*Season 2, Week 25* Analysis Thread - Page 4

Originally posted by: malikakas

Exactly how I feel! I don't have any issues with Dev apologizing either but I feel like we are going back to the old dynamic where Dev is responsible for the emotions of everyone around him without anyone having any responsibility towards him. But this time instead of it being Ishwari who guilt trips him, its Sona.

Even I dont have problem with Dev apologies ..Its fine ..if emotionally he feels he has hurt someone knowingly unknowingly then its okay to say sorry..its not gonna make him less in any way..yes This time places have been swapped its Sonakshi now..what I am sad about is..Let Dev put his opinion too during their conversation..He need not agree to her instantly or not agree to her at all..and its okay and normal.. he said absolutely nothing ..just straight agreed to what she explained him..let him place his feeling out in front of him and now I can see what u r saying ..He never kept his point of view during his conversations with Ishwari..Now it happening with Sonakshi (atleast today that happened)..It was like he was waiting for Sonakshi to push him..Every time this doesnt work..Let him sort out his equation with his mothr in his way..what and how much thier relation has changed and under what circumstances ..Sonakshi has no idea about it at all..how can few words from her make things more then normal between Dev Ishwari..why not let Dev move according to his own feelings emotions

And I'd like to point out the contradiction in Sona's actions and words. She's telling Dev about how hard it must be for a parent to be away from their child and that Dev did wrong to Ishwari. Yet she was the one who allowed Soha to decide to not meet her dad. If Dev should be made to feel wrong, then why did Sona not make Soha realize she was wrong to say 'no' to meeting her father? This is why I don't buy into the magnanimity of the character.

As Ishwari's guilt about spoiling Dev's Sonakshi's relationship makes her react ..Sonakshi's guilt regarding Dev Ishwari's relationship is making her act like so sighh..Her whole sole agenda is to make things better for this family by re bonding them..If this cant be Dev's decision then how it be Soha's ..Right..

Sona spent her entire marriage accusing Dev of being a mama's boy but now that he's developed some distance from his mother, she's making him feel guilty for not continuing that dynamic? I think for anyone that would be confusing. But for someone like Dev, who is already struggling with his sense of self, it would be actually detrimental.

See I feel Sona's problem was not that Dev was close to his mothr ..she never objected that very directly..she did called him mam;s boy and all..but vocally she never showed any jealousy regarding their relationship..She never wanted him to distance himself from Ishwari..that was not her agenda ever..and Now when she sees that how their relationship their bond has suffered over these 7 years..she feels bad and guilty and I personally could understand her concern or sadness..she can see the strained relationship..which once upon a time was a beautiful and deep one..How strongly they were dependent on each other emotionally.. now their is a unseen distance between them..and she is not happy with that..though I have different issues with Soankshi here..will talk about them later sighh

I think somewhere along the way, they need to validate Dev's right to emotions too.

Oh true..thats the thing


No offense My POV

Originally posted by: Samanalyse

@Malika: I am glad you raised these points because it's something I've been thinking about. I am really happy with this Devakshi as well, especially the fact that they are both very much in character but allowing those old traits to complement one another instead of pitting them against each other, which is what happened when they were married. The lack of support from their families made each of them go further into their own default modes -- Dev wanted to crawl into a shell where it was only him and Sona, and Sona wanted to appease everyone who was unhappy -- and they lost the ability to meet halfway and help each other with their respective weaknesses. That is what I feel has changed.

Sona in fix-it mode is the Sona that Dev fell in love with. He likes that she meddles in his life, and in his family's to make things better, and the fact that he could trust her with his mother was a huge step towards love for Dev, initially. She made him aware of what he was missing with his mother and sisters in S1, and it made him want to have those relationships with them. As he said in his first confession, she makes him want to be a better person. That's the lens through which I am viewing this track now. As Dev himself said, he didn't realise until he met Riya how much he had missed her. So deep down, he does feel the void his sisters left and that would remain a secret regret of his all of his life. What Sona did was make him aware of that gap so that he would feel the impetus to fill it. And as I said in a recent post, she knew this was important because she just went through it with him herself. He would never have sought her out if she hadn't come to Delhi, but when she did, she found out how much he had missed her, and remembered what an amazing thing it was to be loved by him.

What is different about fix-it Sona now, though, is that she is an enabler and not a micromanager. She preps Dev for situations that she knows are going to be difficult for him, and convinces him that it's not worth missing a potential life's worth of happiness just to avoid a difficult confrontation. She's there on the sidelines, ready to swoop in if things get out of hand (as she did when Dev was at Nikki's) but she is not trying to do things on her own anymore. Once the meeting with Nikki failed miserably, she didn't make him feel incapable because he messed up once, but sent him to Riya's house on his own with the message that she believed in him. Once he came back and told her what happened, she told him how special and strong he was for doing something that was so hard for him. Even today, she reiterated that whatever was to be done about Nikki's situation, they would do it together.

Basically, she is passing on her strength to him. We all complain that she doesn't feel guilty enough, and I think that is because she is so proactive in her decision-making (paanch minute and all). She makes bold decisions with the information she has on hand, and she doesn't look back. The remarriage track was an example of how that could go terribly wrong in the extreme and at that time, Dev had to share his strength of owning his feelings with her. But the flipside is that Sona sees Dev's guilt/regret and instead of letting him be, tries to push him towards solutions. Dev said he hadn't given up on his sisters, he was just scared they had given up on him. The longer he waited to make a move, the harder it would be to eventually reunite and the greater his guilt would be if something were to happen to one of them and he wasn't there to help.

In short, Sona's fix-it mode is working for me this time around because she isn't rushing into things like a bull in a china shop, without talking to Dev first. This time, she is measuring each step carefully and doing her best not to rush Dev into something he isn't ready for, but at the same time helping him identify the gaps that he can feel but not see.

Originally posted by: LiveLife321

What an amazing milestone episode. Even though there is no head and tail but still it gave me clarify on certain queries like why only dev should feel sorry? In any relationship we see equal responsibilities and rights for both partners since our KRPKAB is unique, we have special kind of relationships in Dev's life. What ever relationships he holds in his life, all responsibilities belongs to him and all rights belongs to the party. What a unique relationships, completely out of the world. At the end of the episode, I only left with one thought that Why these two got separated when everything was so perfect between masoom maa and bechara pati as per our mahaan FL? If everything was so perfect then why he got so many taunts and went through so much name calling like mumma's boy, spineless, loser, good for nothing, undeserving of love etc.

When I was searching for my own answers, my son came up with his question, Mummy is dev Sona again got married? When I asked him why? He said I am asking just like that since when ever I am seeing dev is either feeling bad or sad or crying so I thought they again got married.🤣 🤣 🤣