why so much hate against sarla?

First Previous

Page

Next Last

Frequent Posters

Shridevi Gaddam

@0-SD-0

Rocker

+ 2

Posted: 11 years ago

#11

I do not hate Sarla. Never had any issues with her in the story and dramatic results she gets. Infact I enjoy her scenes. They are some relief... I hate Pragya in this regard, because it is Pragya who makes us see her mother's flaws. If only Pragya knew how to live her life while managing her mommy.

Sarla, truly speaking, is not a mother to Pragya. Pragya is actually mothering Sarla and Bulbul. Pragya has more maternal instincts and she becomes sacrificial to take care of Sarla and Bulbul. Daughters can be understanding, but as children they have right to be selfish with parents and mothers. But Pragya never got this chance. She has been used too much by her mother which has made Pragya self-effacing and making decisions that always help her family.

I agree with Daadi Arora saying...Tune betiyon ko sambhaala hai, ya teri betiyon ne tujhe.

Sarla basically is protected by her BJi and Pragya. Pragya does not let Bulbul trouble Sarla.

Sarla does not make any intelligent decisions. That is why Pragya manages the Marriage Hall along with her mother and also gets other income through teaching. In the first episode, she was ready to write the marriage hall to Pragya's in-laws when pressured. How can this SINGLE WOMAN then take care of ANOTHER DAUGHTER Bulbul. Her brother saved her and that commotion made Pragya get up and break her own wedding.

Even the matter of taking medicines, it irks me to know that Sarla depends on Pragya for her medicines. She tells to Bulbul, tune yaad dilaayi thi, par Pragya ki tarah Haaton mein nahin rakhi thee. Now thats way too much. Even we have life style diseases and disorders. Is someone getting us medicines. We take our own tablets. My mother takes her own tablets. What is this IMMENSE DISPLAY OF LOVE by putting medicines in hands. (ofcourse same way I abhor all those scenes where women take care of the man in bed, giving him sponge bath and feeding him...CRAP)

So from a story point of view, I have a problem with character Sarla, as she is one reason why Pragya is so closed about her life wrapped in responsibilities. Now this relationship is directly taken from Sense and Sensibility as Eleanor has to manage her mother along with her sister.

Nothing wrong in calling a spade a spade, even if the Spade is a Sacred Cow Called Mother Sarla.

Inspite of all this, I can see Sarla as wanting the best for Pragya as P is self-effacing. That's where I like Sarla's pushiness. But like others said before, wish Sarla had pushed Pragya to enjoy life, smile more, laugh more and not pushed for a marriages that have permanently scarred her regardless of how much Pragya downplays the detriment on her psyche due to three unsuccessful marriage trials for her.

Edited by 0-SD-0 - 11 years ago

Quote

947708

Suspended

Posted: 11 years ago

#12

Poor sarla she is mom after all moms are like that hyper when it's daughter they want there kids to be good in life so why bash her.

Quote

Looks like you are new here. Register for free, learn and contribute.

Anusha.C

@Anusha.C

Navigator

Posted: 11 years ago

#13

I don't hate her but even I don't like her... Bcoz when Pragya refused to marry Abhi and came home she shouted on her and fainted, I agree she is a mother and worried abt her daughter but still bcoz of her only Pragya married Abhi and now also bcoz of her only she is bearing all torture...

Quote

Mahabhootni

@Mahabhootni

Navigator

Posted: 11 years ago

#14

A mother should be her daughter's strength not her weakness. If she could continue her life as a single mother surely Pragya could continue a single life comfortably until she finds someone she likes. She's attractive and educated, it was hardly as if she would have zero prospects in the future. There is so much fuss and tension over nothing that it gave Pragya a complex that being married was the most important thing in the planet. She was standing on her two feet firmly and now she's up in the air.

It's not her illness but the attitude towards life that she's teaching her daughter's that is the real issue

Edited by Mahabhootni - 11 years ago

Quote

-Nafisa-

@-Nafisa-

Stunner

+ 5

Posted: 11 years ago

#15

I hate her and love her.

I hate her because she's emotionally fragile and her health is precarious because of her neglecting her health (bp and weight problem, heart attack is because of that), she wants Pragya settled in her marriage and if they is a threat to that she will collapse as she can't handle these shocks anymore. This behaviour and her health situation (due to the family's neglect) is burdening Pragya and Bulbul to sacrifice for her, particularly Pragya she's being tortured and seeing so many things that she shouldn't have to tolerate if not for Sarla.

I love her because the CV's are showing the burden this behavior of hers is to her daughters so viewers at home can say "Mum that's you, you've neglected your health high blood pressure, weight issue and emotionally blackmailed your kids by collapsing" and perhaps talk about it and say when you did this I felt in the same way trapped. So it's like a way for people to see themselves in the character, some can say I don't have a mother like that, but others will say I know someone like that or I do have a mother like that, for those people this what we are seeing will be helpful for them in dealing with their respective mothers. I also love Sarla for being a cuddly jollie character, sometimes mothers can be strong disciplinarian but she's not that way she allows Bulbul some freedom to go music concert, stay at her friends house for birthday parties etc so If Pragya & Bulbul weren't suffering so she doesn't fall ill I would love her still.

Quote

rutu83

@rutu83

Dazzler

Posted: 11 years ago

#16

Originally posted by: -Martinski-
I get that! she has been fantastic but what i did not like is why do so much drama over getting her daughter married , like pragya is "highly educated" has a good job , after 3 broken rishta's when pragya said no to abhi she was all OMG omg and panicked i mean there was no reason for that ! going by her strength it would have been so much awesome'er if she encouraged pragya to stay single for a while !

but i know AbhiGya marriage had to happen and all that but yeah just saying!

I TOTALLY GET WHY PRAGYA AND BB ARE SO SACRIFICING FOR THEIR MUM ! CORRECT! but thats my only issue with sarla nothing else~

i think it has to do with indian middle class family expectations. girls are to be married- period. i'm not defending that stand, especially since i don't understand it. just that, that's how it is with that generation. those are the ideals sarlaji grew up with. those are the expectations of the society they are part of. and after 3 broken marriages when pragya said no to a "good" rishta- it pained her.

Quote

rutu83

@rutu83

Dazzler

Posted: 11 years ago

#17

Originally posted by: Lkb79
I think her emotional fragility is an odd characteristic given the background. It honestly makes little sense, and therefore, it's introduction to the story in order to induce her children to behave stupidly is offputting. Pragya lost a lot of her earlier characteristics in order to protect her mother in this present track. It appears BB will too. I also think her tendency to be extremely happy or extremely upset (with no in between) is ridiculous.

But I mostly express anger in jest. Do I really want her to die? Eh - whatever because I know she won't. I think it's just funny how she invokes extreme reactions.

actually, her emotional fragility when it concerns her daughters is very realistic. this is a woman whose whole life's work is her two daughters. she strong in front of the world and has spent her life protecting and caring for these two girls. having a daughter getting married and leaving is difficult for any parents. for sarlaji, this is magnified for various reasons.
@bold: that reaction is off putting - so a mother that feels too much could die and the reaction is eh-whatever? 🤔

Quote

rutu83

@rutu83

Dazzler

Posted: 11 years ago

#18

Originally posted by: SaaraDON
I agree with you...😛 She's a mother after all. Bound to be worried for her kids. That's what this relation is about. Actually more...but this bit is reality.

On the other hand, i also agree with -Martinski-. 'Shaadi nahi hui toh kya hoga' types of attitude annoys me too much 😆.

But Sarla should definitely not be hated. 😳

thank you 😊
while i understand the annoyance for that girls must get married attitude, i have seen this in many indian families.
no- she does not deserve the hate and hope-she-dies topics😒

Quote

rutu83

@rutu83

Dazzler

Posted: 11 years ago

#19

Originally posted by: -Tia-
I don't hate her at all. I just wish there was a way she understood her daughters' pain and she was not so fragile that daughters need to pretend in front of her. But no hate at all. She is a good soul.

@bold: THIS!
she's a good person. and a loving mother. so seeing topics on the forum wishing her to die are 🤢

Quote

rutu83

@rutu83

Dazzler

Posted: 11 years ago

#20

Originally posted by: renukha871
I do hate her. I do agree that she is a good mother who single-handedly brought up her kids. But somehow I can't stand her obsession over Abhi and Pragya's relationship. She's worse than a fangirl. If only she stops pestering Pragya and Abhi all the time asking if things are okay between them. There was a scene where even after Pragya confirmed that Abhi is fine, she wants to further check by talking to him. She had to hang up with no choice. And it annoys me that how she wants to get her kids married. She of all people should know that a woman can stand on her own. I kind of wanted her gone so that Pragya can finally stop fearing for her mother and finally get this MU cleared.

she pesters pragya and abhi because as a mother she can sense disturbance in her child's life. so you agree she's a good mother. and yet you hate her for being involved in her child's life and want her gone? 😲gone so that pragya can get the MU cleared? 😲😲 are you serious? pragya and bulbul don't have the wherewith to clear the MU on their own!😡 and the price should be their mother's life? neither abhi nor purab are worth sarlaji's life 😳
and let's say she dies and pragya clears the MU. then what? pragya and abhi will live happily ever after? what has abhi done so far that pragya would/should live with him after sarlaji dies? especially after sarlaji dies? MU clears - they go separate ways. bas.