Kuch Rang Pyar Ke Aise Bhi 3 Written Updates 20 Aug 2021 - Page 6

Originally posted by: them2d

What a perfect analysis. No matter what he says about his mother being his dil or dhadkan or whatever, Dev needs Sona like he needs to breathe. He is incredibly dismissive of her this season, she is the wind that gives him flight. It's jarringly evident how bothered he is when around, he gets restless and uneasy. In season 1 when she was angry at him, he couldn't function till he ensured she accepted that phone (and his apology), similarly this season when she is upset and leaves to her father's house, he simply has to go fetch her that same night. It wasn't for the kids, the kids had already been put to bed, he just has to bring her back- there's no reason, he just has to.

You put it so well when you said he isn't himself without her. When you follow from season 1, you see a hopeful man grow in love. This season, we just see a weak man with mommy issues beyond measure.

Absolutely. He cannot take it, when things are not normal with Sonakshi. In S1, he couldn't take it if she was mad at him, upset at him, unhappy with him. Whatever. He couldn't function, would get really restless, anxious, trying to fix whatever it is. That phone episode was quite telling. They weren't even friends at that time.. I always have believed, he was in love with her much before she fell for him. He just realized it later.

In this season, they have shown him to be dismissive of her, but as you pointed out, he couldn't take it that she was at her father's house and had to get her back right away. He lost his temper and threw a tantrum by sleeping in the garden, but he hasn't had a moment's peace or a wink of sleep. He is desperate to get back to her and it shows.

I agree with your last line that the S1 man falling so deeply and completely in love is different from this S3 man.

He had reached a place of complacency aa regards Sona in this season . He thought with 3 kids together, she isn't going anywhere . But her walking out on him has sent him into a tizzy . And maa beta anyway have victim complex . So he's now victimising himself

Reality in marriage, love changes after some years of marriage even if they have had happy marriage, especially the troubled one between Dev-Sona. Out of 10 yrs 7 in separation & couple of yrs with issues. Dev’s love for Sona is like selective, seasonal. As long as she agrees to him & sati Savitri Maate all is hunky dory.

I have seen in real life where a person was seen-thought be so much in love with the spouse, they both were seen as madly in love, than 1 incident can change that love drastically into uncaring, indifferent, to the other person’s feelings, views. They close up & shut down. Would not let the other one in.

Dev has no regards to Sona, her views, opinions, feelings. As Tamanna2391 mentioned in abv post, Dev has become complacent towards Sona & their marriage.

In marriage one can’t be the emotional support to the other. Than it becomes lopsided, one sided & a burden (dead weight) for one to carry forward. Balance is extremely important.

I truly do NOT believe love remains same after troubled 10 yrs of relationship. Let’s wait & see what CVS come up with next.

I am so done with Ishvari’s meddling & Ayush-Suhana track 😡

Originally posted by: CottonWorld

Thanks for the summary. Dev has always been like this then.... indecisive.

He is not indecisive. For him, there's nothing to decide. Maa said this so this is right. Undoubtedly. That's how he "decides" on stuffs.

It's just....he has somehow developed a strong obsession (yes, I think he is just obsessed with her. Not really in "love"!) over Sonakshi & he wants to have her with him all the time. But, he wouldn't put any effort to keep her with him. I think Dev really doesn't understand love or committed relationship like Marriage. For him, like his mother gets to have everything she demands from him, he should also get everything he demands from Sonakshi.

In season 1, when he first started dating her or then again when married her (in between he dumped her very unceremoniously indirectly saying she doesn't matter to him) he was very firm on the point that he has "rights" on her.

"Pyaar haq deta hai Miss Bose. Mera tumpe haq hai"

"Meri Biwi pe haq jata raha hu"

Etc etc

But he never mentioned having any responsibility towards her or she also having "haq" on him. It was always, tum nahi samjhogi or mere ghar ke matter se dur raho.

Even when he went to apologise to her after dumping her (both times), he never properly said I have hurt you I shouldn't have done that I am so sorry .... Nope. Nothing like that. When Sonakshi pointed out that she cannot forgive him because he has hurt her, his response was "toh main bhi toh khush nahi tha na?".... So that nullifies everything.🤪

So you get the picture.... He is fixated on her. He cannot let her go but cannot bother with treating her well either! My guess is he probably doesn't even realise that he is ill-treating her. He thinks wives are to be treated like this only. That's why he hates Bijoy who shows him the mirror & gets mad at Sonakshi everytime she brings up how she is treated in his home. He thinks the father -daughter duo are overreacting or wanting something that they are not worth!

Originally posted by: Hari73

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Dev looks stoned, uninteresting most of the time...how can anyone get infatuated with this person in this season?! Unless this is one of the girls he already knows...or maybe she knows him.

Originally posted by: NotAMuggle

He is not indecisive. For him, there's nothing to decide. Maa said this so this is right. Undoubtedly. That's how he "decides" on stuffs.

It's just....he has somehow developed a strong obsession (yes, I think he is just obsessed with her. Not really in "love"!) over Sonakshi & he wants to have her with him all the time. But, he wouldn't put any effort to keep her with him. I think Dev really doesn't understand love or committed relationship like Marriage. For him, like his mother gets to have everything she demands from him, he should also get everything he demands from Sonakshi.

In season 1, when he first started dating her or then again when married her (in between he dumped her very unceremoniously indirectly saying she doesn't matter to him) he was very firm on the point that he has "rights" on her.

"Pyaar haq deta hai Miss Bose. Mera tumpe haq hai"

"Meri Biwi pe haq jata raha hu"

Etc etc

But he never mentioned having any responsibility towards her or she also having "haq" on him. It was always, tum nahi samjhogi or mere ghar ke matter se dur raho.

Even when he went to apologise to her after dumping her (both times), he never properly said I have hurt you I shouldn't have done that I am so sorry .... Nope. Nothing like that. When Sonakshi pointed out that she cannot forgive him because he has hurt her, his response was "toh main bhi toh khush nahi tha na?".... So that nullifies everything.🤪

So you get the picture.... He is fixated on her. He cannot let her go but cannot bother with treating her well either! My guess is he probably doesn't even realise that he is ill-treating her. He thinks wives are to be treated like this only. That's why he hates Bijoy who shows him the mirror & gets mad at Sonakshi everytime she brings up how she is treated in his home. He thinks the father -daughter duo are overreacting or wanting something that they are not worth!

Could be. He seems to be ignorant and lack knowledge about the relationship between a wife and husband... except for the physical needs part lol

I don't know how to put this . But Dev's understanding of roles of his wife and mom are entirely skewed . He's pampering Ishwari all the time, fulfilling her demandd and wants Sona's undivided attention , care and mothering . Dev really is too emotionally handicap to handle a marriage and now kids . Especially for Sona , who has a mind of her own, this marriage is gonna be slow poison .

I think subconsciously even Sona realises their marriage is extremely dysfunctional and she's not happy but now she has 3 kids in the mix .

Originally posted by: CottonWorld

Thanks for the summary. Dev has always been like this then.... indecisive.

Not indecisive. His issue is that he takes short-term decisions, temporary fixes for a big problem. He does this mainly for his personal issues, not work.

Originally posted by: tamanna2391

He had reached a place of complacency aa regards Sona in this season . He thought with 3 kids together, she isn't going anywhere . But her walking out on him has sent him into a tizzy . And maa beta anyway have victim complex . So he's now victimising himself

This sleeping in the garden is definitely Dev tapping his victim complex. All she asked was, what is your justification for supporting your mother in this.

Originally posted by: NotAMuggle

He is not indecisive. For him, there's nothing to decide. Maa said this so this is right. Undoubtedly. That's how he "decides" on stuffs.

It's just....he has somehow developed a strong obsession (yes, I think he is just obsessed with her. Not really in "love"!) over Sonakshi & he wants to have her with him all the time. But, he wouldn't put any effort to keep her with him. I think Dev really doesn't understand love or committed relationship like Marriage. For him, like his mother gets to have everything she demands from him, he should also get everything he demands from Sonakshi.

In season 1, when he first started dating her or then again when married her (in between he dumped her very unceremoniously indirectly saying she doesn't matter to him) he was very firm on the point that he has "rights" on her.

"Pyaar haq deta hai Miss Bose. Mera tumpe haq hai"

"Meri Biwi pe haq jata raha hu"

Etc etc

But he never mentioned having any responsibility towards her or she also having "haq" on him. It was always, tum nahi samjhogi or mere ghar ke matter se dur raho.

Even when he went to apologise to her after dumping her (both times), he never properly said I have hurt you I shouldn't have done that I am so sorry .... Nope. Nothing like that. When Sonakshi pointed out that she cannot forgive him because he has hurt her, his response was "toh main bhi toh khush nahi tha na?".... So that nullifies everything.🤪

So you get the picture.... He is fixated on her. He cannot let her go but cannot bother with treating her well either! My guess is he probably doesn't even realise that he is ill-treating her. He thinks wives are to be treated like this only. That's why he hates Bijoy who shows him the mirror & gets mad at Sonakshi everytime she brings up how she is treated in his home. He thinks the father -daughter duo are overreacting or wanting something that they are not worth!

I think he has been mentally conditioned to accept what his mother says, and even if he knows its totally wrong, it's very hard to come right out and confront her with it. I know this happens, as I know someone going through this personally.

He has treated Sona poorly every time his mother had twisted his arms. Taking Ishwari out of the equation, things have been just fine for them. This is why I hate how they have reversed character development for Dev this season. Took so long to get there and poof, erased it all just like that.

Dev-Sona relationship will work properly if they lived separately. When post-leap, Dev wasn't very close to his mother, Dev-Sona were working together much better. They should just get a separate apartment, move with their kids and things will go far more smoothly.