We blame each other more than we understand each other - Page 3

Originally posted by: WeRockTheWorld

A lovely dialogue by Dev Dixit to Sonakshi Bose...and we feel they dont deserve each other...and they dont love each other!!

When things dont go in our favour , we tend to be ruthless in words and deeds with ppl whom we love the most . That is so true. A toddler crying loud and not stopping even after his /her parents trying to do everything to calm him /her...and they would then end up saying ..why would you want to cry and trouble us like this..Blame game ??
After a hard days work at office husband/wife when they reach home sees a slightly messed up front room blames the spouse saying . 'what were doing the whole day ...look at the front room its so messy"
When something really messes up in our life...we look at god and say...you are the supreme power...you knew everything then why did this happen to me or how could you let this happen to me!!

Why is that why always blame the person whom we love the most ?? Why is the we tend to point fingers at the person we trust and love the most for all the misfortunes when know deep down in us that they are not the reason??

I think its because when we love a person, we trust them , we expect them to understand us and accept us ...above all we expect them to protect us , guide us and stand up for us to solve our problems.

In reality its not possible that we understand the situation of our loved ones everytime ...mostly because of miscommunication ...and that might lead to situation were in we will not be able to solve problems of our loved ones or even stand up for them...

This is when we need to give time and try to understand the situation before we impulsively blame our loved ones for a misfortune that happened to us..during a difficult situation our thought process gets confused and we end up blurting out words or end up doing something that will lead to hurting our loved one...

I am glad Dev did say that they dont spend time trying to understand each other.

PS : I love the way CVs are making them talk abt the past and mistakes one by one ...slowly and steadily... not in one shot with some over the top drama..Lovely precap...So we have the to do list...they should have had this early ...I am sure things would have been way better...lol...yeah but at Dixit house one more list will be there ...Ishwari ka issue list for Dev abt Sonakshi !! I am sure that list is going to suprise him !! ROFL...

Originally posted by: randomramblings

it is too early to judge elena's character. coming to slap gate incident, i dont think elena had to involved in anyway. it might be her MIL who called her mesho names, at the same time her mesho also gave back equally to GKB. matter ends there, it was all about two warring elders.

It was Dev who slapped his FIL, again elena does not need to get involved as it is her uncle and not her dad unlike for Sona. We need to know the difference and understand the importance of each relationship before we start fighting for the rights or wrongs. Vicky and Elena are spouses, if the mistake was done by any of them, then yes they had to argue and fight. for third party things, they don't need to be at loggerheads, this is precisely why dev and sona's marriage failed. they gave priority to people around them ( i am blaming both here) instead of their own relationship.

coming to vicky throwing away boses out of their house, every one including Dev himself believed that he was responsible, there is no way elena could suspect it was a vicky and not dev behind the deed.

why she did not stand by boses-- biggest question, what help were the boses expecting from her? did they even contact her or did they brand her as another dixit. ?

If we see the series of incidents before the final showdown, we dont get to see sona talking to elena or vice versa when she left dev and started staying with boses before she arranged for the money . When people shut you off there is no way you can barge into their lives.

this is the major complaint i have about sona, she was in crisis, her father was humiliated, no denying that , yet there was no reason why she had to completely shut out dev from her life. Earning your fathers respect, and saving your relationship with your spouse are two separate entities. each have a place of their own.

Dev tired ample times to reach out to her, she could conveyed that she would not like to return until she restores her father's image. instead of having a word, she chose to shut off . When egos flare people get blinded. this is what happened with sona, shutting out only adds to more problems.

This is precisely what Asha is teaching her, blunders do happen in every relationship. WE hold on to them inspite of all flaws because we value them, the minute the value of it diminishes, it tends to snap.

Originally posted by: rock&roll

Very good post..I just saw yesterday's eppy and Dev;s line really tugged at my heart.I log in and see ur post in it..Wow👏👏..@ bold very well said

Relationships get complicated most of the people because of high expectations and miscommunication.And as human beings,we are ready to blame and slow to forget and forgive.Dev was also very right when he said "Agar kisi ko blame karna hai to is rishte ko blame karo"

That is so true.I think the most complicated relationships in life are those of husband and wife and mil and dil(or fil and sil).Its a touchy complicated and long term relationship where each person is quick to take offense but slow to forgive,quick to recognize faults but slow to give credit.That is precisely what has happened with Sona and Dev too

Originally posted by: SecretSuperstar

maam considering the circumstances at that time it is very difficult for sona to involve dev in this

i certainly believe had dev gone to bose house at that time only then entire situation would have been completely opposite

but if this had happened it would have been nearly impossible to show the bitter seperation

Originally posted by: WeRockTheWorld

Dev did go to Bose house to ask for forgiveness but Bijoy kicked him out ...and here also Sonakshi didn't intervene ...this is something that I don't understand about Sonakshi and Dev...when ever their side of the family does something wrong they never try to control them...in reality most husband and wife will try to control their side of the family to avoid major fights..

PS :@randomramblingsEarning your fathers respect, and saving your relationship with your spouse are two separate entities. each have a place of their own. Beautifully said!!

Originally posted by: WeRockTheWorld