Enigma or hypocrite? - Page 3

Originally posted by: -mina-

@bold i almost feel like abhi looks at pragya like a toy, a belonging; "oooh daadi brought me a biwi! let me play with her, let's see how far i can tease her, surely she won't break. oh wait, what, excuse me, why is my biwi-toy doing something i didn't expect???? haaye she is betraying me! doesn't she know no one else is allowed to touch her! she is my biwi!"

ok i know that's a bit much but something about his biwi biwi mantra yesterday really makes me think he sees pragya in this particular category...and it's an objectified one.

not to say that he doesn't have any normal appreciation with her. just that that's the predominant tone i'm getting during this track.

for the rest, i haven't seen the full ep yet. i truly hope he does not in his innermost thoughts think he loves tanu - that's one thing i don't want to believe. and in my opinion we haven't seen anything to definitively say they've been sleeping together after the wedding.

i actually quite like your thread title. my vote is for enigma rather than hypocrite. i like the spin that abhi's had all these secret unrecognized feelings for pragya but we hadn't seen it because it was hidden inside him. i mean now it's manifesting as gross possessiveness rather than genuine feelings, but i'm willing to believe there is something not-gross there. the beginnings of attachment and love - the very very beginnings.

and to circle back to my point...i don't think it's that he necessarily thinks mard does whatever/aurat stays pure. he's not upset at pragya's characterlessness - though he is throwing that at her - as much as the idea that she betrayed him by a) supposedly being involved by someone else b) behind his back. he's not taking kindly to the idea of sharing - let alone the idea of pragya being entitled to her own agency and her own satisfaction, however she might define it.

I agree, he considers Pragya a toy that can be poked and prodded at will, but she better be accepting of his every nastiness and god forbid, she deign to think of another man. He has pinned her, a square peg in as square hole and she dared not contemplate straying from his twisted perception of her.

Originally posted by: -mina-

he's not a grown man - he is an overgrown child.

Mina, I am hoping you will agree that it just might be an insult to the word "child" 😉

Originally posted by: soapwatcher1

Great posts all :)) the guy has a problem maybe some left over trauma from the past. He has risen from nothing so he has to blow up his own importance in an effort to erase the failures of the past? He is irrational, arrogant, persists under some silly MU that has had its rug pulled from under it a long time ago. He persists in insulting his wife's looks, attributes all kinds of evil intentions to her, all baseless, of course, yet expects her to put him on a pedestal and worship him, at least in public, in front of the daadis. Pragya has done this grudgingly before and happily now.
But Abhi's total blindness to his own faults - his mistake in marrying the wrong girl which he is now aware of, his own blatant affair with Tannu, his foul mouth that constantly talks of killing her and hating her - is what boggles my mind. How could any man be so unaware of his own behavior and not give it even one conscious or rational thought?

Originally posted by: soapwatcher1

Mina, I am hoping you will agree that it just might be an insult to the word "child" 😉

Fair enough! Child does not automatically mean "uncontrollable egomaniac" after all 😆

He is a self centered overgrown brat.

Honestly he is the largest hypocrite I have ever seen wen pragya asked him why does he care if sheven cheated cuz he does it with tanu his respnse was atleast he does it so tht she will knw what he's doing... I swear I wanted to kill myself when I heard tht

I don't know why we hesitate so much to label his behaviour as abusive. The physical abuse (dropping her when she was injured, poking her with a pin etc) in the beginning of their marriage and now his constant threats to kill her and his insane possessiveness and lack of acknowledgement of her agency - that's not just "nok-jhok" or "bratty", I would classify that as real abusive behaviour. I really don't want to see them together now, knowing that the CVs will never redeem his character or even acknowledge the magnitude of his actions.

Originally posted by: -mina-

Fair enough! Child does not automatically mean "uncontrollable egomaniac" after all 😆

Lol.

Originally posted by: Opti

He is a self centered overgrown brat.

Aptly summed up.

Originally posted by: putturani

I don't know why we hesitate so much to label his behaviour as abusive. The physical abuse (dropping her when she was injured, poking her with a pin etc) in the beginning of their marriage and now his constant threats to kill her and his insane possessiveness and lack of acknowledgement of her agency - that's not just "nok-jhok" or "bratty", I would classify that as real abusive behaviour. I really don't want to see them together now, knowing that the CVs will never redeem his character or even acknowledge the magnitude of his actions.

He is abusive, the CVs are afraid to go all the way so they have made him borderline abusive, physically, he doesn't hit her or belt her but he subjects her to verbal abuse every day. People when subjected to that kind reviling on a daily basis lose their confidence and begin to believe they are deserving of such treatment and this is probably what has happened to Pragya. She has turned from a confident woman to a mouse that cowers every time he threatens her. She has begun to believe he is right and she is wrong.