What would you choose of the two?

A -A husband you love but he is the one who misunderstands you, demeans you and hates you, flaunts his mistress on your face, promises to not love you and treat you a wife, constantly tries to get you out of his life.

Why isn't there a none option 😆

Ok B

Because I am not mahan..
Because I can't sacrifice my happiness when my husband happiness is based on my happines because IT will make us both unhappy
Because I LOVE HIM. One misatake of him will not make me leave him ..
Because I am selfish first my people happiness matters to me not random people who are not good at heart like my people
Because people alive are more important to me than soem baby which is going to be born

The main reason all he loves me and I will not give up what is mine ..no matter what ..
If he is mine than he will be mine till the end of my life.

Above all I cannot live with a person who did a mistake but I can't live with a person who treats me like shit , who insults me , who hates me , who doesn't trust me.

I can live with guilt but not without self respect and love

Originally posted by: harisha_kb

Why isn't there a none option 😆

Ok B

Because I am not mahan..
Because I can't sacrifice my happiness when my husband happiness is based on my happines because IT will make us both unhappy
Because I LOVE HIM. One misatake of him will not make me leave him ..
Because I am selfish first my people happiness matters to me not random people who are not good at heart like my people
Because people alive are more important to me than soem baby which is going to be born

The main reason all he loves me and I will not give up what is mine ..no matter what ..
If he is mine than he will be mine till the end of my life.

Above all I cannot live with a person who did a mistake but I can't live with a person who treats me like shit , who insults me , who hates me , who doesn't trust me.

I can live with guilt but not without self respect and love

Tia, I would choose neither. The first one not for obvious reasons, the second one not also because once my husband has broken my trust, I would never give a cheating man another chance no matter how much he professes to love me. And I could never share him with any other woman and a child from another woman would be a constant reminder of the fact that he had strayed. Logistically, it wouldn't work, Abhi would still be father to the child, he would still hopefully be involved in the upbringing and life of the child which means Tanu will be an ever looming disastrous presence.
Disclaimer: I am not Mahaan like Pragya I think she is nuts to behave the way she is - helping Tanu when Tanu has brought her nothing but grief, trying to set right Abhi's life like she owns it, behaving like some martyr who wants the best for this man who has treated her with nothing but scorn for most of their short married life - he made his bed of thorns and he should lay on it or find a way out of this mess himself, it is not her job or place to fix it. She has been trying my patience.

And I beg to disagree - Pragya is at this point choosing the "None" "Neither" option - she chose option A before ('cos of circumstances) but not anymore, she is not choosing option B now so that leaves her with "none" also.

Soapwatcher, I know most of us will not choose either of those two options. But I just wanted you all to be Pragya and choose one of them.

Pragya chose A but not B. She had those two choices.

Originally posted by: -Tia-

None is not there because Pragya has those two options only. I mean she made a choice to choose A and B came later.. and she decided not to choose B..

So A was okay for her, not B.

I wanna see what is better for the people here. A or B.

if there was none I would have chosen that..

I don't want both type of husbands..but if such a situation arises i can bear option B but not option A

By the way where is your option ??

Rishu, My option can be B but will never be A.

Originally posted by: soapwatcher1

Tia, I would choose neither. The first one not for obvious reasons, the second one not also because once my husband has broken my trust, I would never give a cheating man another chance no matter how much he professes to love me. And I could never share him with any other woman and a child from another woman would be a constant reminder of the fact that he had strayed. Logistically, it wouldn't work, Abhi would still be father to the child, he would still hopefully be involved in the upbringing and life of the child which means Tanu will be an ever looming disastrous presence.

Originally posted by: soapwatcher1

And I beg to disagree - Pragya is at this point choosing the "None" "Neither" option - she chose option A before ('cos of circumstances) but not anymore, she is not choosing option B now so that leaves her with "none" also.

Originally posted by: -Tia-

Option B is not unheard or impossible though. The child if it is born can be with either Tannu or Abhi. Abhi will have responsibilities of that all his life. He doesn't have to do anything really with Tannu other than making decisions for the child at times.

It's like marrying a man who is divorced/has a child already from a previous relationship. Many people deal with that. Not as bad really. Not at all as bad as option A.

Tia, I edited my initial response. Pragya is not choosing A or B so she is also going with "none".

A divorced man would be different, you go into the relationship knowing of his past - this is different - this is a man who is married to you but has chosen another woman over you even if momentarily inspite of sharing what is deemed a sacred bond or at least a societal commitment with you.

Also, if Abhi has to have a relationship with the baby, Tanu as the mother will be ever present, she cannot be avoided, he cannot make decisions or co-parent in her absence or without having any contact with her. It will be a constant reminder to the wife that her husband is not only father to another woman's child but it is the same woman who had caused a disruption in their marriage from day one. How the wife could tolerate a scheming, clinging ex-girlfriend cum mother of her husband's child the likes of Tanu on a permanent basis is beyond me.