abhi mehra: worst husband and boyfriend

So! I love Abhi, and I totally root for AbhiGya, but today I am very unimpressed with our hero and I don't think he deserves to have any woman in his life!

Tanu may be a selfish, scheming person, and that's a reason for the audience and for Pragya and Bulbul and Indu Daasi to dislike her, but Abhi does not know this side of her. He ranted to her today about not being patient and understanding like Pragya, about not doing anything for him, about basically not being good enough for him.

Um, like, hello? Does he even realize what she's tolerated for his sake all these months? True he's not making her stay on as his girlfriend - that's her choice. But at least he should recognize all the constraints that are on this relationship they're both continuing - constraints from his side.

SOME REASONS WHY ABHI IS A TERRIBLE BOYFRIEND

• he married someone else
• he doesn't expect his family to respect his girlfriend - he expects her to put up with their insults
• he doesn't stand up for their relationship to his family
• he doesn't have a clear exit plan for his fake marriage and is stringing his girlfriend along
• he expects his girlfriend to make his life easy for him and not complain that he doesn't prioritize their relationship at all.

And surely there are other reasons - but this post is getting long so my list will stay at that.

And as for Abhi as terrible husband, well, that mostly goes without saying naa? It's true that Abhi doesn't want to be a husband and doesn't see himself as a husband. But does that mean we can completely excuse him from the responsibilities he incurred by agreeing to marry Pragya? I guess that's a matter of opinion - and my opinion is that today I don't want to excuse him.

SOME REASONS WHY ABHI IS A TERRIBLE HUSBAND

• he has a girlfriend
• he's easily manipulated by other people's opinions
• he wants to make everybody happy, which means he makes nobody happy
• he's not clear about limits, boundaries, expectations
• he expects utter devotion and fidelity from his wife while refusing to actually acknowledge her as his life partner

And ohhh, I could go on about this. But my purpose is just to vent my frustration, and I think I've outlined enough of that. Abhi is a good man deep inside, a devoted brother, a loving grandson, a fierce friend, and a dutiful and affectionate son-in-law. But DAMN BRO, he is so bad at his most intimate relationships. And I'm not happy with him today.

I know he's not perfect and he's not supposed to be. But we can still talk about his flaws, right?

MIna, I don't have any sympathy for Tanu, I think Abhi blames Taaliyah for the mess he is in and he did offer Tanu a proposal of marriage first.

That being said, no one knows about his girlfriend status other than his sister and Mitali in Mehra household. The rest have an inkling but they would never go against formal status of Abhigya marriage. So considering only the Aroras know and the villains know, she has been giving it as good as she gets too and more. I think I would have had sympathy if they had shown Tanu to be a good character.

Abhi has always been shown to be hard headed, egoistical, and the decision maker. He is dominant in the relationships he is in. His behavior today was proof of what he said to Tanu. Tanu forced this on him and Abhi doesn't like losing control or feeling caged, Either way this isn't going to end well.

As for terrible husband, considering the circumstances they came together, and what he did during the mms sandal, a very loose definition of a husband/good husband should be applied here 😆.

Also, Tanu is still in the picture so he can never be a good husband. He's very clear in his head about what he should feel.

His character was never all good, considering what he's done so far. Shabir has made such a character so likeable so kudos to him for such a great performance!

Shabir makes the character likable - the writers make him infuriating. 😆

A good adulterer? Lol. No. He's not good to Tanu in any way, though he may have been in the past. And of course he was never good to Pragya.

What's he good for? Nautanki, being a rockstar, damaadgiri, saving face in front of daadi...:P

Watched the scene again, because I wanted to hear him extol Pragya's virtues and the line about "anyone" can replace Tanu, "even Fuggy."

What stood out to me this time - his lines on "I could only come here because of her. She could've stopped me if she wanted to. You know what? She is understanding." and "She doesn't get angry with me, even if I get angry with her, because she understands that I'm upset."

Translations?

• "she's understanding" = she's ok with me having two women in my life, she doesn't object about you, it annoys me that you object about her
• "she doesn't get mad at me" = I don't have to deal with her emotions, I don't want to be bothered to deal with yours

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Abhi...you want something, you gotta give something too. Emotional support and understanding? Not like you give much of those to either woman.

yes abhi is a terrible husband but BF...i doubt...becos if he was teribble BF...he would have end his relationship with his bimbo gf after marriage...but no he was going ahead with the relationship...showering her with attention...allow her to assert her rights on him...even though he is a married man...and all those attention and rights should be shower on his wife...where does it make it seem has terrible BF...he is a idiot as a husband...he is terrible towards his wife...

I COMPLETELY AGREE WITH YOU MINA

the truth neither abhi is in love with tannu nor pragya...he is infatuated by tannu and habitual by pragya

Worst husband- pakka! That was his motive to be that way and never wanted to be a husband to Pragya.

Worst BF- he is better of the two in TaBhi relation. She does not respect his family, his career or anything associated with him. And she refused to marry him and he married Pragya on her insistence/consent too. But he has stayed loyal to Tannu ignoring his emotions for Pragya completely so far. He is better BF than a GF that Tannu is. But Abhi- Tannu are a wrong couple as we witnessed yesterday- a problem occured and blame game started. So there is something seriously wrong in that relation Pragya or no Pragya. It was evident even before. Now the testing time has come and this relationship won't stand because these two are not emotionally bound. And Tannu does not even deserve to be a GF to Abhi even if he is the worst BF.