Discussion:ADULTERY in REEL Life - Page 2

I think that extra marital affairs and relationships relevant to that have become more common nowadays than what was a decade ago. But what Ekta is revealing in her soaps is a little TOO exxagerated. I mean... SHEESH!!! A hindu man with two WIVES (not 2 GFs or one wife and the other GF but 2 WIVES!!!) at the SAME TIME!!! By the way, isnt that action considered a crime in India??? So when Karan was about to get involved with a marital relationship with tanya..... how did the law allow him???..... i mean his other wife (Nandini) was STILL alive and NOT dead... only in Coma, so how did the Indian law accept his marriage??? This is just one of the logical facts that Ekta doesnt show us... just to carry her so- called "tradition" of extra marital affairs in soaps as a smooth, silky view. About a year ago, I used to think that AT LEAST Karan will be the most loyal kiddo in the Virani Zoo (OOPS... sorry.. i insulted the poor animals... they'll give me a shraap if they get to know i compared them with the Virani Characters) and i was proven wrong. But I dont think it's really Karan's fault cuz how can he NOT follow his "Sanskari and Modest" family's steps.

Personally, i think that if one truly loves his\her spouse, then even the thought of getting involved with someone else will stay away from them. That love which one has for their partner will prevent the person from getting any type of attraction towards another person. So basically, I don't really think that some characters like Karan, Sahil, Anurag, etc etc etc... "TRULY" loved any woman that came into their life. ekta just tries to pressurize people into thinking that they are GREAT lovers only by showing them in tears and pain when the other is in pain or when the other one is "away" from them. Perseverance is something she hardly ever shows in her soaps. For example, if Karan truly oved Nandini, he would have waited for her all his life no matter how many thorns this path had without thinking of doing that as an 'esaan' but as an act in the addiction of love (all his claims and sacrifices in love for nandini are pointless cuz he married som1 else....... and now even says tht he "loves" her too????) , and Tanya could have also just raised Karan and Nandini's daughter without having to illegally marry a legally wedded Karan whose wife was STILL alive, but NOOOOO! how could she have given out on such a tremendous chance to get the guy.

The way ekta potrays Adultery is extremely ridiculous and somehow very comical too. And, I COMPLETELY disagree at her words which are that "I just reveal what is going on in today's life....... ." This lady desperately needs to get REAL!!!

Nice topic by the way !!

-Ria

Wonderful discussion topic Deepthi👏

I don't know someone personally who has had an extramarital affair so from my perspective, I don't think it is common. I can probably only vouch for the part of US that I live in, but I'm a frequent visitor to India and it doesn't seem to be that it is very common.... then again it does depend of course.

Ekta mai claims that she's just reflecting in her serials facts about society (I have yet to understand which unfortunate society she lives in that experiences it all !?! 🤔) ... and though it's true to an extent I think that sometimes things that she portrays are blown wayyy out of proportion. Dealing with this issue in a serial or two.. or even centering a serial on this issue is fine I guess for a concept.... but I think bringing it up in almost every serial of hers is ridiculous! It's happened in Kyunki countless times, Kasauti Zindagi Kay, Kkavyanjali, Kahiin To Hoga, Kaisa Yeh Pyaar Hai, KGGK, etc... need I say more?

What's worse I think is that a delicate (or what I think is considered one) is brought up and literally tossed aside after a few episodes! People tend to get away with the fact they cheated on someone or the issue eventually is overlooked without due consequences... where's the reality in that?? Just as Eisha noted, I think it's kinda dumb how Mihir got away with his affiar on the basis that he was taking care of Mandira for the sake of humanity.. give me a break!! Lame excuse!... I mean if he was taken advantage of by being completely drugged up or something then I guess that's another issue but I don't think that was considered so all in all that idea was handled wrongly by Ekta I think! Extramarital affairs have probably torn family apart... figuratively and maybe literally also i.e. into different houses... But I guess for Ekta that would be too many sets to worry about 🤔

I think extramarital affairs are wrong. Period. If a person isn't happy in his/her relationship then he/she owes it to his/her partner to tell them the truth and break that relationship. What's the point of ruining two lives, three if they include their own... Now in Gautam's case... yes, he liked Teesha while still married to Ganga but he liked Teesha before then so it's too complicated. I think it was wrong of him not to tell Ganga the truth immediately before temporarily ruining her life but he did eventually and Teesha knew the truth all along... either way, Gautam didn't take advantage of either Teesha or Ganga which is what it came down to. Extramartial affairs are more so definied nowadays as heavily on the physical level and then psychological.

As for the whole issue of if someone is widowed or divorced then I think that it is fine for them to remarry and move on and have another chance at being happy. It's the whole dragging several people on strings that I have a problem with.... Knots aren't fun in life and are quite boring to watch in serials if repeated often.... a single thread connecting a him and a her... no other strings attached... that's the way to go😊

There's my two cents😛

-Neha-

Originally posted by: sweetrani_neha

Wonderful discussion topic Deepthi👏

I don't know someone personally who has had an extramarital affair so from my perspective, I don't think it is common. I can probably only vouch for the part of US that I live in, but I'm a frequent visitor to India and it doesn't seem to be that it is very common.... then again it does depend of course.

Ekta mai claims that she's just reflecting in her serials facts about society (I have yet to understand which unfortunate society she lives in that experiences it all !?! 🤔) ... and though it's true to an extent I think that sometimes things that she portrays are blown wayyy out of proportion. Dealing with this issue in a serial or two.. or even centering a serial on this issue is fine I guess for a concept.... but I think bringing it up in almost every serial of hers is ridiculous! It's happened in Kyunki countless times, Kasauti Zindagi Kay, Kkavyanjali, Kahiin To Hoga, Kaisa Yeh Pyaar Hai, KGGK, etc... need I say more?

What's worse I think is that a delicate (or what I think is considered one) is brought up and literally tossed aside after a few episodes! People tend to get away with the fact they cheated on someone or the issue eventually is overlooked without due consequences... where's the reality in that?? Just as Eisha noted, I think it's kinda dumb how Mihir got away with his affiar on the basis that he was taking care of Mandira for the sake of humanity.. give me a break!! Lame excuse!... I mean if he was taken advantage of by being completely drugged up or something then I guess that's another issue but I don't think that was considered so all in all that idea was handled wrongly by Ekta I think! Extramarital affairs have probably torn family apart... figuratively and maybe literally also i.e. into different houses... But I guess for Ekta that would be too many sets to worry about 🤔

I think extramarital affairs are wrong. Period. If a person isn't happy in his/her relationship then he/she owes it to his/her partner to tell them the truth and break that relationship. What's the point of ruining two lives, three if they include their own... Now in Gautam's case... yes, he liked Teesha while still married to Ganga but he liked Teesha before then so it's too complicated. I think it was wrong of him not to tell Ganga the truth immediately before temporarily ruining her life but he did eventually and Teesha knew the truth all along... either way, Gautam didn't take advantage of either Teesha or Ganga which is what it came down to. Extramartial affairs are more so definied nowadays as heavily on the physical level and then psychological.

As for the whole issue of if someone is widowed or divorced then I think that it is fine for them to remarry and move on and have another chance at being happy. It's the whole dragging several people on strings that I have a problem with.... Knots aren't fun in life and are quite boring to watch in serials if repeated often.... a single thread connecting a him and a her... no other strings attached... that's the way to go😊

There's my two cents😛

-Neha-

👏haha meethi finally i get the chance to read ur long essay..😆very well said..😃

gr8 topic Baby dii.👏👏will write my views soon..now i m njoying reading..nehaa kya baat boli hein..i m really impressed wid urs..😉😉

Many people marry for money.look at monihi she robbed her rich husband and cheated ganga,sahil,n harsh

i think affairs whilst you're married are becoming more acceptable in society, so Ekta might be trying to show the changes of peoples attitude via her serials. they are exagerated at times because you dont generally take your husband back if he's cheated on you 😕

im from the UK and one of my friends brother has moved out cos of having an affair with someone, but to the rest of the family everyone thinks that they're one family. family pressure and the need to keep the unit one, is probably why the culprits are readily accepted.

Originally posted by: Mrs.Eishu.SRK

There are people who indulge in extra marital affairs.However i feel certain things shown in Ekta's soaps are just tooo far fetched.I dont think men indulge in other women this often. Or perhaps, maybe i feel this way because i haven't seen the other side of life..but seriously....iv never seen so many such men in one family. Almost all the Viranis have had more than one woman in their life.

What i find even more ridiculous is that even after sleeping around with God knows how many other women, these guys get away with it so easily!! How easily they're forgiven and accepted by others. Would ppl's attitudes have been the same if a woman was found cheating on her husband? Lets say if Ganga was found cheating on another man, she would probably have been kicked out of the house..

I still can understand how Tulsi forgave Mihir for the night he spent with Mandira. The excuse he gave was very lame🤢. he said something like " mein ne ye sab insaniyat ke khatir kiya😕" True, Baa slapped him, Tulsi refused to see his face for quite a while, but the fact remains that eventually he was accepted by everyone in the family. That to as an "adarsh" beta?!?!

As far as Gautam's case is concerned, i don't think hes at fault. As you pointed out di, he was never involved with 2 women at once. He was just...lets say...a bit jinxed when it came to marriage. Im glad hes settled with Damini and hope that another woman doesnt come into his life😆

Also i think there's nothing wrong in getting married more than once...(provided that your partner is either dead or uv divorced him or her).After all, all marriages dont end in a perfect way. People deserve another chance, a chance to move on.😊Having said that, i still do think that it is awfully wierd being married to someone who was once your brothers wife(bhabhi)

Can't think of any more other ppl who are cheating on their wives, i think u pointed most of them out. What about Om though....he had another wife..trishna?😕 And i think in KGGK only, Samir and Gayatri had an affair too😕. But nowadays im not following Kyunki,let alone KGGK, so i may be wrong.

Lastly, wonderful discussion Deepthi di😛

I AGREE WID YA!!!

Extramarital affairs....can be seen as either the physical side or the emotinal side....i mean 4 me if my husband ws even thinkin about another women...(not neccesarily engaging in a full blown affair)......iii would count that as cheting and wud pbably think it wd hav the same punishment (4rm me) as if he ws havin a physical rlationship.

As far as ektas serial's go.....i agree with sumonw (sowie cnt rememba who it is ) in sayin that she has an obligation to the ppl who watch her serials to not show stuff which is ethically and morally wrong...and if she does then 2 show it in away that the consequences are shown relistically... and as far as i am concerended she prides herself in doing shows which show women as indiviuals but im sowie to say i think no women in this day and age..be it indian...or western women to take thier husband or man cheating on them and havin a extramarital affair...no matter what the excuse is (come mihir jus for the sake of humanity dont mean dat u take ur trousers off 4 another women other than ur wife).

I ALSO THINK THAT EKTA'S SERIALS ARE JAUST A WASTE.SHE ALWAYS SHOWS A MAN WITH MORE THAN ONE WIFE.ITS JUST A RIDICULOUS. 😆 😃 RIDICULOUS

Adultery in this serial is becoming common but it was Mihir who started it, I admit that he only had one night stand with Mandira but it was his choice to visit her each time therefore he is fully responsible for the outcome of their relation ship. Now as Sahil is being shown that he is also committing adultery, which I have no doubt that he is he is in the thought that he has stopped loving Ganga and no is beginning to fall in love with Tripti which may be true, but what I think is that Sahil that Sahil justs wants someone to play along with and that toy he has is Tripti, but since he is so use to living with Ganga and is use to her that even if he leaves Ganga for Tripti he will miss Ganga and her habits. But I don't think Sahil has the guts to break his mariage with Ganga and then bring Tripti into the house as his wife.

As far as Gautam goes he has never commited adultery, yes he has been married to Ganga, but like Teesha from the beginning but was pressured into his wedding. But now since Teesha is no more he is married to Damini, loves her and has a family with her. Also Karan has not commit adultery but has fallen in love more than once. The only problem Karan has is one that he cant make the decision on who he loves more and that puts him in a lot of trouble. But yet he is still loyal to both of his loves Tanya and Nands.
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