Originally posted by: 0-SD-0
I do not hate Sarla. Never had any issues with her in the story and dramatic results she gets. Infact I enjoy her scenes. They are some relief... I hate Pragya in this regard, because it is Pragya who makes us see her mother's flaws. If only Pragya knew how to live her life while managing her mommy.
Sarla, truly speaking, is not a mother to Pragya. Pragya is actually mothering Sarla and Bulbul. Pragya has more maternal instincts and she becomes sacrificial to take care of Sarla and Bulbul. Daughters can be understanding, but as children they have right to be selfish with parents and mothers. But Pragya never got this chance. She has been used too much by her mother which has made Pragya self-effacing and making decisions that always help her family.
I agree with Daadi Arora saying...Tune betiyon ko sambhaala hai, ya teri betiyon ne tujhe.
Sarla basically is protected by her BJi and Pragya. Pragya does not let Bulbul trouble Sarla.
Sarla does not make any intelligent decisions. That is why Pragya manages the Marriage Hall along with her mother and also gets other income through teaching. In the first episode, she was ready to write the marriage hall to Pragya's in-laws when pressured. How can this SINGLE WOMAN then take care of ANOTHER DAUGHTER Bulbul. Her brother saved her and that commotion made Pragya get up and break her own wedding.
Even the matter of taking medicines, it irks me to know that Sarla depends on Pragya for her medicines. She tells to Bulbul, tune yaad dilaayi thi, par Pragya ki tarah Haaton mein nahin rakhi thee. Now thats way too much. Even we have life style diseases and disorders. Is someone getting us medicines. We take our own tablets. My mother takes her own tablets. What is this IMMENSE DISPLAY OF LOVE by putting medicines in hands. (ofcourse same way I abhor all those scenes where women take care of the man in bed, giving him sponge bath and feeding him...CRAP)
So from a story point of view, I have a problem with character Sarla, as she is one reason why Pragya is so closed about her life wrapped in responsibilities. Now this relationship is directly taken from Sense and Sensibility as Eleanor has to manage her mother along with her sister.
Nothing wrong in calling a spade a spade, even if the Spade is a Sacred Cow Called Mother Sarla.
Inspite of all this, I can see Sarla as wanting the best for Pragya as P is self-effacing. That's where I like Sarla's pushiness. But like others said before, wish Sarla had pushed Pragya to enjoy life, smile more, laugh more and not pushed for a marriages that have permanently scarred her regardless of how much Pragya downplays the detriment on her psyche due to three unsuccessful marriage trials for her.
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