to a woman such as Madhu, I doubt that he would be bending over backwards seething in jealousy. The entire notion of his 'love' for her is laced with these sort of emotions – possession, envy, ownership, dominion, spite... the one thing about him that is complicated is exactly this part of him – his emotions. He has yet to develop the capacity for the sort of 'pure' love is actually capable of genuine sacrifice. He is so besieged by emotions that are always adulterated with how others are out to topple him or betray him, not realizing that often the world is a mirror of what you dish out yourself, that he cannot move out of his own way long enough to see that there are many who love him despite his weaknesses (as many and obvious as they are). So, in this sense, no, I do not think him worthy of Madhu's love (or anyone else's really with the possible exception of his mother simply because mothers love in that way). Not only until he redeems himself to her, but also redeems himself as a man and as a human being.

P.S. To all readers, I welcome comments, feedback, well-thought out analyses from whatever perspective you share. However, please refrain if you simply want to engage in vitriol laced with caustic sarcasm that stunts any form of reasonable debate. If you are completely committed to RK to the exclusion of all else, your loyalty is admirable, but not suited to the purpose of healthy argument. Thanks.

-Devi