Would a child make Ashu's lonliness go away?

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Would a child make Ashu's sense of lonliness go away?

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fanktlk

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Posted: 13 years ago

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We have all debated that with Nidhi's entry Ashu saw himself being the center of her world an her her unconditional acceptance of him and all his insecurities.

Nidhi's refusal for a child right then seemed like a rejection of a part of himself and his past and hence Ashu is feeling lonely. Also Nidhi is trying to create an identity away from him so his insecurity is heightened.

However if they have a child will Ashu's insecurity go away. When he sees Nidhi handle the child and like most men if he struggles with responsibilities won't he feel like an outsider in Nidhi's world of herself and her child.

Nidhi will get busy with the baby and Ashu will still be lonely.

If he is still lonely, then what is the solution?

I voted No... as i feel this fear needs to be dealt with. A child cannot address that issue. The problem is Ashu's internal demons and the solution cannot be external. Ashu needs to deal with it. A sense of security will increase once the child comes along, however the sense needs to preexist first.

Ashu needs to open himself up to heal only then can he be healed..

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Sujatha.rao

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Posted: 13 years ago

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Divya, you have not given us any other option other than Yes or No...I believe the answer lies somewhere in betweem..

The child is not the cure...but it could well trigger the process of cure...there is no denying that!

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deepa

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Posted: 13 years ago

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i feel more than the child itself ,it was d 2 yrs timeframe wich made ashu feel lonely...

it happens sometimes even a normal conversation can remind u of somethin very painful which u thought u forgot !

its not lonliness which is the problem i feel ... its more about being wanted !

ashu still isnt convinced that nidhi wants him truly and completely !

just my POV ...

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niniborn2rule

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Posted: 13 years ago

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i agree with u fanktlk...ashu needs to open up...and he can only do so in front of nidhi...nidhi will help him do so...

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fanktlk

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Posted: 13 years ago

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Originally posted by: Sujatha.rao
Divya, you have not given us any other option other than Yes or No...I believe the answer lies somewhere in betweem..

The child is not the cure...but it could well trigger the process of cure...there is no denying that!

I know 😃 and that was intentional.. I think most of us seek happiness outside and yet it lies within us... I personally think Ashu's answer to his loneliness is within himself...

Just wanted to see how many agree with me... thereby a yes/no question 😉

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mudraswathi

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Posted: 13 years ago

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I want a third option ...anyother...

because, more than the loneliness, he wanted to see someone his own, through his beloved wife Nidhi... the child whom he will never leave... provide all moral / emotional support which he was deprived of...he would proudly give his name ..etc..

for the ones who have all, these may sound silly... but, to a person like Ashutosh, these are very precious..

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Krrish4You

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Posted: 13 years ago

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Ashu's lonliness went away when nidhi came into his life & also when bb came back.. Bt to make his family 'picture perfect' he needs a child... I wudn't call it as lonliness which u are terming ashu currently..

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tanu

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Posted: 13 years ago

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Very refreshing take ... i like it 👏

Me voted for NO

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sun29

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Posted: 13 years ago

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as someone had pointed out earlier...a child not only means a family,his own flesh and blood but it is also the unbreakable bond between him and nidhi...he is still insecure ...whenever nidhi chooses anythingover him he feels threatened...it happened during that one laksh shopping time when nidhi was not home..ashu had said to himself that nidhi is soo busy with her friends that she does not miss him ,nor remembers him...the same happened in mallika track when nidhi walked out of the house at night...ashu said let her go she has others who are hers in this city something to that affect and now when she chose her career he feels she chose it over him hence he once again feels threatened of being rejected and left alone...his thought process is extreme ...

he does not want any child ...he wants his and nidhi's child...it may not be a solution to his loneliness... because once nidhi gives her undivided attention to the child he will again feel threatened...

yesterday what he said was more out of hurt rather than any feeling of loneliness and the demons that are within him he has to fight it...it will not go away soo easily...and only he can make a difference if he values the people around him...

Edited by sun29 - 13 years ago

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BayofSarcasm

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Posted: 13 years ago

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Not sure, as I feel a child is not a solution or cure to any insecurity.A child certainly is a bonding factor. Ashu's insecurity needs to be dealt with independantly, not with a child.

He first needs to let Nidhi into that dark space and let her help him heal. Tomorrow, if his child is not a replica of him or is closer to the mother, his insecurities will surface. More than Nidhi, I think Ashu needs time to strengthen his relationship with Nidhi.

Edited by waves - 13 years ago

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