points to ponder, 22 feb - Page 2

Originally posted by: maragathm

I am sorry I strongly disagree to that point of view. When you are young you have a responsibility to yourself to make the best out of your life and be the best you can be. When you become older and get married your first responsibility is to your kids and your family. If you dont want that responsibilty then you should not get married. I dont believe in selfish love. Love is not everything, and parents have no right to jeopardize the future of their children for what they want. As for Nandini being Karan's wife, she is no longer his wife, according to the hindu marraige act, if a couple is separated for more than 5 years, their marraige is legally nullified. But who cares about that ekta doesnt follow any law.

Karan should first help Bhoomi. If she really hates JD so much, then she should let JD go, divorce him. JD deserves someone better. Karan should teach his daughter the importance of honoring relation, but if he himself is unable to honor his wife, how can he expect his daughter to honor her husband.

Your life is never your own at any stage of your life. There are always people around you, your parents, your siblings, your husband or kids. At any stage your actions reflect upon them and we must never intentionally hurt any of them. Life is too complicated to always get what you want. There are times when you just have to give up. Karan had his chances, but now his responsibility is to Manthan and Bhoomi, even if he doesnt give a damn about Tanya.

I am sorry that sounded like a lecture. Damn I should be a counsellor. 😆

That is your point of view. I dont agree with it but can surely respect it. now you being a counselor, hummmm not sure about that though. Just Kidding 😳

When you start making sacrifices becasue of your family, your obligations, that is when you get in trouble.

Weather Nandini is Karan's wife legally or not he deserves another chance with her.

About Bhumi, Bhumi is very mature gurl and can take care of herself. Besides she is all grown up she dun need parents. It didnt make any diffrence wen Kran and Tanya are together will it make any more diffrence? I dont think so. Why take an avenue that is not for sure going to your destinaiton? In other words if it does not make any diffrence why should K sacrifice?

Originally posted by: DeSiPride05

All I am saying is that Karan has a life of his own and Nandini has a special place in that life. He deserves to bring her back in his life, if that means to ruin everyone else's life, so be it.😳

and again, i don't fully disagree. let them be together, by all means.

ruining everyone else's life? that's not right. bringing nandini "home"? that's not right.

set up life with nandini where they can be together? that's their right. all the power to them. it just can't be at shantiniketan.

how about buying out the neighbouring house, and living there with nandini? that way tulsi-ma can spend time with her karan as well? 😆

I am sure lots o KN fans wont agree with you. 😊

Originally posted by: DeSiPride05

I am sure lots o KN fans wont agree with you. 😊

hmm, but why? you get the pair together and some hint of a moral high ground. not the best of all worlds??

oh well, can't say i haven't tried? 😆

Originally posted by: estee

* boy, does bhoomi love that sari, or wot?? 😆 she's been in it for maaaaany days now?

* why isn't baa asking lakshya whether he's not happy about eklavya and kt getting married? that would make for an awesome scene! 😊

I couldn't agree more with these two points! Bhumi is always in that saree! But atleast she had different earring today! 😆And I was actually depending on Baa to do something about the L-KT thing but now I know why K-N never got together - because even though people knew about them, nobody spoke up. Now, the same thing is happening again! Nobody will speak up against Tulsi's decisions. It's sad...😭

Pooja

A man can have only one wife. I wanted to slap Karan when he said to Nandini to come live with me when Tanya was still around. Is he out of his mind. No self respecting woman would tolerate that. There is no love powerful enough in this world that can justify a man living with two women. There is enough cheating scum bag men out there, so lets not justify Karan's actions.

Bhoomi is grown up girl and she doesnt need parents anymore. Ummmmmmmmmmmmm what does that mean. You can still be 50, and you would still need your parents, I mean not to feed you or bathe you. When you become a parent, your children automatically put you on a mantle, no matter at what age or stage of your life you are at, they will need your support or advice. This can be a burden to many parents because it is not easy to always know what the right thing is, but when that confidence breaks that children have on their parents, It is very painful because no matter what other idol you have in your life, everyone want their parents to be the one they turn to.

I will agree with one thing desipride said that life shouldnt be all about sacrifices, because if you make sacrifices just for the sake of sacrificing then you will live in hell. But instead you should think that what you are doing is the best for your children and family. It is about the right frame of mind. Karan shouldnt think that living with Tanya is punishment or leading Bhoomi to right path is an inconvenience in his life.

You know the saying: "Only a weak person in the quest to find happiness will try to change everyone around him, instead what he should do first is fix himself".

Karan has wasted so much energy trying to convince everyone around him that Nandini are him meant to be together, maybe what he should do is try to clear up is own confused mind and find out what it is that he truly cherishes.

Originally posted by: maragathm

A man can have only one wife. I wanted to slap Karan when he said to Nandini to come live with me when Tanya was still around. Is he out of his mind. No self respecting woman would tolerate that. There is no love powerful enough in this world that can justify a man living with two women. There is enough cheating scum bag men out there, so lets not justify Karan's actions.

o help! did i forget to mention that he should set up house with nandini after getting a divorce from tanya??

but the divorce settlement should include tanya getting the kids, and probably even the right to continue at the virani household. after all, they are, and will always be, virani kids...

hmm, now that i write it down, it sounds like an odd sort of divorce settlement to let the wife keep the kids, the house, and the family that the house comes with! 😆 but hey, this show keeps changing the laws of the country all the time, so what the heck! 😆

I agree with Desipride05 completely.