Tia's Thread - The Casualties of Games!!! - Page 9

Originally posted by: aishwa04

i have a similar situation like you

Every where its the same story.


I guess parents do lot of sacrifices for their kids. They can go to any extent to give a normal n happy life to their kids.


In that case , in Kuch Rang... they r showing the right thing. I dont know..

Anywz thanks for sharing ur cousin's story.

Originally posted by: Tia.0

PRECAP: All the Bose family member including Jatin is standing in the living room. Bijoy is holding the red bag Ronita's mother dropped. He says that he didn't know that a thief is staying at their house. He points at Dev and says he stole Ronita's jewellery. He got his daughter married to a thief.

Dev is gritting his teeth.

Bijoy opens the bag and takes out Ronita's jewellery.

Sonakshi is looking at Dev and Soha is watching from the stairs with tears in her eyes.

Me: How heartbreaking it is when someone is innocent yet is called a thief.

How heartbreaking it is when a daughter watches fingers pointing at her father calling him names no daughter wants to hear about her father.

How heartbreaking it is to face accusations that you have no defence of your own and have to wait for someone to prove you right.

Sonakshi faced it. Today Soha is facing it.

The difference is that when Dev erupts like Bijoy did and I bet you he will, no one will tell him that he is making mountain of a molehill and no one will accidentally slap him and expect him to forget and move on.

Because he is the business tycoon Dev Dixit. He is not just a hapless middle class father of a married daughter.

But I am glad CVs are recycling the script. Some offences only gets forgiveness when justice is delivered word for word. So may be now Bijoy can move on from the deep rooted anger being called a thief. May be now he can forget the slap which everyone but him forgot.

May be now, he will finally have peace.

So Bhaiya, when he calls you thief. Please take your advice and don't make mountain of a molehill. After all, what's the big deal? Be the father you expected Bijoy to be.

Very well said, Tia. If there is one thing that comes out of the Dev at Boses track, I wanted it for Dev to find the heart to apologise to Bijoy. I hope the precap paves the way for that.

Originally posted by: Tia.0

Nabni, very sorry to hear what your sister went through. And I can tell you honestly, I understand where you are standing right now. Because I have been there.

You see, my brother-in-law's ex-wife cheated on him with one of his friends. But he thought about his children and forgave her.

My brother-in-law is the nicest person I know. Even my husband isn't as nice as him. My husband only cares about very selective few like his wife, family and close friends for whom he can kill and die. But he is not generous with everyone. My brother-in-law is generous with everyone. You need help, you call him first and he will be there.

So you can understand how I felt when I heard that my then sister-in-law cheated on him. She was never rude to me. She actually liked me even though she hated my parents-in-laws for some reason even though they were super nice to her.

Anyhoo, I could not find in me to be as chummy with her as before because I follow a strict sense of fairness and justice. Everything has to be just and fair for me. I can't live with unfairness.

In my mind, I can't like someone I don't respect. When I like someone or love someone, respect comes free with it. In fact I respect them that's why I like or love them. But if they lose my respect, I can't bring back the same feelings as before. I become polite, but cool with those people.

But I tried. I tried to be happy with whatever my brother-in-law decided and maintained polite behaviour. I just couldn't be the same with her.

She asked me one day, why I changed my behaviour to her when her husband forgave her?

I said that she lost my respect. And I can't give that same respect back for free again. So now it's her turn. If she cares enough to want to get my previous attitude back, then this time she will have to earn it by being the best wife to my brother-in-law and the best mother to her children.

When I see her consistent efforts for a prolonged duration, I will forgive her.

Later they got divorced because she risked her children's life so she never earned my respect back. But I am a very straightforward person. I don't lie and I don't talk behind people's back. What I say, I say in front of their face. But that's me. My family (both in-laws and own family) know and love me for it. You don't have to take my way at all.

So trust me when I say that I can understand your struggles to try to be nice and polite to someone whom you no longer respect.

But all I will say is that keep a polite front and don't be rude for your sister's sake. She needs you now more than ever and observe quietly.

If he indeed change and makes your sister happy, may be when enough time has passed he can earn back his respect and position in your eyes.

But if he hasn't changed and your sister needs you to be there for her, don't close that channel of support by making her feel that she lost your respect too by compromising for whatever reason. 😊

I hope I didn't sound too preachy. Of course you will do what you want. I just wanted to tell you what I did in similar situation.

Thanks for ur reply Tia.

You r just like me.I mean v think in the same manner.

My jiju was my ideal. For me n my brother,he was the most intelligent person from whom v can take advice any time for anything. As he is a dual MBA graduate from reputed mgt institutes,v had high regards for him.

Now i dont hv that respect for him,but i dont misbehave also. He is a good father i agree. My nephew is such happy smart kid. I know my sis has also accepted the situation.They r happy in their life. what else v can ask for.

U know my mom told me that everyone does mistakes in life. That doesnt mean that v will throw them out of our lives. i wonder if i had done that mistake, forget about in-laws,my own parents would have accepted me or not. Thats the answer i want from my mom. I am sure my own parents will throw me out of the house.

Originally posted by: jigsaw1234

Very well said, Tia. If there is one thing that comes out of the Dev at Boses track, I wanted it for Dev to find the heart to apologise to Bijoy. I hope the precap paves the way for that.

i love jatin n sona scene a lot <3

Lovely update, Tia. I just hope Jatin doesn't become the casualty of this game. I still feel bad for Ritwik. I don't want a repeat of that. So sincerely hope, NO Jatin-Sona marriage reaching upto mandap stage and then Sona realizing her love for Dev runs to him! I don't want Jatin to get hurt. Let CVs show him as a friend only. I wish Sona had another sister though! 😃 And after a 10years leap, it would have been interesting to see how the three sisters fared in their marriages. I am sure the one married to Jatin would have been the happiest. 😊

@jasw-- Jatin is no Ritwick. He is family for them, that is why sona had no problem in blatantly saying no to marriage.

And even I want the best girl for Jatin!

Originally posted by: jasw

Lovely update, Tia. I just hope Jatin doesn't become the casualty of this game. I still feel bad for Ritwik. I don't want a repeat of that. So sincerely hope, NO Jatin-Sona marriage reaching upto mandap stage and then Sona realizing her love for Dev runs to him! I don't want Jatin to get hurt. Let CVs show him as a friend only. I wish Sona had another sister though! 😃 And after a 10years leap, it would have been interesting to see how the three sisters fared in their marriages. I am sure the one married to Jatin would have been the happiest. 😊